racist?

[NongreasySweatproof]

You're entitled to your opinion, and I am to mine. To ME, thinner, "Asian" eyes are extremely sexy and masculine looking, and even on non-Mongolian people, I tend to be attracted to the ones with more "Asian-looking" eyes (for men. On women, for some reason I tend to find rounder eyes to be more sexy). I just wanted to put in a good word for this trait, because it's the one that people pick on the most when they say they don't like the way Asians look. It's attractive to MANY people. Just not to you.

Our eyes aren't really slanty, if you bother to look carefully. There's a flap of skin, called the epicanthic fold, that Northeast Asians have evolved as an adaptation to the cold. Underneath that flap is an extra layer of fat, for insulation. And underneath that flap, all human eyes are spherical. Also, not all Asians have this trait, and certain non-Asians also have it (like a small number of Celtic people). The further west and south you go in Asia, the warmer the climate gets, and the less likely people are to have this feature.

 

[3nipples]

I think a lot of this has more to do with how we're wired to recognize facial features in others than any active discrimination on our parts.

It's just that we're less able to recognize "pleasing" features in those people whose traits are different than what we are used to.

From numerous trips to asia over the years I have added to my repertoire and find more asian guys (and there is a wide vaiety in that single word) attractive than before.

Funny thing is that when I'm in an asian country, I have a tendancy to find my fellow white tourists unattractive.

 

[SimonSeven]

I don't know if I would use the word "racist" mabye thats a bit harsh...but I can't imagine not finding someone attractive based soley on their race...I have seen tons of people of all races who are hot hot hot!! So racist may not be the right word in this situation...but it is a type of racism. Just my opinion..don't shoot me for it..lol!

 

[jockboy01]

For the record... I am attracted to asians. I just used it as an example.

 

[leshe]

Its realy very simple, it all depends on your reasons for not wanting to be with a different race, If you dont want to do back because u think they are generally unclean or u dont want to do white men because you think they are smelly then thats bullshit racism, its all in your head and we the pple dont ned to hear about it, if howeve its just a matter of findind the black skin or whatever physical features that black men generally possess more sexually exciting due to whatever experience or psychological notion you hold arond that issue then thats just a matter of taste and its fine, some pple will always prefer bananas to pears and viceversa, t dot make nobody guilty of nothing, motive pple, motive is the determinant.

 

[SizzlingStar07]

So, if I said that women do nothing for me sexually that means I find woman unattractive? Come on, bud, I know you're smarter than that.

This is an awkward statement. The topic is talking about race, but talking about being sexually attractived to women or not is different. Gender and race are completely different. The mere fact that someone's a woman would definitely NOT arouse a gay man.

 

[jockboy01]

true martin19uba. (and here I thought this thread was dead a while ago)

 

[GayBoyKellyCfan]

I'm not really attraced to any other race. there's just no chemistry, with me and other races. 'cause i'm so involved in the gay community, i don't really take tome to learn about race. Ie slavery, or Russian wars or stuff liek that. my friends agree with me on that. So there's no problem there. They do think it's weird that I only like fresh clean cut guys, Tattoos and peircing are iffy for me. But I do have 2 peircings and 3 tattos. haha I'm weird like that. It's the other way around with body hair aswell, I hate it on me, but love it on my men. Lol

 

[Oden_grey]

Sorry to answer with a question but;

If you're gay, and not attracted to women, does that make you sexist?

That question does NOT quite parallel the situation here. A more appropriate question would be whether or not you like oranges. Oranges are just like any other food and can be consumed when necessary, but are not consumed by personal preference. By your example you make it seem as if preference is hardwired... it most certainly is not. Being gay means we are hardwired to be sexually attracted to the same sex... we certainly don't "prefer" to be attracted to the same sex if we have no choice to begin with.

In terms of race... If you are not attracted to specific races then you have racial preferences... and thus are a racist. plain and simple. The Nazis had "preferences" on racial phenotypes and look where that lead them! You can't say that you are simply not a racist because you have minority friends. I believe that there are degrees of racial prejudice. There are folks out there would love to have minorities for neighbors, but would cringe at having their sons or daughters marry one of them. There are also folks out there who would sooner shoot a minority than cohabitate with them. A true lover of the world will love all people and not see "races" but individuals that can provide richness and variety in his life.

So there you have it... my 2 cents.

 

[SFMusic]

i am a white male who is attracted only to other white males. my best friend is black and some of my other good friends are also of another race. am i just fooling myself, does being attracted only to one race make you a racist?

No, you are not a racist. However, you are the victim of a society that plants the idea that "white" is good and everything else is inferior.

There is a song from the musical South Pacific "You've got to be carefully taught" that says it quite well. Children are born without prejudice, but if we are very careful we (society) can teach these children to be prejudiced and hateful of anything "different".

This indocrination by society/parents/friends/family is a tremendous influence on all aspects of our lives, and the many choices that we make. So does your choice in men make you a racist? No. But don't discount how this racially motivated indoctrination has infulenced your choice.

 

[jockboy01]

In terms of race... If you are not attracted to specific races then you have racial preferences... and thus are a racist.

Only in the purest definition of the word. In the general use of the term, I still disagree. And being sexually attracted to a specific race and having a racial preference are also two different things so you can't make that jump in logic either.

 

[chance1]

Racism and sexuality are well . . . . . .

apples and oranges

don't belong together in my opinion

If you are white and cannot relate to a black person, don't want to talk to them, think they are inferior, wouldn't hire them, wouldn't have them as a friend . . . . .

that's being racist

but if you're white and not sexually attracted to a black person, that's racist? cause you don't wanna go down on him?

Is a gay guy racist against women cause he doesn't want to have sex with her?

Sexual attraction or lack thereof is not racist?

this one I just don't get

 

[Riverrick]

I'm attracted to what I am attracted to.

 

[Kurn]

Is it Racism?
Cultural Racism is something we pick up from our culture.
For whatever reason, many cultures have been infected for generations with racism.
The questions to ask are: 1) Are my emotions somehow conditioned by explicit cultural racism? Something I picked up growing up, from my neighborhood, from my family, from moments when I wasn't thinking or had poor information.
2) Are my emotions compromised by the after-effects of racism? There is a certain amount of natural xenophobia, that is, the fear of people who are different in some way. Optimally, we get past this. But sometimes habits, sometimes habits inherited from friends, family, etc., interfere with how we interact.
We need to be aware of these factors when we look at ourselves or the behavior of our friends. It's not just what you are, it's what you are as a product of history.

Different people live out different dreams.

 

[Blahmicho]

Gonna toss this out there.

Not finding people of a certain skin color attractive isn't racist, and I think people are being silly to get so angry about this.

I, personally, don't find tanned white guys attractive. The same with pale-skinned black men.

Does this mean I'm prejudice against pale-skinned blacks and people with tans? Not at all. I'm not saying "EWW GROSS, LOLZ PEEPLE W/ TaNS R NsTy!!!1", I'm just saying that I don't prefer that in a sexual partner.

Is it sexist that I don't ever want to have sex with a woman? No.

Is it prejudice of me not to date someone who is a strict bottom, as I prefer a versatile partner? No.

 

[SFMusic]

There is a big difference between being a racist and being prejudiced. A racist feels hatred towards an entire group of people that he doesn't even really know. I believe there are very few true racists.

However, we ALL have prejudices that we learned as children that continue to influence the choices we make as adults. Recognizing these prejudices doesn't make us bad people, it just helps us to recognize why we do what we do.

 

[wentworth]

yesterday a friend of mine called me a racist because i told them that i am not attracted to other races. i found this exteremly odd because i do not and never have thought of myself as a racist. i am a white male who is attracted only to other white males. my best friend is black and some of my other good friends are also of another race. am i just fooling myself, does being attracted only to one race make you a racist?

Here we go again...
If you say: "I have never been attracted to someone of another race" then no. That may be a true statement.

If you say "I'm not attracted to anyone o another race" then maybe, because you're presuming that all persons of another race have a single unnatractive attribute and that is racist because nobody of any race is "the same".

You may or may not be attracted inthe future, but it's better to say you're open than to say "No Blacks! Ever!"

 

[wentworth]

Just to expand on what I was saying, I think we should all recognize that in America (as well as in other countries, but I think the problem is especially severe in America), there is a national obsession with classifying people by "race." People don't fall neatly into racial categories; everyone is at some point in the continuum that makes up human biological diversity. If you fly from London straight to Cape Town or Tokyo, obviously, the people look very different in each town. But suppose instead you took the journey on foot or by train. The little changes that you would notice along the way are imperceptible from each town to the next. What race would you call the people in Western China, or in Morocco? The categories of "white," "black," "Mongolian," etc. are way too simplistic., and I don't see how aesthetic preferences should ever line up neatly with such labels. We can be like, "I like the way this guy looks," or "I like the way that guy looks." If it just happens that a greater proportion of guys from a certain "race" appeals to you, that's not racism, but it does become problematic when you start linking people's attractiveness to nonscientific racial distinctions.

To beat a dead horse, suppose I like a certain physical trait that happens to be more common, on average, in certain ethnicities than in others. But the reason why I have this subjective taste is not because people from ethnicities in which this trait is less common are less attractive; I'm merely attracted to this trait. And physical traits don't line up neatly with racial categories.

Most. Brilliant. Answer. Ever.

 

[wentworth]

I'm black and I dont find many black women or men attractive. If anything I go for every other race intentionally. That doesnt make me a racist right? I dont hate my own race. They just arent what I'm looking for. You're own personal preference doesnt make you a racist unless you avoid these people because of their race. I could see if you were like "damn, I hate the way black people look, etc" but its just something thats not your style. I dont think its that big of a deal.

"Black people" don't "look" a certain way. There are all types of black people.
How do white people "look"?
No race has a "look" everybody "looks" different.

 

[DavidNY]

I think most of us agree it is not racism to only be attracted particularly to some people of a particular "race" or not to be so for another. But that does not mean that there isn't some form of racism at the root of it, though that does not make the individual culpable.

One of the most powerful weapons of racism is the noticeable physical differences between us- we've heard them all, "slit eyes," "darkies," "paleface," "big lips," "vanilla," blah blah. You don't have to agree with them for these phrases to have some effect on you. I don't remember seeing any so-called "black" people on television growing up in India...And I'm 23 years old. I saw "brown" people on our news and boring government channels and on all the FRIENDS-type shows and MTV, I saw hep, well-dressed and goodlooking white people. I would forever sever links with anyone who even showed an iota of racism but am I too guilty for preferring white guys? No, but that does not mean that institutional racism is not to blame.

Until we stop this shit of putting one "black" guy on the Macy's catalogues because we have to and that is it this country will forever be tied down. And we'll know we've crossed that bridge not when the affirmative action programs show us the appropriate percentages of people in institutions or when the incomes match up like they have recently done so in Queens, NY, but when we all get turned on by each other! Saying one doesn't go for African or blond hair is alright I suppose but it has much less to do with our own preferences than the preferences from which we are encouraged to choose as we grow up.