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Sex on first date, Yay or Nay?

You only have one first time sex.
You only have one first time date
Do you really want to conflict two
cherished moments? I believe that
calls for a personal decision not a
communal edict.
 
Of course not. You don't get to know someone in one day. So why bother with the date if you're going to sleep with him without knowing him? If I was going to sleep with someone on the first date it would make more sense to me just to fuck a stranger at a bath house or something.
 
Sex tends to make me make bad decisions, so I've adopted a "no sex on the first few dates" policy since my ex and I broke up.

Of course, I haven't been on a date since then, so I don't know if it's working.
 
Nope, don't have sex on the first date. At least, not if you want any kind of relationship.

If he won't see you again for a second date, cross him off your list.

Second date... if it feels like the right time for both, then go ahead.
If not, then just put it off.

By the third date, you should both know if you really feel anything sexual for each other.

In my experience only, if you have sex the first time you've met, you're not likely to see them again, or not likely to develop a relationship with them. You might see them 1 or 2 more times but for sex only. So if you want a relationship, don't have sex on the first date.

But if all you're interested in is having sex with him and nothing else, then go ahead and have it on the first date.

A guy who is genuinely interested in a real relationship with you will be willing to wait as long as you need to wait before having sex.
 
Yay! Not having sex with someone isn't gonna make him more likely to stick around. If he's not interested in a relationship, he's gonna flake whether or not you have sex. If you do the deed, he may or may not wanna stick around -- but at least you've had sex.
 
I'd say no. Sex on the first date is a hookup, not a date. Now if that's what I want, sure. But that's not what I want. I want more.
 
Before the first date and it leads to the first date, Yay.

On the first date, no. but possibly maybe. Depends on the vibe. I'd rather have him fall in love with me before we have the sex.
 
Mr-Pickles said:
It's a risky move, 'cos once the sex is out of the way he might have had his fix and want nothing more from you.
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But that might also be true after 3 dates or 6 or 10 (or on whichever date you finally decide to do it). I mean, if that's all he's after and you know that, it might be better to just decide to call it quits early on.

In which case, the sex is nice parting bonus for both of you :p

-d-
 
^ yuppers! As for parting bonus, that reminds me of my break-up policy: go over to his place, shag, break-up, leave, have a pint or three. It must be at his place so there's no awkward "umm, it's time for you to leave" moments. ..|
 
looseliam said:
^ yuppers! As for parting bonus, that reminds me of my break-up policy: go over to his place, shag, break-up, leave, have a pint or three. It must be at his place so there's no awkward "umm, it's time for you to leave" moments. ..|
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Ohh... we've all been there. [-X
 
ronboy said:
As one of the "elders" here, I say that it totally depends on the guy.

I've been in both situations.

Personally, I like to get to know a guy a little first before jamming my face on his genitals...:D
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So shaking his hand and saying "hi" isn't getting to know a guy enough?

-T.
 
If two people are not sexually compatible, then the relationship is doomed from the beginning. Sex on the first date is just investigating if one of the many variables needed for a meaningful relationship is present. So, yes to sex on the first date.
 
I say yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!

I've had some amazing first date sex.
 
No sex on the first date. I like to feel something for the person before I feel up the person. It actually does make the sex better (for me anyway).
 
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