"Thank you little fucker" Family shocked by waiter's comment on their receipt

[genthree]

One of the requirements for having stupid kids is to have stupid parents. I am sure this kid is "special" and "talented" (less).
PS You should not write down compliments like that - you could get fired !

 

[BearBoi]

First off, we're only getting the side of the story belonging to the parents. I'd bet money it was a lot worse than the calm, one incident scenario they told the news media.

I don't blame the child. The child is nothing other than a product of its upbringing. I blame the parents. You can be responsible beyond being irresponsible when it comes to your children.

First off - don't take a 2 year old to a sports bar / restaurant. Regardless of it having a "kid zone" or not.

Second off - if your child throws a tantrum then you don't subject the rest of the patrons, the wait-staff, management, etc. to that tantrum. You get up and take the child and you leave the establishment.

The parents should have turned around and walked out as soon as they realized that there was going to be a wait/delay, etc. That's where it all began. Stupid parents.

As I said, I don't blame the child, but yes, I do and will get upset over bad behavior of a two year old (or any child) when the parents are the reason behind the bad behavior.

Wonderful little checklist. Quite neat and organized.

Raised many kids?

I worked wait staff in a couple of restaurants while I was in college - and ya know, there are just days when you take all you can take and you just snap. I can imagine opening weekend in this place was chaotic and stressful - and the woman just snapped. But like I said, I wouldn't have been near as nice or obscure about it as she was.

Then you were in the wrong line of work. I'm glad you're out of it now. No patron to any establishment should be abused by the staff because they "just snap"... especially when the cause of that snap-worthy stress is a 2 year old child.

 

[Houseboy]

The receipt shouldn't have stated "thank you little fucker". Instead it should have stated "Thank you MOTHER fucker" because the MOTHER didn't take control of her child! If the parents thought their evening and meal was ruined by a remark on their receipt..maybe they should have thought about how their child's tantrum ruined the evening of the other patrons!

 

[BearBoi]

The receipt shouldn't have stated "thank you little fucker". Instead it should have stated "Thank you MOTHER fucker" because the MOTHER didn't take control of her child! If the parents thought their evening and meal was ruined by a remark on their receipt..maybe they should have thought about how their child's tantrum ruined the evening of the other patrons!

You are blaming the 2 year old child?

As it see it, the restaurant openly advertised a kids' zone for family eating. If people didn't clue in that there would be children at the establishment, than that is their issue, not the infant's or the parent's.

And another thing, the article didn't say other customers were complaining; it only mentioned how the staff -- who applied to work at a restaurant with a kids' zone -- treated the family and called the baby a "little fucker."

The woman who wrote the message was 29 for gods sake. Let's put the blame where it is due.

Besides, making a family with small children wait over 20 minutes for their meal, and then another (almost) 20 minutes for the bill, is just insane. If anyone had a right to be using profanity, it was the customers. But clearly, they had too much class.

 

[Houseboy]

Hey BearBoi get the stuffed cotton out of you brain..I am blaming the mother not the child..maybe you should have dinner with a two year old throwing a tantrum and see how you will enjoy it!!

 

[Ninja108]

She got fired, as she should have. That should be the end of it.
Getting a lawyer only makes you look greedy and in the wrong.

 

[Sam Blum]

Wonderful little checklist. Quite neat and organized.

Raised many kids?



Then you were in the wrong line of work. I'm glad you're out of it now. No patron to any establishment should be abused by the staff because they "just snap"... especially when the cause of that snap-worthy stress is a 2 year old child.

I have no children, but continue to work as an educator, and have done so for 20 odd years. To imply that somebody should stay quiet, stay out of it, doesn't understand or whatever when it comes to difficult social situations involving kids is silly, for the simple reason that kids operate in society. ie/ All of society gets to observe, judge, comment, whether we like what is said or not - just like straight people telling gay people how we can behave or what we are allowed to do. The fact is that 2 year old kids can behave well in public, and when they choose not to, there must be firm and kind boundaries set and maintained by parents - boundaries that respect others all around them and that teach the child to respect those all around them, too. Anything less is discourteous and unacceptable.

Children should not be seen as merely "expressing themselves" when they misbehave, they should be viewed as needing something. Sometimes that thing is quiet time alone, sometimes it's discipline, sometimes it's a spank, sometimes it's quiet talking/explaining. It is not unreasonable for a family/child to wait 20 minutes to eat - we did it easily, this family could cope if they tried to cope, and they would be able to develop the child's understanding of patience and to learn that old expression taht all good things come to those who wait.

CHildren are having children - and I don;t just mean chronological children, but immature, poorly instructed, silly people who have little understanding of their own world and how it fits into the larger world around themselves upon which they will more often than once come to rely and depend. To neglect and to abuse the people around you as you add to the social number and to expect that dissenting folk fall in line with idiocy is too much. There are times when good parents will make their child silent or leave and return home. Life is not all supposed to be rosey and joyful and a box of chocolates at Christmas - kids need to make mistakes, and learn from them. And they and the parents who chose to make them pay for the learning to a dispropotionate level because it is their responsibility primarily, not that of others who had this all put upon them. When it's the waiter's kids, he'll pay the consequences; in the meantime, he has a right to go to work without tolerating shit from selfish kids and their fucked up parents! As do all the silent folk sitting around not wanting to upset anyone by complaining about the fucking little ratbag making an idiot of itself.

 

[bankside]

Passive-aggressive is never appropriate in a restaurant. The two choices were to accept that the kid was acting as (some) kids do and the parents were responding as (some) parents do, or to show them the door.

You don't accept someone's business and then insult them for it. The correct alternative is, if the behaviour is that bad, to be a grown-up and tell them to leave.

 

[Houseboy]

She got fired, as she should have. That should be the end of it.
Getting a lawyer only makes you look greedy and in the wrong.

In California, she would be considered at "at will employee" whom could be fired for any reason.

 

[BearBoi]

Hey BearBoi get the stuffed cotton out of you brain..I am blaming the mother not the child..maybe you should have dinner with a two year old throwing a tantrum and see how you will enjoy it!!

You argue semantics over a single word rather than address my points.

And my friend has a 2 year old child, whom I’ve eaten dinner with many times. If you take a hungry 2 year old and make them wait 20+ minutes for a meal, they get cranky. Any restaurant claiming to be family-friendly with a specialized “Kids’ Zone” should know that, and more aptly, their staff should know that.

Defending the abuse issued to the family is simply asinine.

Ta.

I have no children, but continue to work as an educator, and have done so for 20 odd years. To imply that somebody should stay quiet, stay out of it, doesn't understand or whatever when it comes to difficult social situations involving kids is silly, for the simple reason that kids operate in society.

Making observations and comments is one thing; issuing numbered checklists about the expected decorum of child rearing when ones only experience has been with a pet cat irks me.

 

[Houseboy]

You argue semantics over a single word rather than address my points.

And my friend has a 2 year old child, whom I’ve eaten dinner with many times. If you take a hungry 2 year old and make them wait 20+ minutes for a meal, they get cranky. Any restaurant claiming to be family-friendly with a specialized “Kids’ Zone” should know that, and more aptly, their staff should know that.

Defending the abuse issued to the family is simply asinine.

Ta.



Making observations and comments is one thing; issuing numbered checklists about the expected decorum of child rearing when ones only experience has been with a pet cat irks me.

Yes Bearboi I agree that 2 year olds get cranky when they are hungry, thats why smart parents take something like saltine crackers in case a two year old acts up..so maybe you can understand my point..

 

[Tadaa]

Yes Bearboi I agree that 2 year olds get cranky when they are hungry, thats why smart parents take something like saltine crackers in case a two year old acts up..so maybe you can understand my point..

Whether the parents brought crackers or not isn't the point. To be angry about the parenting skills of the two year old is still wrong. The staffer in question was out of line.