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Well..sitting here bored tonight...just thought Id pop back on and share some random stuff..

Over the past few weeks/months I have been dating several guys...ALL were/are great guys...I even traveled up to Delaware to meet this dude I met here in NYC...Had some cool times, hot times lol, but over all pretty laid back and chill, we had dinners, saw movies, lounged around...real relaxing times.....I don't see it becoming a long term thing but we have remained friends...

I have been seriously talking to this guy in Dallas Texas...and normally I would throw up a wall to this guy because he is so far away but we met here once.(NYC)..and talk all the time...and it just SEEMS RIGHT...So for once I am following my heart...and letting down the walls and seeing where it goes....He is looking for a LTR like me and is willing to relocate and we click on all levels...my friend Latoya is coming with me on August 19-25 to see him...I am extremely nervous but lets see where this goes...I am logically cautious but also letting my heart guide me at the same time...

I am going to Montreal,Canada this Friday to be at my older brother's wedding to his partner of 10 years....I was asked to be a witness, and my whole family i going down there...I am so nervous to fly....I have flown before quite a few times but the night before a trip I always stay up with excitement...the airplane and airport is a double edge sword, it gets me nervous, but in an odd way I like the nervousness...I dunno how to explain it...

Anyway, I'm at a point now where I am the happiest in my life...just thought Id share that with you guys, hope all is well with every one of you....Summer is going fast, in fact the fastest it has ever gone for me....I guess because I'm happier now and getting out there, time is flying :-)


BRIAN
 
Brian, Dude! :wave:

THANK YOU! for that update!! You're sounding SO much better! And, THAT, makes me Truly Happy!! (!w!)

HUGE HUGS to YOU, Latoya (a Real Friend!), your Bro, and Fam!!! (group)

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz :luv:
 
G-Lex and Kyanimal, you guys have been long supporters of me and what I have been through and where I am today...much love for you guys...xoxoxoxox BRIAN
 
Hey Bri,

Glad to hear that life is good.

Enjoy the wedding.
 
Very simialar thing happened to me. Simply you must tell him - your feelings wont go away not for a long long time. Once you tell him you can be happy.

SOUNDS like he does have a thing for you. Dont worry about him being with a girl and says all those things. A guy can be straight AND gay.

My gay started to do stuff with me (sexually) whislt telling me how hot girls were. He used me for sex in a way knowing I loved him so much.

Ended up having a massive argument and didnt talk for 6 months but now we are best friends (5 years strong). Its something you have to go through. He might want to be with you.

Belive me - TELL HIM!
 
O sorry I didnt realise their are 39 pages LOL!! Ignore that.

Glas your happy ;)
 
^ That's sort of what I've often thought when the thread reappears with a LostVegas posting...but not this time. I somehow knew, even before looking, that the news would be great news, and Andrew-less at that. I didn't expect the name Andrew to be entirely absent, but it felt good to think that Andrew wouldn't be a factor in this New News.

This was the first time I've gone onto a new series of postings in this thread, confident ahead of time that indeed Andrew wouldn't be a factor, but I thought there would still possibly be a mention of phone calls or something. But in whatever context I expected that Andrew might get a cursory mention, I was no longer expecting to see that he was trying to get money from you, or talking about moving back to New York City to be near you.

I've been following your saga since its earliest days as well, Brian, and I'm so happy to see the great ending! No, not an ending - there are surely more and more good things to come.

I'm glad to pass on enough hugs to go around for you, Latoya, and all those other people who are important in your life. Yes, Latoya sounds like the great type of friend that somebody finds once or twice in a lifetime. Such a friendship can be even greater and more special and important than a loving, monogamous relationship.
 
Frankfrank...you have been there yes..and I am deeply grateful....and true, rare friendships are really, really great sometimes and yes....even sometimes...thats all you need....thanks for your support...!!!

XOXOXOXOXO
 
No one asked for it lol, but I thought I would share with some of you what I actually look like. I figured some of you might be curious after 39 pages...I am without a doubt no Brad Pitt, but that is ok with me lol....
 

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No one asked for it lol, but I thought I would share with some of you what I actually look like. I figured some of you might be curious after 39 pages...I am without a doubt no Brad Pitt, but that is ok with me lol....

Hey Brian looking good! I'm glad everything worked out for you!

I know I was originally a big champion of you two getting together, and I still maintain you could have hooked up...but I'm glad you didn't. Even though it didn't work out the way you originally wanted it to, I agree I think it worked out much better this way.

Others will maintain that Andy purposefully used you. I still don't think that was the case. But recently I've had the displeasure of running into a whole slew of people who are just self-centered users...it's who they are. They don't make a conscious decision, "Hey, I need something and I'm gonna use this person to get it." But all the same, that's their personality.

As a matter of fact, you saved me from one. Remember when Andy kept hinting about wanting to move in with you in Jersey? Well I actually let one of them live with me, and what I got for it was I had to feed him, clothe him, entertain him, pay his cellphone bill...I got a little affection back for it but not a lot but I sure had to pay plenty attention to him..thanks to your story I recognized this guy as an Andy and gave him the boot.

Even if they're not doing it on purpose...it's not our responsibility to take care of them. Only when no ones enables them and they have to get their shit in gear or else will they come to any real realization about what they're doing.

Just because you love someone doesn't mean you should be with them. I'm sorry that Andy turned out to be a one of those, but I'm glad you've moved on, you sound LOTS happier now. And your story helped at least one other person to avoid similar trouble. Thanks!
 
CG...If you were here Id give you a huge hug....thanks for being a supporter and Im glad my little thing on here made you realize some things too...Im glad you did...and yes my life in just the past few years has changed beyond anything I can comprehend or write into words...im just completely HAPPY now...and Id never thought Id be able to say that...but here I am at 32 sayin it...and I love it....xoxoxoxoxoxo Brian
 
Wow I just went back and read my first post...and I have to say I come off like a little douche lol....I mean I can look back and laugh now...but I sounded like I was a 16 year old little girl writing in that post...and don't get me started on the typos...its just amazing how far I came when I first wrote that at 29...jesus...the first post is a little embarassing looking back on it to be honest....xoxoxoxoxo Bri
 
Hi Brian! Thanks for your update!

I'm really happy for you and glad things are going so well. You've really been through a lot and have come through it stronger and better than ever.

Have fun in Montreal! Keep in touch and let us know how things are going, too. :wave:
 
Brian ... :wave:

There is no doubt that your journey has been more than worth it! Especially considering how things are going for You now! ..|

And, I can't believe it's been three years, already!! #-o

But, Yeah!, because You chose to share this extended experience with "Us", You've not only managed to change direction for Yourself, but, also, CG, and, probably, many others that "we" are not, yet, aware of! (group)

THANK YOU! for Courageously sharing your Life, so openly and Honestly! I know it hasn't been all that easy for You to do so. But, the overall outcome has been more than worth it!! (!w!)

And, now, You may more fully understand what I mean when I say ... no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz ;)
 
Hey Chaz, remember back in the day when we (we as in a bunch of us who were following this thread) were going to take donations to get Brian a plane ticket out to Vegas? I'm so glad we were unable to do that.

Every time I go to Vegas now I think of Andy and where he's at...always wonder if he's out at some casino I'm at.

Brian, you did a lot of good for yourself and for other people with this thread. Not many other threads have had the impact of this one. Bravo!

BTW I have a similar thread going now. This guy I know is not using me, has some feeling for me, and at least I got to experience what you never did with Andy...he knows he's bi and is actually forward with me on those matters. It's more like he's coming on to me. But he's married, and your story is a powerful reminder that even if it looks like that marriage can't possibly last, it doesn't mean that it won't.

As long as my story comes out like yours...with me happy in the end, gettin what's good for me instead of just what I want, I'll be all good.
 
Others will maintain that Andy purposefully used you. I still don't think that was the case. But recently I've had the displeasure of running into a whole slew of people who are just self-centered users...it's who they are. They don't make a conscious decision, "Hey, I need something and I'm gonna use this person to get it." But all the same, that's their personality.

They're called sociopaths. And they prey on insecure emotionally needy people in search of validation .
 
Sounds like things are looking up for you, Brian.

Have a god time in Quebec.
 
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