What Do Women REALLY Think About Bisexual Men?

[couple4you]

Hi,

I'm a women and I have phantasies of bisexual or gay men having sex together since I was a teenager.
I find loving men very sexy and love to lick a boyass or fuck him with a "strap on", so I don't feel to 100% as a women. The biggest part of me is a male.
Since three years my bisexual boyfriend and I are in love and I was very happy, when he's said me that he's bisexual. We're looking for a boyfriend for sex and friendship for a long time, but it's very hard to find a guy who's interessted in friendship, too.
It's funny and very sexy for me to have a bisexual boyfriend. We're looking together other men, watch gayporns and surfing the net for nice pictures. We're having also a big collection of sextoys and our sexlife is never boring.
I'm not jealousy about other men. I think by a man he can find things, they he can not find by me and he also can't things by him, he can get by me. By a other women I would ask myself what she give him, what I can't give.
Why I should compete with a other men? A threesome is much more nicer ;-P

Well, I hope my english is not so bad and you can understand my posting.

 

[blackbeltninja]

I don't nescessarily think it is al about sex all the time either, but why classify yourself as bisexual when you settle with one gender or the other? If you settle for women or one woman, you are straight. If you settle for men or one man, you are gay.

I am a black & white person, and it is the "grey" I do not understand. I suppose I ask more because somewhere in all this madness someone may trip a switch that more clearly illuminates the subject, not only for myself, but some who may be equally interested, but lurking on the fringes.

Well, would you prefer it if I called myself straight if I date a girl for a month or so but gay when we break up in 6 weeks' time and I date a guy?

-d-

 

[ahotjock71]

Well, would you prefer it if I called myself straight if I date a girl for a month or so but gay when we break up in 6 weeks' time and I date a guy?

-d-

I would say confused? Some of my bi friends say, "I haven't found the right PERSON to fall in love with."

This confuses me because as a gay man, I say, "I haven't found the right man yet." My straight male friends say, "I haven't found the right woman yet."

Are you just bi until you find a woman, or a man, to fall in love with & make that distinction? (gay vs straight)

 

[NameTaken]

I would say confused? Some of my bi friends say, "I haven't found the right PERSON to fall in love with."

This confuses me because as a gay man, I say, "I haven't found the right man yet." My straight male friends say, "I haven't found the right woman yet."

Are you just bi until you find a woman, or a man, to fall in love with & make that distinction? (gay vs straight)

No, that's the whole point of the bi sexuality, there IS NO distinction at all (but you can still be attracted more to one sex than the other but you won't turn down a member of one sex if you like them just because htye aren't the other). It's just who you fall for.

 

[ahotjock71]

Hi,

I'm a women and I have phantasies of bisexual or gay men having sex together since I was a teenager.
I find loving men very sexy and love to lick a boyass or fuck him with a "strap on", so I don't feel to 100% as a women. The biggest part of me is a male.
Since three years my bisexual boyfriend and I are in love and I was very happy, when he's said me that he's bisexual. We're looking for a boyfriend for sex and friendship for a long time, but it's very hard to find a guy who's interessted in friendship, too.
It's funny and very sexy for me to have a bisexual boyfriend. We're looking together other men, watch gayporns and surfing the net for nice pictures. We're having also a big collection of sextoys and our sexlife is never boring.
I'm not jealousy about other men. I think by a man he can find things, they he can not find by me and he also can't things by him, he can get by me. By a other women I would ask myself what she give him, what I can't give.
Why I should compete with a other men? A threesome is much more nicer ;-P

Well, I hope my english is not so bad and you can understand my posting.

Interesting...an alternative viewpiont, but a viewpoint none the less. I like the part where you make the distinction between knowing he can get things from a man he can't get from you, and you being ok with that, and knowing he could get the same thing from a woman, but maybe better.

That's very intriguing, and I have not thought of that....

 

[Danugh]

AHJ71 you sure know the formula for a successful thread lol.

 

[blackbeltninja]

Why confused? I'm not confused.

I'm wired up to respond to both - that's not confusion, that's the way it is. At which point can I officially stop being confused or in denial or whatever else the gay guys think of me and just be bisexual, which is what I am?

-d-

 

[ahotjock71]

No, that's the whole point of the bi sexuality, there IS NO distinction at all (but you can still be attracted more to one sex than the other but you won't turn down a member of one sex if you like them just because htye aren't the other). It's just who you fall for.

But alternatively, how can you fall in love with a man, be in a GAY relationship for 20 years & still call youself bisexual? Same for a hetero relationship.

WHY can't it be one or the other?

 

[NameTaken]

But alternatively, how can you fall in love with a man, be in a GAY relationship for 20 years & still call youself bisexual? Same for a hetero relationship.

WHY can't it be one or the other?

Because you still find women sexually attractive, you're (hopefully) just not in love with them, just like you (hopefully) aren't in love with nay other guys at the same time. Just because you CAN be attracted sexually to somebody doesn't mean you will be or will act on those urges.

And I dunno, but I bet a lot ofstraight people think along the same lines in a "why can't they just be straight" sort of thing. X_X

 

[blackbeltninja]

But alternatively, how can you fall in love with a man, be in a GAY relationship for 20 years & still call youself bisexual? Same for a hetero relationship.

WHY can't it be one or the other?

Because if it ends for whatever reason and I put myself back out there, I may end up with a woman or a man.

That's why.

-d-

 

[cbtfan]

WHY can't it be one or the other?

ahotjock,

You seem to be wanting a black or white answer in a grey world.
Life is not simple.
Nothing is 100%

 

[Zeremonie]

But alternatively, how can you fall in love with a man, be in a GAY relationship for 20 years & still call youself bisexual? Same for a hetero relationship.

WHY can't it be one or the other?

I don't see why it has to be one or the other, especially in light of your above post.

We've got gay men here on this board who have know they are gay for a very very very very long time but have had no gay sex and/or gay relationships for eons if ever. Would you, given your above quote, stop calling them gay and say they are aesexual?

Being in a relationship for decades doesn't change one's hardwiring. Sexuality is far too complex for hard and fast categories. It's my opinion that the number of men who are 100% gay is probably very small, and the number of men who truly are 100% is probably much smaller than generally perceived. I believe in a lot of room for bisexuality.

 

[NameTaken]

I don't see why it has to be one or the other, especially in light of your above post.

We've got gay men here on this board who have know they are gay for a very very very very long time but have had no gay sex and/or gay relationships for eons if ever. Would you, given your above quote, stop calling them gay and say they are aesexual?

Being in a relationship for decades doesn't change one's hardwiring. Sexuality is far too complex for hard and fast categories. It's my opinion that the number of men who are 100% gay is probably very small, and the number of men who truly are 100% is probably much smaller than generally perceived. I believe in a lot of room for bisexuality.

And posts like this are the reason everybody here loves you! ^_^

 

[ahotjock71]

I dunno....as for myself I just don't get it. But again, back around to the topic at hand, thats why I want a thread of what women think on the subject, what members conversations with straight women have been on the subject and maybe some polls or studies on the subject shared.

 

[NameTaken]

I dunno....as for myself I just don't get it. But again, back around to the topic at hand, thats why I want a thread of what women think on the subject, what members conversations with straight women have been on the subject and maybe some polls or studies on the subject shared.

So why not post it in a straight women forum? Lol, posting it here opens it up for all our views on the subject.

 

[ahotjock71]

We've got gay men here on this board who have know they are gay for a very very very very long time but have had no gay sex and/or gay relationships for eons if ever. Would you, given your above quote, stop calling them gay and say they are aesexual?

I would call them gay curious or asexual. Without consumation how do they really know they are gay? Is not the definition of homosexuality one who prefers sexual encounters with the same sex?

To me they are just playing gay until the deed is done.

 

[NameTaken]

I would call them gay curious or asexual. Without consumation ho do they really know they are gay? Is not the definition of homosexuality one who prefers sexual enncounters with the same sex?

I thought we already went over this...........

 

[ahotjock71]

So why not post it in a straight women forum? Lol, posting it here opens it up for all our views on the subject.

Yes, but posting your personal opinion about bisexuality does nothing to further the discussion of the topic. God knows I have been warned for less.

Again, the thread WAS intended for those specific reasons stated above, but once again has degraded into some sort of "free love" advertisement.

Good God people, I may just become a Republican.

 

[NameTaken]

Yes, but posting your personal opinion about bisexuality does nothing to further the discussion of the topic. God knows I have been warned for less.

Again, the thread WAS intended for those specific reasons stated above, but once again has degraded into some sort of "free love" advertisement.

Good God people, I may just become a Republican.

Really? Because it seems to have generated a lot of posts to me. Topics evolve over time, that's how things work. Get over it.

 

[ahotjock71]

Really? Because it seems to have generated a lot of posts to me. Topics evolve over time, that's how things work. Get over it.

YOU get over it. Post relevant to the topic & quit hijacking my thread for your own personal fufillment.

This IS NOT a rehash of bisexuality & what YOU think of it. Grow up.