So I got called a "NIGGER" after rejecting a White guy.

[syoBsUtsuJ]

Racial epithets and profanity (other than in properly worded jokes) are the product of a weak-mind trying to express itself. We all know what a superiority complex truly represents. Lol ... personally, I've thought a few choice words when finding out that someone is not what I expected (specifically shaved from head-to-toe or nearly tattooed as such).

I am grateful that my family is finally melting in the "Melting Pot" that is [supposedly] America! I just wish my branch of the family tree wasn't so muted (or should I say MUTTed?) with every European ethnicity that doesn't tan well? Lol ... I know if there is a UV Index of 15 minutes, without 30spf I'll get sunburned in just under 5. Ha ha, maybe that should make some guys run!

 

[rareboy]

^ This.

It must chew up an awful lot of the day hanging onto all of this.

 

[-Kane-]

^ This.

It must chew up an awful lot of the day hanging onto all of this.

Rareboy, thanks for your contribution to the issue?
Do you have anymore dismissive smartass comments to add? Whatever they are, I'm sure they will be groundbreaking and substantive to the topic YOU clicked on.

 

[DigitalFudge]

^ This.

It must chew up an awful lot of the day hanging onto all of this.

#WhitePrivilege

 

[palbert]

^ This.

It must chew up an awful lot of the day hanging onto all of this.

This. March 21, 2012 ---> June 21, 2013: a long time.

Prompted by the Paula Deen meltdown?

 

[Críostóir]

In general, people of a privileged class have absolutely no right to tell people of a disprivileged class how upset they should be about manifestations of their disprivilege.

In particular, if you (like me) are a white person, and you decide to tell a black person how upset he should be (or not be) about the N word, or for how long he should carry that upset, change your mind and don't.

Unless, of course, you are perfectly willing to be a racist jerk, and have everyone know it. In that case, go right ahead.

 

[Críostóir]

Also, I would point out that the resurrecting post was a response to another one about some terrible racist behavior. Not sure why it took 15 months, but it isn't harping on the OP.

 

[-Kane-]

In general, people of a privileged class have absolutely no right to tell people of a disprivileged class how upset they should be about manifestations of their disprivilege.

In particular, if you (like me) are a white person, and you decide to tell a black person how upset he should be (or not be) about the N word, or for how long he should carry that upset, change your mind and don't.

Unless, of course, you are perfectly willing to be a racist jerk, and have everyone know it. In that case, go right ahead.

WoW... a rare sighting of honesty and truth.

 

[Críostóir]

It's not THAT hard. More people should try it.

 

[DigitalFudge]

In general, people of a privileged class have absolutely no right to tell people of a disprivileged class how upset they should be about manifestations of their disprivilege.

Talk that TALK

 

[pat grimshaw]

The Cardinal of New York is back to tell us what's right and wrong.

The Cardinal knows all about that.

 

[ixthrock]

^ Yeah, it's like when someone calls me faggot. You get the sense that there's no weapons left in that arsenal...

Lex

^^^^This. And the, "I'm titanium" comment.
-Kane, I don't feel you were rude to the guy AT ALL. You must've hit a nerve, but sometimes they're such a huge target it's hard to miss - his "nerve" is not your problem.

 

[Críostóir]

Seriously, you want straight people telling you how you should be totally over being called faggot in high school? Oh, not like that sort of thing does any damage, right?

 

[silentalk]

He was rude, but you could've said it nicer. Maybe he got angry because the way you rejected him was a bit offensive.

 

[BFizzle]

In general, people of a privileged class have absolutely no right to tell people of a disprivileged class how upset they should be about manifestations of their disprivilege.

Death @ what I wanted to contribute to this thread but couldn't articulate.

I also wanna add that I didn't really like the comments in this thread that suggested Kane could have avoided it if he had been "nicer" in his let down. To me that just implies an excuse for the offender's actions when there are none. Like, you're still trying to shift the blame when Kane was the victim here.

He didn't use that word because Kane was rude, he used it because he was a racist asshole. It shouldn't become a question of what Kane did to "deserve it."

 

[figjam]

Why do some white guys do this?

I was logged onto one of the known dating/hook up sites when I got a message from this guy who seemed nice at first, but quickly got angry when I rejected him.

He was 32 yrs old. Average looking.

He said "man you are Hot! How are you?". Even though I was not attracted to him, I always try to respond to people by atleast saying thank you once I recieve a compliment.

After saying thanks, I will no longer respond after the first message with the hope that the other person will catch the hint that I'm not interested and move on.

So after not responding to his subsequent messages, he writes "what's wrong? you're not into White guys?" I write back: Yes, I'm into White guys, I'm just not into "You"...

He responds: " cool, I'm not into stuck up arrogant niggers anyway"

Is this the defense some white men use when they are rejected by a person of color? That shit is so lame!

Don't bother. Waste of time. You said it " defense some white men ". Leave it there.

 

[figjam]

Only now saw how old this thread was.... sigh...

 

[G-Lexington]

Because quite frankly your obsession with race as a homosexual is keeping your feet nailed to the floor.

Spoken like a true white guy. But as always, thank you for your contribution.

Lex

 

[silentalk]

I think some here are OK with people giving offensive remarks as long as these remarks are not "racist". When racism is the issue, then the person becomes a victim, otherwise they're not. Sounds like double standards to me.

I'm in favor in of this: Both sides offended each other, with one side obviously being more offensive than the other.

 

[Críostóir]

He didn't use that word because Kane was rude, he used it because he was a racist asshole. It shouldn't become a question of what Kane did to "deserve it."

Just so.

I think some here are OK with people giving offensive remarks as long as these remarks are not "racist". When racism is the issue, then the person becomes a victim, otherwise they're not. Sounds like double standards to me.

I'm in favor in of this: Both sides offended each other, with one side obviously being more offensive than the other.

Read the OP again. The racist said "you're not into white guys?" thus making it a racial issue. The OP was justified in being offended by that and replied "I'm just not into YOU." I'd like to point out that there's really nothing he could have said to escape blame from this person and many of the people in this thread. And people will claim otherwise, saying "if he'd only said..." they'd be OK; but in fact they find a reason to be upset about any reply he could give.

This is directly analogous to what happens when a straight man hits on a woman who isn't interested. If she ignores him or tells him off, she's a "bitch," or worse; if she tries to be nice he takes that as encouraging. ANYTHING she does will be criticized by sexist assholes (and by well-meaning thoughtless men who don't understand the issues).

The OP was not interested in this guy. He put the guy off politely, then the guy pushed with an attempt at a manipulative guilt trip. I don't actually think it WAS rude to say "No, just not into YOU," but even if it was it was not uncalled for. The racist verbal abuse that resulted may have been predictable, but predictable is not the same thing as justifiable or even excusable!

Arguably the OP could have just repeated "Sorry, you're just not my type." This would have continued the conversation, which is not the desired effect. Moreover, you're not obliged to spare the feelings of someone who has just attempted a manipulative guilt trip on you!

This is why I think it's best to block people as soon as they say something wacky like "what, you're not into white guys?" The conversation isn't going to go anywhere good after that. The only "mistake" the OP made was in overestimating the other guy as being marginally civilized as opposed to what he was, which is a total racist asshole.