On Topic Discussion What do you think about bisexuals?

[MakeDigitalLove]

Re-read the quote. It was in English.

He's lost. Poor guy.

 

[SaskGuy]

I have no reason to think less of them.
Even the ones that are actually gay, but just say they're bi because they're not ready to "completely" come out. Whatever makes the coming out process easier for them

 

[Vannie]

All this bi sex talk has me in the mood.I need big jugs and hair pie now! nom nom nom

 

[pat grimshaw]

I think bisexuals are great! I would definitely have dated a bisexual guy but the guy I found is gay.
I think its actually something people should aspire to in their sexual imaginations.

How can we start?

Do you have some pictures?

 

[Stardreamer]

Please don't move this, I want to discuss it here under Hot Topics. It's a subject a lot of people have an opinion on. It would be nice to have a discussion about it.

Have you ever been in a relationship with a bi guy, or are you right now? Is it true bisexuals are "greedy" and untrustworthy? Have you ever thought that he might leave you for a woman?

I am a bi guy and I've been happily married for 29 years, I'm still just as attracted to men as I was before I meet my wife and while I may have flirted some have been faithful to her.

All of this crossed my mind while watching a gay couple where one is gay and one is bi. Like.. how do they even make it work? What if the bi guy suddenly craves you know..? I just don't get it. I'm sorry, I know I'm bisexual myself, but it's different with bi women. I can't really explain it, but it does seem like bi guys just don't want to committ, they love sleeping around and then there's the "no label" bs which is just a way for them to still use straight privilege. And even if they're in a relationship with a guy, it still seems like it's doomed because the bi guys always end up cheating, whether it's with a guy or (most often) a girl.

As noted above I have no problems with commitments and have never been one to 'sleep around'. As for how it works, it works just like any other relationship, you meet someone your interested in, get to know them better and hopefully it develops into something long lasting. Being bi just means that person could be male or female. Bi people are not some pathetic retch being torn between men and women, that if they have a relationship with a person of one gender are going experience some irresistible gravitational pull to the other gender just because they are bi.

This is a stupid stereotype you are promoting and shame on you for buying into it. It frankly amazes me when gay or bi people come up with this considering its a variation of the same stereotype used by homophobes to bash gays in general. And its based on the same stupid lie that the homophobes use, that homosexuality and bisexuality is all about sex and nothing but sex; that being bi means we have to be constantly having sex with both men and women.

Sorry this got long. This is just my experience, and what I've read from people who have been through it. I just wanted to know what you think?

I think you really need to sit down and examine your stereotypes of people. Your experiences may have provided some circumstantial evidence at least in your mind for these stereotypes but that means nothing. About as relevant as the homophobes pointing some gays they meet partying at Mardi Gra and saying "see this is what all gays are like."

 

[Adrusek81]

Bisexuality is just another manifestation of wider human sexuality, and the reason why many people view bisexuals with mistrust is because of the complexity and diversity they represent. Not all bisexuals behave in the same manner or experience the same impulses and preferences, and this is something difficult to comprehend and, therefore, accept, by many. Negative assumptions abound, but in order to understand bisexuality we should realize that all of its manifestations are devoid of any morality in themselves, because sexuality just is, and there aren't any values attached to it in principle. In short, it's what people do that matters, not what they are when they are born.

The problem with bisexual people is that they are susceptible, like everybody else, to social pressures. I would be surprised to meet a gay man who had never even heard of the proverbial bisexual guy who leaves you high and dry to marry a woman he has been seeing for years behind your back, after promising you the world. Heterosexual women have similar stories as well. The equally frequent "men are for fun and women for relationships" and similar experiences are frequently found as well, and the source of most negative stereotypes.

Yet and still, it would be terribly unfair to categorize all bisexual people as inherently dishonest, deceitful, dishonest and manipulative. We ought to remember that societal pressure to comply with heteronormativity is enormous, and many might prefer it for the simple reason that it makes them less vulnerable to discrimination and rejection from everyone. Sadly, this means that many bisexual people might feel compelled to deny, repress or constantly hide their sexual orientantion because they fear being excluded from the lives of their loved ones, or even harmed. We homosexual people have experienced similar things, but of course we have a well defined and relatively welcoming community to go to. When you don't have a community and many int he gay community begrudgingly accept you, I imagine that it would be easy to feel that hiding is your only option. I don't want to victimize bisexuals, but many of them do have a very tough time even from other bisexuals, as we can see.

So yes, I am sure that there are some pretty repulsive bisexual people out there. Just as there are repulsive heterosexual, homosexual, transgendered, Buddhist, Christian, Muslim, tall, short, extroverted and timid people. Somehow, lumping most of them together into a single group based on certain stereotypes is unfair.

Still, there will always people who will be accepting but won't be able to reciprocate or validate their partner's feelings if they are bisexual. I think that this position is just as respectable as any other as long as no one's integrity is compromised in any way. So yes, your position and the position of those among us who would never date a bisexual man are valid. Just not your motivations.

 

[sixthson]

God kveld, sokker! I think it's better to judge a person by their character rather than their sexuality. While you may know bisexuals who are dirty, cheating dogs, they would be dirty, cheating dogs even if they were gay or straight.

I would say most of my knowledge of bisexuals came from getting acquainted with a few bisexual JUBbers, since I don't know any in real life other than just casually. One JUBber that I got to know very well actually cheated on his partner and despite that one failure, I would say he is one of the most honorable men I have met. There is a difference between making a awful mistake by cheating on the person you are supposed to love and making a lifestyle of it. Those habitual cheaters cheat no matter their sexual attraction.

When I first came to JUB, I thought bisexuals were just gays in denial, but to be honest, I never gave them much thought. I think the common mistake is believing that because someone is interested in both sexes, they cannot be trusted because they will always want what they can't have. The truth is, even if you are gay and in a relationship, you have to say no to other guys. Temptation is temptation.

I'm tired, I hope this makes sense. Ser deg seinare!

 

[Kulindahr]

I'm attracted to both skinnier nerdy guys, and to beefier hairier guys. If I'm in a relationship with a beefier guy, what do I do if I suddenly crave, you know, a nerdy guy?

If a bisexual guy settles down with a girl, it's because he craves normalcy and is turning his back on his homosexual side.
If a bisexual guy settles down with a guy, it's because he was gay all along and too chickenshit to admit it.
If a bisexual guy doesn't settle down, it's because he's a commitment-phobe who wants his cake while eating it too.
Lose lose lose.

Your post makes me sick because:

1. it shoves everybody in a group into a negative box. It's no different from "all gay guys just want to fuck everything that moves" or "there are no bisexual women - just straight women who like to tease guys by making out with their friends". Tossing on "in my experience" doesn't change that.

2. it's even worse when you try to exempt yourself from the broad brush you're painting with.

Lex

Well said -- though most of us bis here are male.

 

[Kulindahr]

Have mixed feelings as gay man to me they can't make up minds cock or pussy, to me its cock. That's my take on it.

So your position is that you thought about it and made a choice.

Gotcha.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

God kveld, sokker! I think it's better to judge a person by their character rather than their sexuality. While you may know bisexuals who are dirty, cheating dogs, they would be dirty, cheating dogs even if they were gay or straight.

I would say most of my knowledge of bisexuals came from getting acquainted with a few bisexual JUBbers, since I don't know any in real life other than just casually. One JUBber that I got to know very well actually cheated on his partner and despite that one failure, I would say he is one of the most honorable men I have met. There is a difference between making a awful mistake by cheating on the person you are supposed to love and making a lifestyle of it. Those habitual cheaters cheat no matter their sexual attraction.

When I first came to JUB, I thought bisexuals were just gays in denial, but to be honest, I never gave them much thought. I think the common mistake is believing that because someone is interested in both sexes, they cannot be trusted because they will always want what they can't have. The truth is, even if you are gay and in a relationship, you have to say no to other guys. Temptation is temptation.

I'm tired, I hope this makes sense. Ser deg seinare!

planet got lot catch up do guess

anyway

tis is a real pizza
_yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay_
but classfied

ha

thankyou

 

[Kulindahr]

I have no reason to think less of them.
Even the ones that are actually gay, but just say they're bi because they're not ready to "completely" come out. Whatever makes the coming out process easier for them

Or the ones who are gay but were so thoroughly indoctrinated that they trained themselves to like women, too, and haven't figured that out yet.

 

[Kulindahr]

Bisexuality is just another manifestation of wider human sexuality, and the reason why many people view bisexuals with mistrust is because of the complexity and diversity they represent. Not all bisexuals behave in the same manner or experience the same impulses and preferences, and this is something difficult to comprehend and, therefore, accept, by many. Negative assumptions abound, but in order to understand bisexuality we should realize that all of its manifestations are devoid of any morality in themselves, because sexuality just is, and there aren't any values attached to it in principle. In short, it's what people do that matters, not what they are when they are born.

The problem with bisexual people is that they are susceptible, like everybody else, to social pressures. I would be surprised to meet a gay man who had never even heard of the proverbial bisexual guy who leaves you high and dry to marry a woman he has been seeing for years behind your back, after promising you the world. Heterosexual women have similar stories as well. The equally frequent "men are for fun and women for relationships" and similar experiences are frequently found as well, and the source of most negative stereotypes.

Yet and still, it would be terribly unfair to categorize all bisexual people as inherently dishonest, deceitful, dishonest and manipulative. We ought to remember that societal pressure to comply with heteronormativity is enormous, and many might prefer it for the simple reason that it makes them less vulnerable to discrimination and rejection from everyone. Sadly, this means that many bisexual people might feel compelled to deny, repress or constantly hide their sexual orientantion because they fear being excluded from the lives of their loved ones, or even harmed. We homosexual people have experienced similar things, but of course we have a well defined and relatively welcoming community to go to. When you don't have a community and many int he gay community begrudgingly accept you, I imagine that it would be easy to feel that hiding is your only option. I don't want to victimize bisexuals, but many of them do have a very tough time even from other bisexuals, as we can see.

So yes, I am sure that there are some pretty repulsive bisexual people out there. Just as there are repulsive heterosexual, homosexual, transgendered, Buddhist, Christian, Muslim, tall, short, extroverted and timid people. Somehow, lumping most of them together into a single group based on certain stereotypes is unfair.

Still, there will always people who will be accepting but won't be able to reciprocate or validate their partner's feelings if they are bisexual. I think that this position is just as respectable as any other as long as no one's integrity is compromised in any way. So yes, your position and the position of those among us who would never date a bisexual man are valid. Just not your motivations.

Hey, this is Hot Topics -- what are you doing, bringing good sense in????

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

^so words no mean nothin
_unless_
a teys words

_haaaaa_

thankyou

 

[dereperez]

Please don't move this, I want to discuss it here under Hot Topics. It's a subject a lot of people have an opinion on. It would be nice to have a discussion about it.

Have you ever been in a relationship with a bi guy, or are you right now? Is it true bisexuals are "greedy" and untrustworthy? Have you ever thought that he might leave you for a woman?

All of this crossed my mind while watching a gay couple where one is gay and one is bi. Like.. how do they even make it work? What if the bi guy suddenly craves you know..? I just don't get it. I'm sorry, I know I'm bisexual myself, but it's different with bi women. I can't really explain it, but it does seem like bi guys just don't want to committ, they love sleeping around and then there's the "no label" bs which is just a way for them to still use straight privilege. And even if they're in a relationship with a guy, it still seems like it's doomed because the bi guys always end up cheating, whether it's with a guy or (most often) a girl.

Sorry this got long. This is just my experience, and what I've read from people who have been through it. I just wanted to know what you think?

Oh god...I don't even know where to start....

Let me cool my jets before replying...

 

[Telstra]

What do i think of the bisexuals ?
I think the are hot, they have more options to choose

 

[mikemizanin729]

The OP is completed sexist.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

I don't believe Sokker is female as he claims.

Last paragraph: http://www.justusboys.com/forum/thr...HAT-THE-HELL?p=9512147&viewfull=1#post9512147

 

[mikemizanin729]

^^ Just read it and he forgot to mention the gay characters in True Blood.

So sokker is a man I thought so. He lusts over men in the male celebrity threads the way only a man would In fact, I actually though he was male before I noticed he's pretending to be a female.

 

[dereperez]

Please don't move this, I want to discuss it here under Hot Topics. It's a subject a lot of people have an opinion on. It would be nice to have a discussion about it.

Have you ever been in a relationship with a bi guy, or are you right now? Is it true bisexuals are "greedy" and untrustworthy?

Why are bisexuals greedy? Why are they untrustworthy? Do you trust straight guys more? A cheater is a cheater...that is based on their character. Not their sexuality.

Have you ever thought that he might leave you for a woman?

Have you ever thought that your woman might leave you for another woman?

All of this crossed my mind while watching a gay couple where one is gay and one is bi. Like.. how do they even make it work?

They work because they are attracted to each other. Not sure if you're serious...

What if the bi guy suddenly craves you know..? I just don't get it.

As if straights, gays, lesbians don't get cravings??

I'm sorry, I know I'm bisexual myself, but it's different with bi women.

1) So now you want to narrow it down even further. You don't question bisexuals actually. Just the bi men. All bi men are naughty, lusty, hedonistic jerks. All bi women are angelic, faithful, spiritual partners. Amiright?

2) You sure you're a bisexual female?

I can't really explain it, but it does seem like bi guys just don't want to committ, they love sleeping around and then there's the "no label" bs which is just a way for them to still use straight privilege. And even if they're in a relationship with a guy, it still seems like it's doomed because the bi guys always end up cheating, whether it's with a guy or (most often) a girl.

You can't explain it because it isn't true.

Sorry this got long. This is just my experience, and what I've read from people who have been through it. I just wanted to know what you think?

What I think? I'm not sure if you're trolling?

 

[Taralen]

Male and Female bisexuals are different. I'll just put it that because sexuality is what you make it. While I'm still in my 20s and I have the right to still be ignorant.