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On Topic Discussion Taralen's 2018 Random Musings About Life...

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Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

Shit like this is only proving my point.
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/threads/468171-A-Stupid-Posting

He's clearly talking about me and shit, saying I'm vacuous. Wow. That's a very interesting word to use. My goodness. I'm equal to that level now. Lord.

It's this victim mentality that's turning people against you on here, the thread above isn't directed at you, it's directed at me, you don't see me bleating about it, we're all grown up here, try and start acting like you are.
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

unless you find a masochist who enjoys being verbally and mentally abused....

The good news...they exist. Focus on finding one of them.

Come on, I don't go around trynna fuck up your dating pool, do I? Don't send someone off somewhere where ya know it isn't going to end well.

(Cough Anyone reading his masochism commentary please be Aware that 'treating others as you would like to be treated if you were them' and 'personal responsibility' are ever watchwords for all participants.
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

Why don't people ever get accused of having a perpetrator mentality?
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

Unfortunately we live in the era of victimhood. Too many people want to be a victim and cry foul, some even try to be a victim for others. It’s sad.

Didn't you accuse Cormac on here of making a bait thread against you when it was just a humour thread not even related to you?

You must be trolling now.
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

That is unlikely at this point.

I also know someone who is very much like you...and she goes off on everyone and spirals into a self pity wormhole,...except it is because she is a "fat and ugly lesbian". She never has a girlfriend because she can only exist in any relationship of any kind where she has complete control and you agree with her about everything. If you don't agree with her...you are "against her"...

She externalizes her rage and takes no responsibility for ANY OF IT. It is everyone else's fault...always.

She is a living breathing nightmare.

If you keep ignoring all the advice you ARE getting...you will never be ready for a boyfriend unless you find a masochist who enjoys being verbally and mentally abused....

The good news...they exist. Focus on finding one of them.

Narrow your search and say that is what you are looking for (because it IS the only thing at this point that will work)....and you may find someone.....

Some of those people get off on taking abuse....and they know it. Why not capitalize on who you are at the moment if you want a boyfriend?

...because...Dude...you are seriously abusive.

It's not like that at all. You're misunderstood.

Or are you? Hmm?

I do believe that I would need a guy who I wouldn't say is turned on by my personality, but can maybe deal with it, or doesn't find it an issue or probably sees it in a different limelight than other people would. I'm not gonna say I need to exclusively find a guy who likes to be used like that.

But I think I get what you mean.

I also don't know what you mean by being a masochist, and giving or receiving abuse.

I mean I'm more attracted to bear guys and more bigger stocky guys so.

For example, the fact I wouldn't mind if my boyfriend said, "you're my little faggot, iron my pants, I gotta be at work in 15 minutes."

Or when he comes home from work, he wants me to take his shoes off for him, or if he wants me to feed him or bathe him like he's a King or something.

The same whenever I feel upset, I can just lay down on his chest or if I want to get drunk or high with him whenever I want.

Or if I asked him to whip me with a belt Roots style and shit if I were feeling upset or whatever. I wouldn't mind. lol.

Or if he allowed me to vent or bitch at him, and to be a big teddy bear pillow for me when I have my episodes.

To me I would find that shit so hot and cute.

But I don't know. is that considered S&M or not, Or being masochistic or whatever.

I hope that helps any.
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

??

You're desperately looking for the acceptance of total strangers on an internet forum. This is not healthy behavior unless it was a support group type of community (which this is clearly not).

Please don't take this as a personal attack but it seems like you really should sort things out emotionally and psychologically before pursuing a relationship. If you're not fully emotionally stable then you're setting yourself up for absolute *disaster* in a relationship.

A lot of single people look for a man to "fix" or "save" them instead of getting themselves together first before entering a relationship; and the end result is usually disastrous.
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

It's not like that at all. You're misunderstood.

Or are you? Hmm?

I do believe that I would need a guy who I wouldn't say is turned on by my personality, but can maybe deal with it, or doesn't find it an issue or probably sees it in a different limelight than other people would. I'm not gonna say I need to exclusively find a guy who likes to be used like that.

But I think I get what you mean.

I also don't know what you mean by being a masochist, and giving or receiving abuse.

I mean I'm more attracted to bear guys and more bigger stocky guys so.

For example, the fact I wouldn't mind if my boyfriend said, "you're my little faggot, iron my pants, I gotta be at work in 15 minutes."

Or when he comes home from work, he wants me to take his shoes off for him, or if he wants me to feed him or bathe him like he's a King or something.

The same whenever I feel upset, I can just lay down on his chest or if I want to get drunk or high with him whenever I want.

Or if I asked him to whip me with a belt Roots style and shit if I were feeling upset or whatever. I wouldn't mind. lol.

Or if he allowed me to vent or bitch at him, and to be a big teddy bear pillow for me when I have my episodes.

To me I would find that shit so hot and cute.

But I don't know. is that considered S&M or not, Or being masochistic or whatever.

I hope that helps any.

The thing is.....when you have outbursts...you need someone who can deal with it.

Mental-Emotional-Psychological abuse is common but rarely does anyone want to own it.

Thing is...I know a few people who do own it..and they have relationships...long time ones...and it works. They are honest about it...you basically are too...so there is hope. This one lady I know...she goes off full tilt on her man and it is scary..but the next week she is cozying up to him and it works. I don't know why it works...but it does....

I do know she is honest though. When her male psychiatrist told her he thinks she needed a woman therapist instead..she screamed at him that she was paying good money to go off on a man...and that is exactly what she was doing...

People often change..and change is ALWAYS possible...but alot of people don't change too much and there is always a match for everyone I believe....so work with what you got now.

Alot of people want to be punished for something...find one of them. Put an ad on Craigslist....be honest like you are here. It isn't as though you are hiding anything.

Make sure to put your type down...

..and the kinky stuff...definitely explore that if you have it in you.
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

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Cool thread.
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

Taralen said:
but as far as the western world and United States in particular.
1 percent of queer men is about right.
I see/hear so often that its 10%...
But like you I personally believe its more like 1%


Two other competitors would be RJ, which is only focused towards bodybuilding and fitness, and EC, which is not queer male inclusive. It's only queer inclusive, and more geared towards youth if I should say.
Other than to look and see what it was years ago, I've never been on RJ
I used to go on EC, & it seemed like a decent site (though like you say a bit more geared toward youths)...but I can't access it anymore, my only guess is I got banned for something, or that last big downgrade they did fucked up my account.


rareboy said:
If you are looking to find a boyfriend and love on JUB, give up that fantasy. We are not oblivious assholes. Most of us are either partnered or not looking to connect on that level.
Sorry, but I'm going to have to agree with rareboy on this...but...that said I never came here in the 1st place expecting to find one. (sure at one time there was the background thought of "that would be nice" but like I say it wasn't the reason I joined)
A boyfriend is something I gave up on finding..anymore that's something for daydreams only. In real life I am absolutely not boyfriendable (and borderline unfriendable in general)...but its not other people, its me.
Note: I'm in no way saying "just give up"..
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

OP, you have to understand something. How people behave on forums aren't necessarily how they normally behave in real life. Everyone has a front personality to present in the real world and an online doppelganger. Just because you like how someone sounds om forum posts doesn't mean you will find their personality attractive in real life.

I can't prove what I'm about to say. I can only offer my annecdote and personal opinion. An online forum is a terrible place to try to find a mate.

Go out more. Sign yourself on meetup.com and join local lgbt groups and other groups. Attend lgbt events. Talk to strangers. Put yourself out there.

I've dated many guys in life before I met my life partner. My first was a college guy I bumped into while attending the lgbt group on campus. Over the years, I've dated a college professor I met at a book club, a guy I bumped into at the gym, a vet at a local gay meet-up, brother of a friend, a guy I danced with while on a field trip, etc. Then I found my life partner on a dating website.

There are many venues to meeting your potential mate. But you have to put yourself out there and be social. Don't be afraid to talk to strangers. That's how you meet new friends and potential mates.

Why am I advicing against looking for a bf on a forum? Because there are vast distances between us all. And having an online boyfriend is just dumb. May be I am old fashion, but I would certainly want to be able to touch my partner, share my intimate moments face to face, and do other things that only 2 people in physical presence with each other can do with each other rather than chatting on a keyboard.

Anyway, I hope you get what I'm trying to say. We will talk more soon.
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

aristomaniac said:
Go out more. Sign yourself on meetup.com and join local lgbt groups and other groups. Attend lgbt events. Talk to strangers. Put yourself out there.
I will give meetup.com a recommendation as well - Its atleast worth looking at (you can browse it without needing to sign up).
I made an account a few years ago & joined some groups that looked of interest...even went to a few meetups.
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

OP needs some cock like right now. Any takers? Never put your dick in crazy!!
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

I'm sorry that you are upset. I can understand that things aren't going your way and sympathize with you, but I don't have the same life experiences. I don't have a boyfriend either, or close friends, and I find that after you are 25 or 30 it is harder to meet and find friends. You are not my type for a boyfriend and if you were my type the distance between us would prohibit a close relationship. They say that there is someone for everyone, so keep looking. I haven't found mine yet either and I probably am not ready for that anyway.

I think that there are many more gay men than 1%, but when you identify the different types of gay men there are probably only 1/2 of 1% of any type.

Good luck.
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

I had emergency surgery today, and after reading this thread, I'm thankful my problem could be fixed so expediently, even if recurrent.

This thread is the rage of a heart breaking and rebreaking. It is pointless to say it, but I agree with every man and woman posting who urged getting real professional counselling. And I say that from experience.

I broke in two in November 2016. A good therapist, not a psychologist, not a psychiatrist, helped me immeasurably. A second one was a total dud and I am proud to say I terminated her sessions after giving her three or four tries. Not everyone gets you. Find a good one, get better, get joy, and get a mate then.
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

OP, you have to understand something. How people behave on forums aren't necessarily how they normally behave in real life. Everyone has a front personality to present in the real world and an online doppelganger. Just because you like how someone sounds om forum posts doesn't mean you will find their personality attractive in real life.

That's where I disagree. I feel you can learn a lot about a person on social media and how they act. Especially if it's dedicated to more personal and sexual issues. Unlike if it's a community about video games or playing poker or whatever.

Perhaps I won't mix well with him in real life, but I can at least try.

The fact he's an active member on JUB tells me enough though that we were meant to be together.

I can't prove what I'm about to say. I can only offer my annecdote and personal opinion. An online forum is a terrible place to try to find a mate.

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH FINDING A GUY ON AN ONLINE FORUM DEDICATED TO GAY FUCKING MEN. UGH.

Go out more. Sign yourself on meetup.com and join local lgbt groups and other groups. Attend lgbt events. Talk to strangers. Put yourself out there.

Fuck meetup. Racist ass and homophobic ass site. I tried to join groups and they wouldn't let me.

I go to LGBT events but they don't like me.

I don't want to single people out in that type of shit.

I talk to fucking strangers and try to flirt with guys at the subway station I see on my way home from work and get robbed at gunpoint and my shit taken from me and called nigger or faggot.

I've dated many guys in life before I met my life partner. My first was a college guy I bumped into while attending the lgbt group on campus. Over the years, I've dated a college professor I met at a book club, a guy I bumped into at the gym, a vet at a local gay meet-up, brother of a friend, a guy I danced with while on a field trip, etc. Then I found my life partner on a dating website.

You seem kinda frou frou and that's not my style. I'm more unconventional. I don't do bourgeois shit like that.

I like more unconventional ways of finding love.

There are many venues to meeting your potential mate. But you have to put yourself out there and be social. Don't be afraid to talk to strangers. That's how you meet new friends and potential mates.

That's what fucks me off I get robbed at gunpoint trying to be friendly.

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/threads/458583-I-was-robbed-at-gunpoint

Why am I advicing against looking for a bf on a forum? Because there are vast distances between us all. And having an online boyfriend is just dumb. May be I am old fashion, but I would certainly want to be able to touch my partner, share my intimate moments face to face, and do other things that only 2 people in physical presence with each other can do with each other rather than chatting on a keyboard.

Anyway, I hope you get what I'm trying to say. We will talk more soon.

I'M GONNA FUCKING EVENTUALLY MEET HIM IN REAL LIFE, WHAT THE FUCK. UGH. THIS IS THE FUCKING TWILIGHT ZONE? IT MUST BE.

So the fuck and forget the fact, if I have a crush on a guy on JUB or on youtube, or on reddit, I'm supposed to fucking forget it? Ugh.

Wow. smh.
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

Fuck meetup. Racist ass and homophobic ass site. I tried to join groups and they wouldn't let me.

Then something is wrong in LA.

I attended Meetup.com groups in Albuquerque, NM, and in Huntsville, AL. Even here in Alabama, I have met Blacks, Fems, Jewish, Lesbians, Indians, Trans, and others. Listen to me -- all those were treated equally, and welcomed, here, in Alabama, and not even Southern Alabama.

If those groups exist here, they must exist in LA. You may need help in finding them, but they are absolutely there.
 
Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE

Then something is wrong in LA.

I attended Meetup.com groups in Albuquerque, NM, and in Huntsville, AL. Even here in Alabama, I have met Blacks, Fems, Jewish, Lesbians, Indians, Trans, and others. Listen to me -- all those were treated equally, and welcomed, here, in Alabama, and not even Southern Alabama.

If those groups exist here, they must exist in LA. You may need help in finding them, but they are absolutely there.

I just don't like meetup.

I want to meet a guy who knows me from the fucking antics on here, and that's final.

Like Harke The Boeotarch or FPNY or MakeDigitalLove OMG. Yes Lord.

I want a fucking bear daddy like that.

Oops already said it, can't take it back. In 10 minutes the post is gonna lock. Haha.
 
Love spells/Voodoo Magic

So Valentine's Day and shit is coming up and I'm getting in that sour mood and stuff from being alone and gay.

But, have any of you done any love spells, or any voodoo, wicca type magic stuff?

I have in the past, I have to be honest.

I just feel lonely and I turn to stuff like that. I am Christian, and I'm a very spiritual person, and I do think it's possible for supernatural things to happen.

Being that I'm black and feminine, I feel like my life never goes the way I want it to, so I have these beliefs that magical things can happen to make my life better.

Anyways, I have done love spells before. None of them worked really, they always had bad results, except the last spell I did, I guess there could have been potential.

The first spell I've done, required you to take something your crush or whatever was eating or wearing or a piece of their hair, anything tied to them. I guess if you never met them before, a picture of them you took from the computer or from your phone or whatever would work as well I'm sure. Then you say the spell while you're holding the item. This is supposed to make the person like you back. I did this to a guy I would always crush on, and see on my way home from work on the subway. He was eating something, and I saved the wrapper that he was eating off of. After I did the spell, I threw the wrapper away. I asked him out and he said no, and he was really angry and violent about it. So that spell didn't work.

The second spell I did was on this guy I had a crush on at a place I used to work at. This spell required you to take your crushes first and last name, and write a word related to love or romance or something like that for it from it. For example if your crush name was John Smith, you can use the word "hot". So you write that word on a piece of paper and say the spell, and it should work.

Not only did this spell not work, as I was rejected by the guy I did this spell on, I got fired from this job the week after I did this spell. I was gossiping to some coworkers during my break, and they fired me for no reason.

The third spell I did kind of worked but didn't really. It was this spell.



So basically you write your name, and your crushes name on a piece of paper backwards, and put it in a glass bottle, and put lovely things in it. I used rose petals, cinnamon and aloe leaves. I also decorated the outside of the bottle with ribbon and nice stuff like that.

I didn't have a crush at this time, I just wanted to find love, so I just wrote "any person" backwards on the paper.

Then the next part of the spell you take that bottle and put it somewhere where only you know, and is concealed. I live near the beach, so I picked this nice cove in a secret area that nobody goes to and put the bottle there.

The next night, I'm driving home from work and my car breaks down in the middle of nowhere.

At the time I didn't have roadside assistance, so I called a random tow truck driver off google to come and see what was wrong with my car.

The driver was this really nice Nick Frost looking guy.

Turns out I had a bad battery, and jumper cables would not be able to fix the issue as I needed a new battery altogether.

This guy was nice enough to tow my car a good 10 or so miles to an auto store, to where I was able to buy another battery, and this guy installed the battery in my car. All for free.

He was unfortunately straight, but he was so nice. I was chatting with him and turns out there is an obscure video game we both like.

So the spell did work, but not the way I wanted it to.

I think when you play with magic, stuff like this happens. I believe this is only proof that there is some stuff beyond your control in the world.

So does anyone else do spells, or wicca stuff or voodoo stuff or not?

I just wanted to know everyone else's opinion on this.
 
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