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The love of my life is getting married...

Well, don´t make your life miserable because of him. Just find someone else. And who really loves you.
 








Oh God I feel so powerless and heartbroken... He still loves me, but we are stuck on this situation... Y ni modo :( :( :cry: :( :(


:help:
 
Is this the point where I'm supposed to say you need to do everything in your power to stop him from getting married, because you two are destined to be together?

...

'cause I ain't gonna.

Sorry to hear that.

Lex
 
First a little FYI, he´s getting married (to a woman, and he´s gay) because the circumstances of society in my country are such that it has to be that way... You couldn´t never understand that....

And second... any ideas to get my mind thinking off that on Saturday? :help:
 
He is not married yet. If you truly believe that it is a mistake...

you should seriously consider discussing it with him again, ASAP, before the ceremony.

just make sure that it is about what is best for him....

If getting married is what is best for him...I'm sorry to say that you just need to let it be.
 
metta said:
He is not married yet. If you truly believe that it is a mistake...

you should seriously consider discussing it with him again, ASAP, before the ceremony.

just make sure that it is about what is best for him....

If getting married is what is best for him...I'm sorry to say that you just need to let it be.
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Oh believe me we have discussed this shit a lot. But, even thou he doesn´t want to and does not love her, it has to be that way.

Sad thing is, that I´m heading into that path myself too... Trapped in a loveless marriage, just for the sake of appearances...

Oh well... it´s not a tragedy or anything just thought I´d share my present state of mind.

:(
 
lugus15 said:
Oh believe me we have discussed this shit a lot. But, even thou he doesn´t want to and does not love her, it has to be that way.

Sad thing is, that I´m heading into that path myself too... Trapped in a loveless marriage, just for the sake of appearances...

Oh well... it´s not a tragedy or anything just thought I´d share my present state of mind.

:(
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No, that is a tragedy. My heart breaks for both of you!
 
^ Well, he has made it clear that he will only leave her and this fucked up marriage for me... but I just can not come out of the closet, I just can not... And I feel guilty ](*,)
 
Lugus, it's times like this that you really need to sit back, and take stock on your life, based on the one thing that truly matters. How happy you are. That's all I live for, personally, because every one of my achievements makes me happy, and that's why I do it.

Now.

Would you be happier if;
1.) You caved to societies pressures and got married to someone you didn't love, but on the plus side, you felt like you weren't such an outcast; that you were fitting in?

or

2.) You lived your life, and had to put up with a lot of shit along the way?

I mean, it sucks that you have to make choices like this, and I feel for you - because of different pressures where you are, I guess the pressure is worse - but it still comes down to one thing. Would you be happier pretending all your life, wasting what is quite likely to be our one and only shot at it, or would you be happier living life as yourself, and not constantly moulding yourself into the shape of a typical straight man?

(*8*)

Don't let society's pressures control your personal decisions. This is too damned important for that.
 
lugus15 said:
^ Well, he has made it clear that he will only leave her and this fucked up marriage for me... but I just can not come out of the closet, I just can not... And I feel guilty ](*,)
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Why can't you come out of the closet?



We all have to decide what is more important to us in life. What is more important than being honest with yourself, the people around you, and being with the love of your life?
 
darlingstacy said:
I am sorry but I'm so confused.

Who's happiness do you want? His or yours? 'Cause if you want his you will stay out of it and let him live his life as he sees fit. And you'll stop pining for a guy who made his choice.

Last time I checked it wasn't impossible to move out of the country if you feel that you are being repressed for being who you are. If he really loved you he'd meet you in Spain and you'd live happily ever after.

Sorry, just my feelings on it. Nobody is ever stuck in a situation. Ever.
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I agree 110% with Darlingstacy. Nobody is trapped in any situation. Lugus, it is time to man up and be the real YOU not somebody what society wants you to be.
 
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