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On Topic Discussion Taralen's 2018 Random Musings About Life...

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Re: Can gay and straight men be friends?

^ Maybe you're not adding enough subtext.

"Can a flaming gay man be friends with phenotypically straight men?"

If you add the subtext and make it all impossible, it becomes impossible.

It also becomes impossible if you use your persona to trigger straight homophobia instead of allow vanilla straight men to find some common ground and learn friendship with someone very different.

There are all sorts of gays, all sorts of straights, and all sorts of friendships. They all have to be developed, as any friendship.

But speaking generally though. It's just more out of the ordinary and more of an issue.
 
Re: Why are straight people not interested in your personal life being gay?

All my friends are straight and they don't shy away from asking questions, even the guys. I just spoke to a friend from high school on FB who casually asked me about my relationship and how things are going, the same way one would ask a straight guy how he and his gf are doing.
 
Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

The tension can exist but the important is what we do with it.
We need to develop our values, our inner strength and follow our path.
A good part of our suffering is caused by the unnecessary wish of approval. Of course we need to live within society and there are rules to be obeyed, but we can look for our place in this world...|

I agree
 
Re: Why are straight people not interested in your personal life being gay?

All my friends are straight and they don't shy away from asking questions, even the guys. I just spoke to a friend from high school on FB who casually asked me about my relationship and how things are going, the same way one would ask a straight guy how he and his gf are doing.

I've just had opposite experiences. Ugh.
 
Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

Is there tension between masculine and feminine gay guys. Yes, just read what nothardup and fabulouslyghetto have been saying to each other lately. Proof positive.
 
Re: Can gay and straight men be friends?

Taralen, there is a thread here asking us if most of our friends are gay or straight. Then answers seem to indicate most gays have more straight friends than you think. Sexuality is not much of a determining factor in friendship.
 
Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

I smiled today that I woke up.

I laughed earlier at a MADTV sketch on youtube.

I'm listening to some R&B music right now. Latrelle (who Kaytranada remixed her stuff).

I hate porn right now, as I wish I had a boyfriend. Porn just makes me sad.

MadTV's worst sketch > SNL's best

Glad to hear the hurricane has subsided, at least for now.
 
Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

Is there tension between masculine and feminine gay guys. Yes, just read what nothardup and fabulouslyghetto have been saying to each other lately. Proof positive.

Yeah, that fem witch is trying to work her evil bitchcraft (not a typo) on me, following me around the forums trying to feed me her poison apple SMH. A masculine brotha just can't catch a break.
 
Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

I don't think there is so much in the real world. On dating sites, yes, as a positional thing. But, in the real world, I think it is more live and let die, and the two worlds have less overlap and little friction.

I'm not considered masculine by anyone I know, btw, only assertive, but divas are assertive, so there's nothing macho about that. I brag at work about baking, a sure cancer in the defense industry where I work. I might as well have a "I SUCK COCK" bumper sticker on my car.
 
Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

I might as well have a "I SUCK COCK" bumper sticker on my car.

Put it between your COEXIST sticker and your VOTE BERNIE SANDERS sticker.
 
Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

Put it between your COEXIST sticker and your VOTE BERNIE SANDERS sticker.

Sorry, with the recent postings I think that would be a MAKE AMERICA GREAT AGAIN sticker :p
 
Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

Ha ha ha ha ha. Nothing like the haters making up straw men.

Where IS the Shark lately anyway? Oh, right. It's tax season.
 
Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

Sorry, with the recent postings I think that would be a MAKE AMERICA GREAT AGAIN sticker :p

Sounds strikingly accurate. I'd go a step further and imagine it's a "Make America White Again" sticker. Speaking of tension....
 
Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

Sorry, with the recent postings I think that would be a MAKE AMERICA GREAT AGAIN sticker :p

Sounds strikingly accurate. I'd go a step further and imagine it's a "Make America White Again" sticker. Speaking of tension....

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Since the real conservatives don't post in the play threads, I'll leave this here to complete the trope . . . It's probably the coming thing among the real conservatives.

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Why is the gay community so promiscious and sex crazed?

This is a list of several topics I wanted to discuss that I feel people aren't really discussing in the queer/gay male community which are.

Is there racism/discrimination in the gay male community?
Is gay for pay porn damaging to the gay/queer male community?
Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?
Is having a racial/body/personality preference preference okay?
Should queer people be open at their workplace?
Why is the gay community so promiscuous and sex crazed?

Just as an introduction as I know we all come from different backgrounds and situations and experiences, I am a gay African/Black American feminine man.

So in this topic, I'm asking why is the gay community so promiscuous and sex crazed?


This is not to be confused with, Is gay for pay porn damaging to the gay/queer male community?


This is something I noticed. That gay men are way more sex crazed than straight men in some aspects. I just do not understand it all. I don't.

It's a big part of the culture and community. Having grindr and hooking up and all that stuff.

Prostitution in many parts of the world is illegal (with the exception of Nevada here in the Untied States and in other countries) and is shamed against. Prostitution isn't just people standing on a street corner, it's paying someone you don't know to have sex or do sexual acts with you.

So in that sense, escorts and rent boys are prostitutes I'm sorry. Just because they only have sex with men, or take in men partners as well, doesn't give them a pass or a cop out.

We don't get any legal passes for being gay, (in some cases the law actually works against us. [Except for maybe extreme cases of gay bashing or something, even in those cases we still experience injustice]. Companies can fire us from jobs and landlords can deny/evict us from housing, the social stigma of being homosexual just to name a few.) so the laws still apply to us.

In the same token, sex exploitation is also kinda shunned. Even though gay marriage is legal here in the united states, I believe there are still gay sodomy laws in some southern states.

That includes bathhouses, gay sex clubs, grindr, and going cruising and using hook up apps.

What I'm trying to say, is why is all of this adnorned and supported in the gay male community, when in the straight world all of this is considered shameful.

For example, women who are on straight escort sites are not hired to have sex. If you do have sex with her, it's considered prostitution and it's illegal. They are just hired to accompany the man at an event etc. Yet here in the gay community, that's quite the opposite. An escort is a guy you call to strictly have sex with quickly and discreet as possible. I don't get it.

There isn't a building or an app strictly for straights to have sex in. Yeah there are strip clubs and gentlemens clubs, but no they aren't having sex.

Yes in Nevada there are brothels but again prostitution is legal there so.

Here in the gay community, there are so many gay bathhouses and underground sex clubs online that you pay money to use, there are so many hook up apps it's crazy.

You see where the loophole is?

Why in the gay community is all of this an exception?

Why can't we as gay men just get to know one another, rather than paying people or having to pay to have sex, or by exploiting ourselves to have sex? I don't get this shit.

As someone who is gay and a person of color who has never had a boyfriend and I'm almost 30, I should be the last person to complain about this, but I'm not necessarily complaining. I'm just confused and I feel it's really messing our community up.

Can someone explain why? Please.
 
Should queer people be open at their workplace?

This is a list of several topics I wanted to discuss that I feel people aren't really discussing in the queer/gay male community which are.

Is there racism/discrimination in the gay male community?
Is gay for pay porn damaging to the gay/queer male community?
Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?
Is having a racial/body/personality preference preference okay?
Should queer people be open at their workplace?
Why is the gay community so promiscuous and sex crazed?

Just as an introduction as I know we all come from different backgrounds and situations and experiences, I am a gay African/Black American feminine man.

So in this topic, I'm asking should queer people be open with their sexuality at the workplace?

This is not to be confused with, Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students. Which I feel is a different issue and topic

Me personally, I think it should depend on what it is. As sad as it makes me say that. I feel in some cases, guys should sadly be closeted at work. It sucks so much to type that though.

But I don't know.

I understand not everyone will agree with me. That's fine. But I'm still keeping my opinion on this subject.

Whether you're working at "Pop Goes The Weasel Burger", or a Fortune 500 company.

Whether you're masculine, feminine, straight acting, discreet, whatever.

I feel (if you work in an open minded arena, and live in an open minded area) you should most definitely at some point whether it's verbally, non verbally, interpersonally, showing hints etc. Tell your coworkers and company of your sexuality.

There is a certain way to do this yes, but you should still be open to it.

If for any reason that you feel you can't, then I understand. My only issue is that I can imagine this might be a homophobic environment in which you can't. That's also sad, but I understand.

For example, being a teacher. Which is another topic and issue.

For many reasons.

1.Your career is a big part of you. Your sexuality is also apart of you. By hiding your sexuality, you're saying it's not apart of your for the job.

2.It clears the air and you know where you stand. I'd rather just be honest, than have people gossip and things such as that.

3.(Especially if you work for many hours, and the longer you work at a place. Have big connections with other people at your job) You should let this fact about yourself be known at your place of business or where you work. Being around people you see continually. You should be open like that.

So that's what I believe.

But I don't know. I guess it would be a case by case situation.

To me I'll always be open at work, so I don't know.

What do you think?
 
Is having a racial/body/personality preference preference okay?

This is a list of several topics I wanted to discuss that I feel people aren't really discussing in the queer/gay male community which are.

Is there racism/discrimination in the gay male community?
Is gay for pay porn damaging to the gay/queer male community?
Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?
Is having a racial/body/personality preference preference okay?
Should queer people be open at their workplace?
Why is the gay community so promiscuous and sex crazed?

Just as an introduction as I know we all come from different backgrounds and situations and experiences, I am a gay African/Black American feminine man.

So in this topic, I'm asking is having a racial/body/personality preference okay?

This is not to be confused with, Is There racism/discrimination in the gay male community

So again, I'm a gay black dark skin, feminine gay man.

About a week ago, I was on a queer/LGBT some other website. For those that don't know, some other website is a chat site, to where you can talk to other people via short messages.

The chat room was mostly queer people who are african/black.

It got to the discussion to where we were talking about attraction.

One thing led to another, and I admitted a harsh truth of mine, and that's I don't find most black men attractive. I really don't. I have to be honest.

Are there black men I find attractive, yes. But I'm gonna be honest, he would either have to be like a bear or chub type, like Cedric The Entertainer or something or like that,
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But even then, I would really preferably, in addition to that, he would have to have some broad Caucasian features or be kinda fair and light with his skin and still be considered black/mixed, to some degrees, like Ebro Darden from Hot 97 to give a more perfect example.

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Another step above that would possibly be some racially ambiguous roughneck type man who is more bigger and bear type. Rupert Boneham from Survivor is another good example.

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I'll just use a couple more to give an idea of what my type is.

A kinda urban and quirky, nerdy and goofy, pudgy and oblong and unconventional, guy is also my next type. I'm gonna use Neil Hamburger.
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Here he is out of character, as that's a bad picture of him.
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Finally, a guy who has a little bit more meat on his bones, but still falls under the urban goofy geeky guy. Kevin Smith.

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Now if I didn't mention a specific type of guy, he's more than likely not my type. If he is asian or middle eastern or any other race I didn't mention, again he would have to be bear type or goofy roughneck type.

I'm not at all attracted to feminine guys.

I could be friends with these guys, and I could kick it with them and we can shoot the shit and crap, but I'm not at all attracted to this.
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I'm also not attracted to the conventional plastic Ken Doll types. The Tom Cruise and Chris Evans and Zac Efron and Liam Hemsworth types and shit. No thank you.

Now I was attacked and punished so much for what I mentioned above.

I was called self hating, and that I had issues.

When you can't help what you're attracted to.

If other guys weren't attracted to black feminine guys, wonderful, awesome. It's okay.

We are all attracted to what we are.

So do you think having a racial/body/personality preference okay?
 
Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?

This is a list of several topics I wanted to discuss that I feel people aren't really discussing in the queer/gay male community which are.

Is there racism/discrimination in the gay male community?
Is gay for pay porn damaging to the gay/queer male community?
Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?
Is having a racial/body/personality preference preference okay?
Should queer people be open at their workplace?
Why is the gay community so promiscuous and sex crazed?

Just as an introduction as I know we all come from different backgrounds and situations and experiences, I am a gay African/Black American feminine man.

So in this topic, I'm asking should teachers that are LGBT/queer be open to their students.

This is not to be confused with, Should queer people be open in the workplace. Which is a more general discussion.)

So basically, I had this debate with a female friend of mine recently.

It's on the fact, as to whether or not teachers should be open about their sexuality or not, to the school staff or to their students etc.

Because correlating to this, I have a male acquaintance of mine, (he's not my friend) who is a school teacher. He teaches grade school children. He is proud to be a gay man, and is all into gay rights. However, he is not out to his class.

This is in California mind you. An open minded area.

I didn't challenge him on this. In fact, I haven't spoken to him in quite a while. I just know he's a gay schoolteacher that's closeted. I didn't try to challenge him.

I did bring it up with another friend of mine.

I then told my female friend, that me personally, I believe that he should set an example for the students in his class. As some of them could be LGBT themselves, and he should come out and be open.

Then my female friend said he's taking a risk doing that. Kids already bash and harass teachers period, so imagine a gay teacher being out.

Then I had to stop and think for a minute and flashback.

Now this was back in the 90s. But I do remember my 4th grade teacher, she got unexpectedly ill, and for a few weeks or so, we had this kinda fruity substitute geeky white guy as our teacher. It was obvious that he was gay, and he was very sassy and kinda rude and mean to us. So we did play pranks on him and call him the f word and throw oranges at the blackboard. We were black bay bay kids in an inner city elementary school so.

He eventually left, and he was replaced by this old white lady who was even stricter than he was. So I guess that's what we got. I'm digressing so badly I'm sorry.

We were black bay bay kids in an inner city elementary school so. I'm digressing so much. I'm sorry.

Basically, what I'm trying to say is that she does have a point to where teachers are harassed, and I can imagine a gay teacher might face even more issues.

But I don't know. I still feel that teachers get harassed anyways, so I feel he should be open anyways.

She then says, his sexuality is none of his business, and that has nothing to do with being a teacher.

I refuted her by saying, children spend 8 hours a day, 5 days a week with this teacher. I think if he is gay, that should be something they should know.

Of course this is just me.

I feel there just could be a queer kid in his class that might be struggling, and him coming out might make a difference somehow and someway.

I know being a gay black man, if I did have any gay teachers or mentors growing up (I didn't really have any), that would have been nice.

But I see the other side to where someone might not want to do that. I guess there might be homophobic reactions in many gateways.

Like I said, I live in California so, I don't know.

So what do you guys think?
 
Re: Is having a racial/body/personality preference preference okay?

How many of these are you going to spam the place with, it's dull and boring listening to people give you advise and support again and again, and all you do is throw every minority poor me card at them.
 
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