I know what you're talking about Lucky, which is why I'm relatively heavily critical of noninclusion of many nonwhite groups in modelling, TV shows, romantic leads, and general beauty imagery which all contributes to the U.S. (and, largely, western) beauty standard.
We can and should send clear messages to entities who, like Abercrombie & Fitch did, fill their stores with posters of white guys shirtless on beaches and then tell their store managers "get rid of those Asian cashiers, the people working in here should look like those posters." (
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gonzalez_v._Abercrombie_&_Fitch_Stores)
However it's worth pointing out that this issue is not exclusive to gay dating patterns whatsoever, and sometimes on JUB I get the impression that people think these issues begin or end within the gay community rather than simply having its wake trail through it. I feel as though trying to address these issues through being critical of what we see in gay dating is sorta like trying to fix disparities in educational quality at the college level.
I guess in short I feel that it's futile to grapple with the problem from the point of telling someone that what they're attracted to is wrong or harmful after they've been raised in a lifetime of influences and a beauty standard that informed those attractions. What we should be addressing are the factors in society that create those gaps in perception in the first place. In general I feel those discussions gain far less traction at JUB, though, when they're not strictly tied to something that directly impacts gay people specifically.
