It's fine if it doesn't bother you. I'm not trying to tell you to be bothered by something you aren't bothered by. But I wouldn't ask you not to be offended by str8top's post, that's all I would expect in return.
Fuck, my laptop crashed while responding... Ugh, yay memory.
Well, the comparison is simply incorrect. When a gay man is using offensive homophobic oversimplified ways to describe other gay men, we have a problem, and it's not even a problem of stereotypes, I'd say.
Don't get me wrong. Stereotyping might not bother me, but it tells me something of the people doing it. If you can't get beyond "Omg, you're gay, we should be besties and shop for clothes!", I likely won't be having anything to do with you. But not because I have a problem with stereotypes, simply because I would think you're a fucking idiot who can't think for yourself. Like I already said, stereotypes are shortcuts. They are not offensive on their own, though they could easily become so with the thought put behind them. For example, if
I were to say that gay men were feminine, you'd know I don't mean it in a negative way at all.
There is another thing, which I talked about earlier, but nobody addressed it, so I assume it got lost. We do not own our choices, opinions, tastes, even our behavior. They have been premeditated for us by complex combinations of environment, our past and our subconscious mind. Sometimes it is possible to trace a thought or a reaction back to its source components - the childhood scene by the camp fire when your dad sang you
that one awesome song is obviously the reason why you love that one awesome song. But most are not as simple as that, and often the reasons are subconscious. My position is that when we talk about aspects of homosexuality - WE, who are homosexuals, grown up in a time and in places where homosexuality, though more accepted than before, is still largely frowned upon - our circumstances growing up and dealing with our homosexuality play a MAJOR role in forming our opinions and responses on the subject.
You are of course free to disagree, but I think it would be a bold claim to say that it is entirely untrue. And if so, I would ask you to try and trace your problem with the gay stereotypes - as they are related to you - to its source, and tell me what it is, if not issues related to you being gay.
And do you really think gay men are more promiscuous? Serious question. I have never looked at stats or numbers or research to know.
Offtopic I guess, but who cares.
I believe MEN - straight and gay alike - are genetically designed to be sexually promiscuous. To spread our seed as far and wide as we can, so to speak
The same way as women are the opposite - designed to screen all potential partners until they find the perfect one. Which is a good explanation to why lesbians are so territorial and why they mate seemingly for life. They are the werewolves to our decadent vampires
But of course, it goes beyond that for gay men. First of all, both partners are male, so the "screening process" that's supposed to keep our horniness in check, is not there. Second, gay culture is often very shallow and oversexualized. The bar scene is all about perfect bodies, sex jokes and easy sex. So it feeds into the rest.
That shouldn't be mistaken with romantic feelings though. I believe all human beings gravitate toward emotional monogamy. It is the most stable way to invest emotionally, and the least complicated. And I think the biggest percentage of gay drama - as well as the reason for why so many gay relationships are so short-lived - is due to the dissonance between emotional monogamy and sexual polygamy.
