What People Should Know About Bisexuals Is...

[jsvela]

I think the same most of you guys have been saying. Being bi doesnt mean we're gonna go and fuck someone from the opposite sex while still going out with someone else. For instance, right now I am with a guy and yeah, I may think about women but that doesnt mean I will go and cheat on him. I love him...

The point about kids is true. many times we can come to decide to be with a woman because of that but I wouldnt trash my current relationship just to have kids. I mean, I love kids but if at this point, I wanted kids, I would find anotehr way rather than going looking for a woman just because of that!

Also, I like both guys and girls but when Im in a relationship with either sex, I dont screw around and rather remain faithful. Well, there was a couple of times that happened to me but after that, I understood I should focus on just one and that's what most bi's do once they are truly committed to someone.

 

[RRRalph]

What people should know about bisexuals is...

Bisexuality is beautiful.

I agree on that!

 

[RRRalph]

What people should know about bisexuals is...


that the decision to have children may influence our choice of partner. On one hand, I love my nieces and nephews as if they were my own. On the other hand, I would not want to give up a relationship with a male life partner just to have my own biological children; however, I realize that such a choice would be a sacrifice and possibly even agonizing because I love kids.

What do you think of adopting a child or asking someone to carry your child and spend your life with the man you love?

 

[RRRalph]

i canonly speak for myself about being faithful, i am faithdful when i'm in relationship with woman but it's pretty frusterating to be somewhere with her and seing a guy you like, i hate this, and i was in a very good relationship with a great woman, but i was cheating with guys, i found them pretty easy and willing and it turned me on, unfortunetly it was killing me inside [not being true to her] i was always finding that i wanted out, it ended up we had words and she rolled, i have never contacted her or said sorry to her , and i will be the first to admit it was my fault, i sure couldn't be faithful, lucky are you guys that can.

Have you never been able to be faithfull?

 

[RRRalph]

Have you never been able to be faithfull?

I went for some months trying hard to resist, but i gave in. I honestly like riding those trails and am wanting to return this weekend, and hopefully i can resist or just forget about that park.

Do i read it correctly that you have a relationship at the moment, cheated in the past and now trying to resist to cheat again in that same relationship. I'm against infidelity, but i can sense your struggle.

Don't you like your partner that much or do you have the need to have various people to have sex with. Can you explain why you go back to that place when you know that the chance is very big that you will have sex there?

I'm not flaming you or something, just asking things i don't understand.

 

[RRRalph]

For one thanx for posting a diffirent view. But let me explain why i don't agree with you. It's not to flame you, i just give some arguments to think about.

I really find it funny that many of the posters in this thread are in a relationship with women, they say they are ¨faithful¨ but still they spend a lot of time posting here. Do your woman know you come to this site, that you look at gay porn, that you lust after men, even if you don´t act on it. I find this hypocritical.

The faithfull aspect. Being on this site and having a girlfriend doesn't has a thing to do with being unfaithfull. Posting messages on this site is hardly unfaithfull. Fooling around with men (or other women) and having a girlfriend makes that person unfaithfull. Even when people look for gay porn they aren't unfaithfull. It's not fooling around with a particular person.

The hypocritical aspect. Lusting for men isn't a strange thing, cuz bisexuals as you know lusts both genders. Viewing porn isn't something you share with your partner. Maybe same sex couple are more open about it. I know many committed straight guys who secretly watch (straight) porn. It isn't honest, you're right... but hypocritical, i don't think so. It's not a solely bisexual issue.

I have to say that most bisexual men are cowards, cowards for taking the easy road (hetero relationships) when they obviously still find men attractive. I believe that the most important thing in a relationship is not if you only have sex with your partner or not (and still lust after men), but to be honest, honest about everything.

The coward aspect. Bisexuals are attracted to males and females. We can choose who we want to share our life with and be true to ourselves. I agree that choosing girls and ignoring guys for for the sake of easiness is very cowardly. Personally i can only be romantically involved with girls. Don't know why, but that's me. That's how i'm build. I'm attracted to girls/guys for 70%/30%. So i choose to share my life with a girl, cuz i can only fall in love with girls, which can't make me a coward.

The honesty aspect. I agree that honesty is very important in a relationship, but so is being faithfull. I admitt that i haven't been honest to my ex girlfriends. I truely loved them at that time and the information that i lust guys as well, doesn't seem that relevant for the present love. I always compared it with lusting blondes and brunettes. It doesn't add something to the relationship. But i do intend to be honest next time, but it's very hard to find straight girls who are fine with that.

 

[RRRalph]

Well, the way I see it is more important honesty. You can have sex with other people, and still be faithfull. You can not have sex with other people, but lust after them, and be unfaithfull...

I don't want that my gf have sex with others and supposedly be faithfull. I'm may be oldfashion regarding to that.

Why not? Are you ashamed of what you are? If the girl (or boy) don´t accept something as important as your sexuality (and all it entails) then she doesn´t deserve neither your love nor your time...

Being ashamed for watching porn? Haha, nah that's something you do in private. Not many girls like watching porn, not many girls like bisexual men.

Do you tell the guys you hook up with (before you have sex with them) this information? I am shure that many look for something more than just sex...

When i'm involved with guys it's always for a short period of times. I do make that cleat that they shouldn't expect too much of me. But i don't elaborate about the whole story, unless the ask about it.

I would rather think, that THIS information is very important to the girls. Just for fun, ask your ex girlfriends if they would have dated you had they known that you lust after guys as well. I am shure many would have said.

That's quite interesting. My ex gfs KNOW me and like me for who i am. Telling information before starting a LTR is tricky, cuz they don't KNOW you yet, but i do want that.

 

[RRRalph]

Not flaming you, but I for one do not believe you for a second. You live in the Netherlands, right?, and for what I have experienced and heard, dutch people (specially girls) are VERY open minded...

Not all Dutch are the same and yes i think many are open minded, mostly in the big cities in the West. I'm from the south near the Belgium border. I've been with kinky totally open minded girls for one night stands, but i like sweet, nice, funny and intelligent girls for relationships. Maybe those girls are more reserved.

And the porn part, I have a dutch friend, and he allways told me that watching porn was something cultural... all people do it in Netherlands, at least my friend does it with his family... But hey, what do I know?

Porn is a big word. Soft sex, nudity, swearing is acceptable on tv here. I do watch that with whoever, but hardcore porn is something diffirent. That's only to jerk off to, and that's not something you do with your family. At least i don't.

 

[Candyapple]

I've been with kinky totally open minded girls for one night stands, but i like sweet, nice, funny and intelligent girls for relationships. Maybe those girls are more reserved.

I'm a sweet, nice, funny and intelligent woman (NOT girl!!!) and I'm also totally open-minded and pretty kinky. Don't assume that you can't find all these traits in one package. I've read what you've written that most women don't accept bisexuality in men. I do, completely. I'd love a bi boyfriend!! So when you make these generalisations, remember that not all *WOMEN* (or 'girls' if you have to use that word) feel the same way.

 

[Candyapple]

to bad alot of woman arn't as excepting as you., your boyfriend is very lucky to have you.

Thank you, Colonel! Hope you find someone (very soon!) who adores you and accepts you exactly as you are.

 

[tellmeall]

Just Because You Get Married Dose Not Gratis U Children.. Some People Are Hoping To Love Some Small Person Who Would Bring Them Great Feelings Of Joy, And Compleation In Their Lives. It Dose Not Get U A Kid Just Have The Lisence. If You Have A Age Difference Then U Wount Be Aproved For Addoption Some Times. There Are All Sorts Of Hoops That U Must Jump Thru. But It Is No Easier With A Man To Woman, Or Man To Man, Each Has A Must Be Perfect Or Not.

 

[Sirramm]

Honestly didn't read any of the other posts but want to say this:::

I am orally-bi. I don't kiss guys or do guys anally or allow guys to do me anally. I like to suck cocks and eat cum. I like to eat cum from one or several guys from my wife’s puss and I don't care what anyone thinks. I am a guys guy (leave it alone! LOL). I work hard. I play hard. You wouldn't know I wanted to suck your cock unless it was in my mouth. So here's what I got to say about this: I am a true man. I cry at movies at 8pm and rotate tires at 10pm and then get up and go to a job most guys wouldn't do let alone be able to do at 7am and my wife loves me and her boyfriend does to! I pay my bills on time, can take any number of people to dinner and not fret over the cost as I am financially secure. I don’t care what anyone thinks of me or my sex life. I’m a martial expert in several styles, bench press hundreds of pounds and have two master’s degrees and a doctorate. I am board certified in three specialties and can fluently speak 7 different languages. So do I fit the norm? Do I look gay? Do I look bi? I ask you this: If you were in a room, just you and me, and needed me to save you life, otherwise you will certainly die (medically, physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc.) and I CAN (not to mention will!!!) help you does my sexuality matter?

WELL GEE I DIDN’T THINK SO!

 

[RRRalph]

I'm a sweet, nice, funny and intelligent woman (NOT girl!!!) and I'm also totally open-minded and pretty kinky. Don't assume that you can't find all these traits in one package.

You sound like a treasure . Ok, i won't assume that the total package is hard to find anymore.

I'm a woman (NOT girl!!!). Not all *WOMEN* (or 'girls' if you have to use that word) feel the same way.

Girls, Woman, Female, Lady - For a foreigner it's all the same. I do know the diffirence, but i'm a lazy pig

 

[Candyapple]

You sound like a treasure . Ok, i won't assume that the total package is hard to find anymore.

Thank You Not sure that it's not hard to find, but it's not impossible!

Girls, Woman, Female, Lady - For a foreigner it's all the same. I do know the diffirence, but i'm a lazy pig

haha, yeah, I should be more lenient on non-native English speakers, but your English is so damn good that I forget. It's just that being called a 'girl' at my age, which happens sometimes, is soooo annoying, I tend to over-react!!

 

[RRRalph]

It's just that being called a 'girl' at my age, which happens sometimes, is soooo annoying, I tend to over-react!

I like your girl power!! You go girl!!

 

[BIMICHAEL4FUN]

I have to be honest...I didn't really read any of this thread....so, I apologize if my opinion has already been shared/discussed...

I think that it is important to realize that bisexuals are the people that are the most open about what turns them on sexually and least likely to be influenced by society's "norms." I'm sure that there are a lot of str8's out there that would shoot their load after a few minutes with another man if society didn't have them brainwashed to think that this was "abnormal."

My wife loves to share another man's cock with me....We both enjoy the challenge of seeing who can turn the other guy on the most, and our sex live, when alone, is better as a result of the other partners that we share...

I know it would never happen, but it would be really cool if all of the societal norms and discriminatory thoughts regarding bisexuals and gays would just disappear. Wouldn't it be really cool if we could just all show up somewhere sometime and nobody would care who's dick was in who's mouth or ass, and women could enjoy having a dick in their pussy while licking another pussy without being described as a slut...

Maybe we can all just have one big sex party at my place and work all of this shit out...

 

[sonny10305]

We hate it when ignorant people suggest there is no such thing as Bisexuality

 

[conrad]

And, we don't really feel satisfied with the label and so we are unhappy when folks define us a confused, dangerous, loathesome, etc. etc.

I think we are not all that rare in fact, but only a minority of us really work at explaining ourselves to others when the opportunity presents itself.

 

[RRRalph]

I am orally-bi. I don't kiss guys or do guys anally or allow guys to do me anally. I am a guys guy. I don't care what anyone thinks.

Good for you!

Do I fit the norm? Do I look gay? Do I look bi?/QUOTE]
The only norm is that you are attracted to girls AND guys.

If you were in a room, just you and me, and needed me to save you life, otherwise you will certainly die and I can help you. Does my sexuality matter? GEE, I DIDN’T THINK SO!

I don't know what your point is. It's a lame dramatic example. Nothing matters in that case.

 

[tonyboy]

This is an interesting post and the subject of bisexuals has come up on jub very often recently.

All I want to say to you bisexual guys is this: go for it..... be bi if that is how you are. No one gets to choose whether they are bi, straight, or gay. That is something that one does not decide.

If you are a bisexual guy fine. Just make sure that you let your mate know that. I know that lot's of young guys are just out for sex, hell I was like that too when I was a younger guy. But lot's of guys are not just out for sex..... lot's of times gay guys are in to dating, falling in love.... just like boys and girls do when they are in highschool or college. If you are bi fine. Just be careful that you don't let some gay guy fall in love with you..... as long as it's understood right up front that you are only in it for the sex, fine. But for those gay guys that are out dating and looking for the right mate, well it is not OK for you bi guys to lead them on. Yeah, you can get in to a short term relationship but then you decide you want to be with a girl..... fine.
Just be right upfront with the guy at the beginning.
I don't envy bi guys at all..... Yes, I'd rather be straight than gay, I mean it makes for a much easier life. But I'd rather be gay than bi.
From what I read on jub there is a rather large group of bi guys that are on here. Course lot's of them say bi in their profile when they really mean 'not sure', or 'wish I were bi but I'm really gay, just don't know it or accept it yet.'

And there are also lot's of truly bi guys on jub. Doesn't matter to me what one calls himself. Just don't go about hurting others because you haven't decided which way you want to flop.... and if you are truly bi, be honest up front, please.