Re: Why is the gay community not accepting of alternative lifestyles/personalities?
...ya think?
I mean, first you say you "can't afford to be picky", but then state that you find it "more cute" when you don't have anything in common. Which means you're being picky.
Maybe you missed that whole part about me going to concerts while my boyfriend goes to movies. In other words, we're not the same. We're different.
But here's the thing. We do have things in common. And I think all boyfriends, and even just friends in general, do have common ground. No, they're not the same. But they have something they bond over. It can be music, or sports, or pop culture, or politics. It can be having similar senses of humor, or a similar viewpoint on life. But it's SOMETHING. Something they can say, hey, yes, me too, and share their common ground. And the common ground isn't something that's completely agreed upon. Even Star Wars geeks like to argue about their favorite movies with other Star Wars geeks. But they have similar interests and feelings that enable them to discuss this stuff in depth.
I really think you're making this stuff far more difficult than it needs to be.
Lex
Well, mundane things don't count.
Every gay man likes music (regardless if it's R&B or pop or mellow rock or electronic or dance or jazz or classical or reggae or Hip Hop or Hard rock or country or whatever)
Every gay man likes to watch movies. (regardless of the genre.)
Every gay man likes to eat food. (Doesn't matter what kind) etc.
So all of those things don't count.
I also don't feel you have to have anything in common for love. If you do have things in common (whether they are mundane or trivial or whatever. Such as the both of you have the same eye hue or stuff like that etc.) then that's good and okay, but it's whatever.
I look at George Lucas and his wife, that black woman he's with.
She has nothing in common with that man.
I'm not at into Star Wars or any of that shit. I mean I know all the characters and shit, but I hate, HATE Star Wars. I'm really not into a whole lot of science fiction stuff altogether really. But if my man was, I would find that so cute. I would support his fanatic in that stuff.
I'll use another example, the founder and CEO of reddit. He's married to Serena Williams.
They don't look like they have much in common either. So.
What I mean by I'm not picky, is I don't look for what we have in common.
I LOOK FOR PHYSICAL, MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION.
All that shit about pop culture and trivial things I'm not too worried about.
He could be a fucking homophobic racist for all I care. I'm dead serious. I don't give a fuck. As long as he's not straight, he's not married, and he loves me and he's not hurting me or other people, and he's the man god sent for me. That's all I care about.
If the fact he likes Steely Dan (which I do) as well, that's a bonus. But if he doesn't like Steely Dan and likes Aerosmith (which I'm not really a fan of.) then oh well.
I find it more cute if he didn't, because that might be a way for me to deal with compromise.
Now does that mean I'm looking exclusively for situations like that? Hell no, but I'm saying it's just more interesting that way, and I'll take love as it comes.
To me I'm just a sponge, and I'll try to accept what he does, and hopefully he accepts what I do, for the sake of our love.
