Saying No to Dating a Bi Guy ?

[Purplebic]

Oh christ on a washcloth not Gold Star Gays again, that's only going to start another war of words

*runs away and hides under a bed*

Lol don't worry, i think the term gold star gay is a fresher form of snobbery for those who find there isn't enough elitism in the community.

All im saying is, sucking dick thats been in a women grosses me out, so weather or not i would be dumped for a girl is inconsequential because no relationship could ever take place between me and a bisexual. Im sure bi's have no trouble finding other more willing gay guys anyways.

 

[Purplebic]

Sucking dick that has been in a girl with a condom on is worse than kissing a guy whose had his tongue up another guy's ass??

Gay stuff doesn't usually gross out gay guys.

 

[fetaby]

Lol don't worry, i think the term gold star gay is a fresher form of snobbery for those who find there isn't enough elitism in the community.

All im saying is, sucking dick thats been in a women grosses me out, so weather or not i would be dumped for a girl is inconsequential because no relationship could ever take place between me and a bisexual. Im sure bi's have no trouble finding other more willing gay guys anyways.

So the only guy you're not grossed out by is the Beast Master? His surrogate was a cow.

 

[Purplebic]

So the only guy you're not grossed out by is the Beast Master? His surrogate was a cow.

What the fuck are you talking about?

I thought my english was pretty basic but some people aparently need a diagram.

If you fucked a girl in the last 3 months, i wont touch that cock.
Otherwise were good.

En francais,
Si tu as baiser avec une fille dans les trois derniers mois, je toucherai pas a ta bite.
Autrement, ya pas de problemes.

(Same in spanish)

Understand now?

 

[fetaby]

What the fuck are you talking about?

Gay men not knowing the Beast Master....

You said you don't wanna go near a guy that's been in a girl? News flash, fucker! Unless your mom is a cow like the beast master you've been inside a girl.

No human has not been inside a girl.

For the second time tonight, enough with the women bashing, else I'll be forced to hand out retroactive abortion coupons.

 

[Lube]

Ever notice that a married bi guy never cheats with another woman but it's ALMOST ALWAYS with another man?

The closet does terrible things to people look at Ken Mehlman or the poor saps that get trotted out every few months during local TV sweeps getting arrested at reststops, parks, or mall bathrooms. None of them claim they are gay, most are older and married, most have been doing this for most of their adult lives, and most look broken.

Couldn't agree more.

 

[Runewell]

I'm going to go ahead and say I have NO experience to back up any of my claims--I'm just throwing my thoughts out there XD

I dunno, as someone who could possibly see himself giving a bi guy a chance, I'll say this: I agree with the statement that "its about the person, not the sexuality". Even though a lot of people's experiences here say otherwise, I believe there are bi guys out there who CAN be faithful to a guy. That's the issue, right? Cuz as someone said, whether you're left for a guy or a girl, when the relationship is over, it's over--the next person apparently has greener grass. I think the REASONS he leaves is what determines whether he's confused, or just a shitty guy in general. If he leaves me for a woman because he wants something "normal", sure, I'd be pissed as hell, but he ain't confused. If it was that he thought she was hotter (or more sane) than I was, I'd say it wasn't any different than if he left me for a hotter (or more sane) guy. Regardless, guy or girl, that next person has something I don't got, and I'd assume I wasn't getting him back.

As far as them being heartbreakers, I suppose it isn't too different for the women, is it? I imagine they'd also have that same fear of being left for the opposite sex. I've had that conversation with many female friends who've said they also couldn't date a bi guy. Even if he wants something "normal", what's to stop him from coming back to the "dark" side? In that case, it's less about someone who can't decide between male and female, and is more about a guy who chooses not to commit to ONE person. It just seems to me that unless they end up in a completely open relationship, a bi person at some point DOES have to choose whether they want to be with a man or a woman. I'm sure there are some who can make the decision, and some that can't. I actually feel lucky I don't have to make that kind of decision.

 

[The_Reaper]

No... if you had a bunch of bad experiences with left-handed people or black guys would you start saying no to those groups entirely?

Judge each person individually.

I don't think a truer statement has ever been uttered. To borrow a phrase from Depeche Mode, people are people. Any sort of blindness, or bias, faced towards one group simply because of bad experiences with a small subsection of that group is in the wrong.

It's the same mindset of thinking that causes people to have such negative views of the homosexuality community; or of other communities, because people believe that the actions of the few represent the entire community.

If you go on a date with a bisexual guy, and you like him and he likes you, then you should continue seeing him and see where the relationship goes. Not simply decide it can't go any further because he's bisexual.

 

[blackbeltninja]

But most other gay guys aren't so lucky. I have been extending condolences to a guy from work who's only 21, who has just gone through the same thing. The bi guy is a dirtbag who used him for sex, and has now dumped him for a girl. Poor little guy is so delicate and fragile, and is really suffering right now....

Well, there's a lesson there: don't put out too early on in the relationship. Make sure you all know where you stand before you give up the goods. Buying cows vs free milk etc etc etc and all that.

Or is it also the bi guy's fault that your colleague is easy? Okay, that's probably not entirely fair, but it is true.

-d-

 

[Purplebic]

Gay men not knowing the Beast Master....

You said you don't wanna go near a guy that's been in a girl? News flash, fucker! Unless your mom is a cow like the beast master you've been inside a girl.

No human has not been inside a girl.

For the second time tonight, enough with the women bashing, else I'll be forced to hand out retroactive abortion coupons.

Thick as a plank. (and im not talking about your cock).
Try to avoid being so literal, your IQ might jump a few points.

 

[fetaby]

Try to avoid being so literal

Well, since we're just trading advice now. Here's some.

Learn how to respect.
Respect yourself, before you wreck yourself.
Everyone has a past.
People are people.
To have more, desire less.

 

[Callum]

This is why (the reaction toward bis in this thread) that I just say I'm gay and don't bother mentioning bisexuality.

 

[JasunStrikesBack]

This is why (the reaction toward bis in this thread) that I just say I'm gay and don't bother mentioning bisexuality.

HM... like my bisexual BF did. Who also neglected to mention that he had a girlfriend at the same time as me since "it's not like you needed to know... you were never going to meet her."

Hope you have more integrity than he did.

 

[Purplebic]

Well, since we're just trading advice now. Here's some.

Learn how to respect.
Respect yourself, before you wreck yourself.
Everyone has a past.
People are people.
To have more, desire less.

This isnt a matter of respect. I respect everyone's right to live as they please and do as they please.

But my choices and expectations are my own. And i wont fuck a guy that's fucked a girl recently.

And it's not someone else's sense of political correctness that's going to force me to be with someone im turned off by/bi.

I dont think i can restate this in simpler terms.

 

[Callum]

HM... like my bisexual BF did. Who also neglected to mention that he had a girlfriend at the same time as me since "it's not like you needed to know... you were never going to meet her."

Hope you have more integrity than he did.

Oh, no sir. I just find men more attractive than women...I'm like 80% gay.

Better off going with the 80%, I feel.

 

[Lube]

Oh, no sir. I just find men more attractive than women...I'm like 80% gay.

Better off going with the 80%, I feel.

If you were 80% left handed, would you call yourself ambidextrous?

 

[Callum]

Oh, yes. I can't seem to hold chopsticks correctly with my right hand, so I use my left. I am right-handed however.

 

[asu1117]

These threads always irritate and depress me.

I find it very offensive that so many people assume that I would be unfaithful based solely on my sexuality.

You don't "trust" us because of something we had no more control over than you?

Very nice.

 

[blackbeltninja]

But my choices and expectations are my own. And i wont fuck a guy that's fucked a girl recently.

This is so random. What's your cut-off, 3 months? So at 9pm on the 89th day he's a complete leper and untouchable, but three hours later you'll happily fuck him?

My G_d that is pathetic.

-d-

 

[blackbeltninja]

You jumped to some hasty conclusions.

The bi guy chased my little buddy. It was a process that took a few weeks.
We all warned him. He didn't listen. (Do they ever?) The bi guy, after several months of dating him, left him for a woman. (same old story)

Now, we have to pick up the pieces. He's a fragile little guy.

Blackbelt, this is nothing to do with bigortry or hatred against bisexuals, it's about this:

Hang on.

Your original description is "the bi guy used him for sex" and now in actual fact it was a relationship which lasted several months... Don't you think that distilling "several months of dating" into "used him just for sex" is a little bit sensationalist?

Effectively, by your definition, any sexual relationship - gay, straight, open, other, EVERYTHING - which doesn't end in a lifelong commitment is someone "just being used for sex."

Therefore:

Blackbelt, this is nothing to do with bigotry or hatred against bisexuals

I'm not convinced. Time for a rethink on your part, perhaps?

-d-