The Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2016

[jbrown329]

The city I live in is an utter and complete shit-hole.

 

[mikemizanin729]

I got bored of listening to this nonsense a minute in.

 

[refujiunderground]

beginning to realize that a lot of internet spots for gay men are toxic dumping grounds with a few safe havens and some people that aren't affected by the negative. wonder why that is. reading a good portion of what some of these sites are about is just sad and disheartening. i sometimes wonder how and why some of those same folks try to act like they are "above" everybody else like their shit doesn't stink when they are exactly the type of people they despise. like you're an asshole too. i'd give someone credit if they could own up to their imperfections instead of denying it and telling other people that they are fucked up. you can't grow like that nor will you have people on your side.

it seems like it's the thing to use the internet as a form of escape away from life BUT @ the same time, i notice that these same folks want to mention about "certain" aspects of their lives that are feel are "desirable" where they like to mention how they have a boyfriend if they have one, how they have sex all the time, their bodies or how "good" they look and etc in an poor attempt to make themselves appear to look good to whoever or make them seem like they are enjoying life when how they act and what they say says otherwise when you see what they have to say, their thoughts, how they treat others, how they view themselves, self respect and etc. my thing is you don't have to impress or prove yourself to me or the world around you, breh, in order to win respect and etc. you'll win some, you'll lose some. just be yourself. the real people that like you and respect you will be down for you regardless where they aren't going to care about any of that superficial, impression bullshit. you win respect when you don't act like an asshole and behave like a decent human being as well as coming as you are. of course, there's going to be moments of being an asshole but if you have more asshole moments than good moments then it's going to make a big statement on the type of person you are.

i often wonder why some gay guys think that being mean towards other gay men and etc is supposed to make them likable. it's not.

 

[johaninsc]

 

[rareboy]

....and...we're back.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

I think a lot influences what we dream and we don't even realize it. A movie we watched, something we think about as we fall asleep, a problem we've been dealing with at the back of our minds. They'll all manifest in dreams, but in different ways we might not associate. The mind is an amazing thing.

I can't sleep in the dark anymore because this is when my anxiety shoots up and I usually have my worst nightmares. I didn't always have a problem with sleeping in the dark but this first started it was after I played a horror game and in my dream I thought I was awake (because I "woke up" in my bed) and it was one of the worst nightmares and feelings I had from them. I sleep with a light on now, too afraid not to.

 

[sixthson]

Refuji, maybe it's time to stop visiting all these sites that bother and annoy you. They seem to be toxic to you. What attracts you to them in the first place?

 

[refujiunderground]

Refuji, maybe it's time to stop visiting all these sites that bother and annoy you. They seem to be toxic to you. What attracts you to them in the first place?

I did. It's that it seems damn near every site that I've stumbled upon has the same shit. Like after awhile, it's clear that it's folks spreading that shit.

 

[mikemizanin729]

I did. It's that it seems damn near every site that I've stumbled upon has the same shit. Like after awhile, it's clear that it's folks spreading that shit.

All you have to do is stay away from those places then.

 

[mikey3000]

Refugi, once you learn that a lot of gay guys, not all but a lot, act like teenage girls, you'll get a better handle on them. Yes, many DO provoke just for shits and giggles, but if you want to interact with them, you gotta learn to play the game. Sadly this had been my experience.

 

[sixthson]

Refuji, what are you hoping to learn from these sites? Surely there must be sites that states POVs with which you agree?

To me, it's like someone with a politically liberal viewpoint being annoyed by what they hear on FOX news. Why do they even go there once you know what they are airing? There are just some places you don't go if you want to hear or read things that share your values.
Life is too short to spend much time being annoyed by other people's ignorance, my friend.

You are right about this thread being a place to vent. If I'm not mistaken, you started the thread, right? But unless it is stated otherwise, you have to expect others will disagree or even negatively respond to what you write. Some will even be nasty about it. Just ignore it.

 

[refujiunderground]

Refugi, once you learn that a lot of gay guys, not all but a lot, act like teenage girls, you'll get a better handle on them. Yes, many DO provoke just for shits and giggles, but if you want to interact with them, you gotta learn to play the game. Sadly this had been my experience.

Lol. I feel ya. Some folks love drama because they think it makes them tough or personable. Truth be told, I don't even understand that shit. Between that and some people acting like it's a competition. The shit that folks fight over sometimes makes no sense. That's why I just play the background and even will admit I'm scared to interact with folks because it's like they're looking for shit.

 

[refujiunderground]

Refuji, what are you hoping to learn from these sites? Surely there must be sites that states POVs with which you agree?

To me, it's like someone with a politically liberal viewpoint being annoyed by what they hear on FOX news. Why do they even go there once you know what they are airing? There are just some places you don't go if you want to hear or read things that share your values.
Life is too short to spend much time being annoyed by other people's ignorance, my friend.

You are right about this thread being a place to vent. If I'm not mistaken, you started the thread, right? But unless it is stated otherwise, you have to expect others will disagree or even negatively respond to what you write. Some will even be nasty about it. Just ignore it.

I'm just looking for a place for gay people to interact without leaving my home sometimes like here. I don't expect shit to be perfect but after seeing the same shit and negativity. It's like damn wtf? Ill discover new places and see the same negative shit.

And yeah, folks are welcomed to have a opinion but some people don't know when to stop. Like they can't just keep it one comment. They gotta chase folks around on some annoyance shit. I

 

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[Alistair]

I can't sleep in the dark anymore because this is when my anxiety shoots up and I usually have my worst nightmares. I didn't always have a problem with sleeping in the dark but this first started it was after I played a horror game and in my dream I thought I was awake (because I "woke up" in my bed) and it was one of the worst nightmares and feelings I had from them. I sleep with a light on now, too afraid not to.

When I first moved in my house I was unnerved by the little trap door going into the attic, exactly like the one in The Grudge. It took me a couple nights to get a good sleep. I woke up once imagining that giant ghost girl thing coming out of my ceiling.

Maybe try cutting down to a bedside light, then a night light then nothing?

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

I have tried sleeping without the light from time to time but I get the some same anxiousness and 90% of the time still get these same nightmares where I think I am awake. It is really surreal and one of the scariest things I have experience, so I think I will just live with keeping the light on, lol.

 

[Cormac135]

I have tried sleeping without the light from time to time but I get the some same anxiousness and 90% of the time still get these same nightmares where I think I am awake. It is really surreal and one of the scariest things I have experience, so I think I will just live with keeping the light on, lol.

Would just putting on a lamp help, or the lights on a dimmer switch, slowly wean yourself off the need for the light ?

 

[Charon]

I really hate the ads for the asinine str8-to-gay series that they play on pornhub. And I especially hate the even more asinine captions that they put on the ads like : Bro was that your dick?. It's a real boner killer.

 

[rareboy]

I have tried sleeping without the light from time to time but I get the some same anxiousness and 90% of the time still get these same nightmares where I think I am awake. It is really surreal and one of the scariest things I have experience, so I think I will just live with keeping the light on, lol.

I have fallen asleep too many nights with my cat Minnie pinning me down so that I don't turn off the light.

Thing is, you don't get as good quality sleep in a lighted room. Even a shielded night light might help you actually get a better night's sleep.

Or you just need to get someone to sleep with and hold you.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Would just putting on a lamp help, or the lights on a dimmer switch, slowly wean yourself off the need for the light ?

I have fallen asleep too many nights with my cat Minnie pinning me down so that I don't turn off the light.

Thing is, you don't get as good quality sleep in a lighted room. Even a shielded night light might help you actually get a better night's sleep.

Or you just need to get someone to sleep with and hold you.

The light I do keep on is a lamp with a shade, so that does the job. I am not too keen on wanting to ween myself off of it, I have tried quite a few times to sleep without the light with only the same results. I have been comfortable with this set up for quite some time. I just find the topic of what can influence dreams interesting, just kind of odd for so long not having any problem sleeping in the dark and having no problems with nightmares, then all of a sudden in my 30's it comes out of nowhere.