What Flaws Are You Not Willing To Put Up With In A Partner

[metta]

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List NO MORE Than 5 Things That You Will Not Put Up With

 

[metta]

My 5:
- substance abuse (drinking, smoking, drugs, etc.)
- dishonesty (lying, cheating, stealing)
- physical/verbal abuse
- inability to love, feel compassion, feel empathy
- bad hygiene

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Sobriety. I refuse.

 

[kayman23]

1) bad hygiene
2) arrogance
3) devoid of empathy
4) drug use
5) lack of drive to grow as a person

 

[Esquire0399]

- Bad hygiene - I'm not a clean freak or germaphobe or anything like that but I cannot deal with a guy who smells like the gym when the last time he was actually at the gym was three days ago.

- Arrogance and selfishness - If your only interest is size of your bicep, get out of my face. If you'd throw your mother in front of a car to save your own life, fuck you.

- Clinginess - As I learned from my newly ended relationship, I CANNOT deal with a guy who needs to be with me, talk to me, know what I'm doing, 24/7, and then acts like a baby if I say I can't hang out because of actual obligations like school or work. And I need some damn me time where I ignore the world and enjoy nothingness from time to time.

- Lack of sense of humor - If you can't laugh at yourself when something embarrassing happens or you take every joke as an insult, I just can't.

- Inability to take things seriously when things do get serious - If I feel like I can't have an adult conversation with you about something that's bothering me when things do get serious, I'm just not interested. It's not always a joke.

 

[ronboy]

Infidelity- (Lies or hiding important stuff)= Obviously no one likes liars

The most painful of all...I gave up a man I truly loved because he is unfaithful.

 

[Adrock-JD]

Uncleanliness - Disgusting habits like spitting outdoors and leaving dirty dishes everywhere.

Unorganized- Scatterbrains love for me to take up their slack but it ain't gonna happen.

Unromantic - There's no easier way to drive me away than to bore me to it.

Republican - Not technically a flaw but when they said "opposites attract" this can't be what they meant.

Jesus freak - Hosanna Heysanna Sanna Sanna Ho
Sanna Hey there is just no way.

 

[Beachguyj]

Won't put up with:

Drug addiction
Physical abuse
A guy who is a jerk,( pompous, arrogant, loud, obnoxious, etc.)
A guy who is inconsiderate
A guy who is not reasonable, who only sees things his way.

 

[Beachguyj]

Won't put up with:

Drug addiction
Physical abuse
A guy who is a jerk,( pompous, arrogant, loud, obnoxious, etc.)
A guy who is inconsiderate
A guy who is not reasonable, who only sees things his way.

Also I would never date a guy who is dumb. When I was younger I wouldn't date a guy who couldn't dance, but not it would not matter. Also I wouldn't date a guy who is always broke, yet only wants to keep buying expensive things. I'm not jealous, so I would be fine with an open relationship and wouldn't have to worry about cheating.

 

[HoodedRat]

Religious*, gun-toting**, right-wing***, animal-corpse-scoffing****, misogynist***** ... pretty sums it up for me.



* Personal 'spirituality' can be a wonderful thing ... but not organised religion ... and that includes new-age wiccanesque bullshit etc.

** I live in England so (currently) unlikely to be of relevance.

*** Right -wing by European standards ... so that probably equals extreme liberal lefty fruitbat nutjob by US standards.

*** Sorry about that but I just can't deal with the rotten-flesh-on-breath stench.

***** If you have a problem with women, I have a problem with you.


Note: you said 'partner' ... for a quick meaningless shag most of this wouldn't matter ... but quick meaningless shags really aren't my thing.

 

[AllMan]

Four of my five have already been said:

- dishonesty (lying, cheating, stealing)

- Bad hygiene - I'm not a clean freak or germaphobe or anything like that but I cannot deal with a guy who smells like the gym when the last time he was actually at the gym was three days ago.

- Clinginess - As I learned from my newly ended relationship, I CANNOT deal with a guy who needs to be with me, talk to me, know what I'm doing, 24/7, and then acts like a baby if I say I can't hang out because of actual obligations like school or work. And I need some damn me time where I ignore the world and enjoy nothingness from time to time.

- Inability to take things seriously when things do get serious - If I feel like I can't have an adult conversation with you about something that's bothering me when things do get serious, I'm just not interested. It's not always a joke.

To add to that:

- I CANNOT deal with a smoker long term (maybe for a casual fling, but even that gets old after a while)----I HATE for the house/my clothes/car to reek of stale lingering smoke....and it's even worse if the guy doesn't even TRY to quit smoking...

Also, a bonus.....I cannot deal with someone with bad credit or no sense of financial responsibility (or even the drive/urge to let me TEACH him)

 

[AllMan]

Ugly feet/ nasty toenails

and

medling or nosey or overprotective parents/friends/family....this is OUR relationship, damnit----not theirs!!!

 

[Callum]

- Bad hygiene - I'm not a clean freak or germaphobe or anything like that but I cannot deal with a guy who smells like the gym when the last time he was actually at the gym was three days ago.

- Arrogance and selfishness - If your only interest is size of your bicep, get out of my face. If you'd throw your mother in front of a car to save your own life, fuck you.

- Clinginess - As I learned from my newly ended relationship, I CANNOT deal with a guy who needs to be with me, talk to me, know what I'm doing, 24/7, and then acts like a baby if I say I can't hang out because of actual obligations like school or work. And I need some damn me time where I ignore the world and enjoy nothingness from time to time.

- Lack of sense of humor - If you can't laugh at yourself when something embarrassing happens or you take every joke as an insult, I just can't.

- Inability to take things seriously when things do get serious - If I feel like I can't have an adult conversation with you about something that's bothering me when things do get serious, I'm just not interested. It's not always a joke.

^ All of this but the last one. I have an awful habit of making comedy out of tragedy as it's my greatest coping device. So...I kind of fail at the seriousness bit (sometimes, unless it's a heart-to-heart).

I'll substitute that response with substance abuse/unhealthy addictions.

 

[bankside]

1. Lack of self-confidence.
2. Self-destructiveness or recklessness.
3. Boorishness or discourteousness. I don't care about manners as much as compassion.
4. Someone who is a "top" or a "bottom" without a medical reason. And I'd need to see the doctor's note. Or other sexual incompatibility such as the inability to enjoy love and lust with the same person.
5. Someone whose major histocompatibility complex does not smell like a good match.
6. Uncurious about the world (yeah i know it is six)

And a number of things that would fall into the categories above, such as smoking, veganism, voting at the extremes of the political spectrum, taking religion too seriously, etc.

 

[youngnihilist]

-Masculinity is the biggest turnoff of all
-Followed by bad hygiene, which often comes with masculinity
-And arrogance and inflated sense of self, which also comes with masculinity

 

[bankside]

Wow, look at all the hate in this thread against smokers. You'd think we were radioactive nuclear waste.

Anyway...

Not hate...it's me. I worry too much about it. I will never be indifferent to it. It's a total and immediate emotional reaction. And I know sometimes the reasons are complex. But my initial reaction is that it comes across as either lack of self-confidence or self-destructive. It's no good for me care about someone more than they care about themselves. Either I do care and I worry about it to the point where it would affect my health, or I stop caring which is not enough to sustain a relationship.

 

[JUB]

When you are madly in love with someone it is crazy what you will put up with.

 

[Scottyboi]

Hmm...I think this quite well explains why I've never had a relationship last longer then 3 months...and only 1 lasted 3 months long and we were miserable together that last month >.>


I admit...I have more then 5, waaaay more. I'll have to work at it. But based off my previous relationships and relationships I've seen my friends in these are my 5:

Heavy drugs (Pot and Alcohol I'm cool with. No cigarettes)

Strictly Non-monogamous - I'd be down for threesomes and fooling around with other people together. I ain't the jealous type. But we play together or not at all. I also wouldn't want it to be all that often, like a once a month thing. I'm talking like a 3 times a year at most thing. I feel like I'd feel inhibited if we were having sex with other people to often because I wouldn't be comfortable doing a lot of things sexually that I'd enjoy doing with a monogamous partner. I titled this "Strictly non-monogamous" for lack of a better title.

To cool to have fun - you get this a lot with guys my age or a little younger. They don't want to be to into something or let go and have fun because they are to concerned with how they look. I need someone who can just let go and have fun but can still be serious when needed. In fact I'd probably need a guy who could tell me when to be more serious heh. But he needs to be able to just let go as well.

Unkind - I almost feel like I shouldn't have to list this one but I do...a girl walking down the street breaks a heel and drops her groceries everywhere...spend a second to help her out if u arn't gonna die for being a minute late. The guy getting on the bus with multiple bags of groceries and a broken shoulder but no one gets up to offer him a seat or help him out? It's small little kindnesses like this that make the world a better place. Instead we have people who either simply don't want to be involved or worse people who enjoy the pain of others (I mean if you hate the guy I understand. But the person you don't know?). Just for the hell of it, I'm stacking anger issues/domestic violence people in this one as well since kinda overlaps.

Age - I had to throw a really shallow one in here. And its real. I know its bad, and I'll probably catch flake for it but its the truth. I'm not gonna turn 24 for another 4 months...guys over the age of 30 just don't appeal to me. Same as guys who are 19 or 18 are to young for me. We are in different parts of our lives and I just have a difficulty finding that connection and physical attraction.


another one but I totally admit I need to get over it...I'm incredibly vain, I pretty much go after the good looking guys and girls exclusively >.>
Not that I wouldn't want to get to know someone who isn't great looking. But when I meet ya dating you isn't even a card on the table so it would take a lot to make it an option...like I said, something I need to work on =x

 

[diamondstar]

1. Free Loader: In a relationship, both partners should be supporting each other. U refuse to be away on the giving end, but never on the receiving end. Bills, house items, and foods will be split equally

2. Violent: Am no punk, but I won't be with someone who is physically or verbally violent. Also, I won't be involved with a Mister "Know it all"

3. Hygiene: I don't care how hot you are. Clean up after yourself or scram. I can tolerate a mess here and there, but not plain o' nastiness

4. Drinking: Am sorry, but I CAN'T stand drunk people. Drink with caution

5. Talkative: I would always be supportive of my lover, but for the love of God do not talk to me about nonsense, repeat yourself ten thousand times, or talk to me when am reading

Note: Talkative is a flaw I can actually live with if the guy is okay in the other areas. I just find it annoying.

 

[oakpope]

When you are madly in love with someone it is crazy what you will put up with.

This for me. If you are in love already, that must mean you love the whole package, the good and the bad, doesn't it ?

I may be weird, but I think I love as much a flaw in someone as a quality, perhaps even more, it's more interesting that way