Working With Will

[Guy89]

I don't understand this stuff either. It's confusing. I've been in situations like these before but they never became anything more than that flirting/joking/whatever. I don't know if it's just a personality trait, being comfortable with their sexuality, simple curiosity, or maybe even the possibility that they're secretly gay or bi. All I know is these types of guys confuse the hell out of me and I don't know if they're worth it or not. It may not go anywhere, but it's still nice to get some attention. I'd say if you like the guy just keep playing along until you get to a point where you can tell if it'll go anywhere or not.

 

[Blueboy369]

If he flirts or says any of those things on Thursday, go for it!

 

[Kyanimal]

James ...

So sorry to hear about what happened at your Mom's! You are indeed a Good Son, and did the right thing!

We've experienced some break ins, ourselves. I'll spare you the details. However, I would seriously suggest that your Mom, and Step Dad, consider getting a Monitored alarm system installed. We have been with Brinks, for years!, and ADT, and Honeywell, are good systems, too. Also ... no more break ins! (Well ... except for the Fire Guys!) We're also monitored for Fire. (Just be sure to keep your oven clean! ... Don't ask! ) If for nothing else, the "Peace of Mind" is worth it!

And, Yeah!, LOTS of Str8 Guys flirt! I think it might be more of a "competition thing" with them! Sort of like "Gay Chicken"! And, they'll just keep "pushing" until someone backs down. So ... Don't back down!

GOOD LUCK with Thursday!! I'm certainly looking forward to hearing about it! And, of course, no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[Coffee]

Thanks guys. My mom is doing ok and is working on notifying her insurance company and all that stuff, so hopefully they'll get everything replaced and fixed.

Now, back to the topic. I think I understand those of you that said straight guys just mess around like this. Why is that? Today I worked earlier than I ever have, at 4 a.m. My boss asked me, Will, and another guy to come in at 4 because we got our holiday displays and needed to get them set up. I met the over night guys who normally are gone before I get there and one of them acted just like Will and "flirted" with both of us. Of course, Will "flirted" back and it hit me. It really is some weird thing they do. Why? Are these so-called straight guys who act this way really straight? Or are they maybe the slightest bit turned on by this flirtation? Because this guy didn't even know that I'm gay, so I know it wasn't to make fun of me or to be amused at me enjoying it.

Now I just don't know what to believe. And what makes things more frustrating is Will kept saying today that he's so excited about hanging out with me Thursday and we're going to get so trashed. He'd also say that he's so horny he'd fuck just about anyone. And just before I left, he and I were alone in the back hallway and he asked me to massage his back. So, I had some fun with it and told him if we weren't at work, I'd give him a full massage and really work on his sore muscles. He laughed and said he'd take me up on that offer any day and let me do whatever I needed to relax his muscles. It was so hot.

But I'm still just as confused as ever. But I'm still excited to see what transpires Thursday once we've had a little alcohol and some alone time. haha

I think you just enjoy things and see where they will go. Because it's a hot guy and he's ready for something. I can't define what exactly it is, you'll figure out, lol, I don't know.
BUT don't expect anything serious like a relationship or so. Because he's not trustable in the serious side. I think he, and may also the new guy, is curious about homosexual sex, but they don't go far into something durable or longlasting.
Be careful, James. I know you're an emotional person, and you think so much... Just don't let you fall...

 

[yeahman21]

I dont think hes fucking with you. He seems to have a genuine curiosity. See where it goes!

 

[trawler69]

We've experienced some break ins, ourselves. I'll spare you the details. However, I would seriously suggest that your Mom, and Step Dad, consider getting a Monitored alarm system installed. We have been with Brinks, for years!, and ADT, and Honeywell, are good systems, too. Also ... no more break ins! (Well ... except for the Fire Guys!) We're also monitored for Fire. (Just be sure to keep your oven clean! ... Don't ask! ) If for nothing else, the "Peace of Mind" is worth it!

Just a couple of quick comments on the above from the experience of an alarm installer. ADT and Honeywell are part of a huge group who aim to dominate the world and will rip you off. Try getting out of an ADT contract and you'll see what I mean. Monitoring is something that may reduce your insurance premiums. If you are prepared to spend more it can even, if you are lucky, get the police to respond. However any response will be long after the thieves have gone.

The main benefit of a security system is that not everybody has one. An opportunist thief will go for the property without visual sign of a security system, so just having a bell box will reduce your risk vastly.

A desperate thief will go in no matter what and be out so quickly that no one will have time to respond.

A professional thief will case the joint, take measures to prevent or delay alarm signals, will have possibly inside knowledge of the site. There will be a specific target and a plan. Very few domestic properties will come under this risk category.

If you decide to put up a dummy bell box make sure it has a flashing led. If you decide to put up a dummy CCTV camera make sure it DOESN'T have a flashing led. Real cameras don't have flashing led's, real bell boxes do.

Any way back to topic. I hope Thursday goes as you would like it to and I keep things crossed for you. Good luck mate

 

[martin6]

Yeah I'd play it cool.

*is jealous of the straight boy*

 

[Ares]

Don't fall in love with him.

 

[Laststraw21]

I'd just end the whole flirtation/whatever is going on. Be his friend still but nothing more. Otherwise, you're setting yourself up for trouble. Trust me.

 

[kramer362]

Wow dude I wish I had all this crazy shit fall into my lap the way it does you, haha.

It's awesome that he didn't get freaked out by it, but yeah don't get attached or expect anything more than a friendship. He may be fulfilling some curiosity but I wouldn't get your hopes up and count on more than a friendship with the occasional blowjob. At least that way you play it safe and don't get your hopes up!

 

[hotlatinchulo348]

This is a very interesting situation. I would say that you are going to just have to chill on this one. Whatever happens next if anything does happen next should be on his terms. That way neither of you makes it awkard. If you guys just continue to go on like nothing happened then you have a good memory to look back on. If he wants something like this to continue he will probably suggest it some way or another. However, I wouldn't ever expect you guys to have any type of a romantic relationship outside of this.

 

[Blueboy369]

Yes! That's one night you'll never forget. Just keep it casual and I bet he'll be back for more.

 

[kramer362]

Just keep it casual and I bet he'll be back for more.

I agree with this, since he didn't seem freaked out at all and he knows you're willing, and trustworthy, I bet he'll initiate something again. I also wanna hear more about the blowjob!

 

[Kyanimal]

FANTASTIC, James!!

But ... Yeah! ... keep it Casual! Do not put any thought into it, and do keep things going like normal. Just continue being your usual self. He knows it's O.K. to "play" with you, now, without it being a "threat". Still ... it should remain entirely up to Him if it might happen again, or maybe even go a little further. However ... there is also nothing to say that it ever will. So ... don't rely on it.

I'm also curious to hear a bit more about what happened. Did he just relax and enjoy? Was he "watching"? Was he "quick", and just zipped up again? Did he go back to the couch? Was there any snuggling after that? Just interested in his immediate reactions. A bit more insight would help in possibly "predicting" where this might be heading ... if anywhere ...

Keep your "Kewl"!

And, of course, no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[yeahman21]

you yada yada'd over the good part!

 

[volumee]

Omg.. im so jealous.. why do you always get all the men.. god dammit.. I need to find a new job.. My boss isn't flirtable... he's too serious.. but I think he's gay.. he walks like a girl, and.... chills with girls..

 

[Blueboy369]

You remind him of the best friend he lost years ago........WOW! um.......I'm speechless!

 

[Laststraw21]

It's cute and all but I just think you're setting yourself up for trouble and I think you need to avoid that trouble especially given your past experiences.

BTW: I read your cousin story when I lurked around JUB so that's what I'm referring to with past experiences.

 

[Kyanimal]

WOW!, James! That went even better than I suspected!

Good for Will! He is handling this SO well! He certainly seems to be an over all great "solid" Guy! Definitely a Guy to be Cherished!

However, I do have to caution you about possibly falling in love with him! I can understand that happening on your part, but I don't think he's likely to fall for you! That's were a line is drawn between Gay Guys, and Str8s who like to play! I get the sense that Will is "saving" that part of him for the girls. Of course, I have no doubts, what so ever, that you will respect that. Though it won't be easy, you need to be prepared to reign yourself in with your own emotions, hopes, and even the jealousy "thing".

I'm going to go out on a limb (well, at least a small twig), and predict that "Yes!", it sounds quite likely that "something" will happen again with Will. Completely up to Him, though. He certainly did enjoy "it"! Just keep yourself "available"!

Though I doubt this might be headed for a "Romance", it may well be headed for a "Bromance"! Two Guys sharing everything, without getting tangled up in the "Relationship" stuff. No bounds between the two, except when it comes to the deeper matters of the Heart. Very close Friends, but not "Lovers".

The question is ... do you think you can fully enjoy Him without being able to reach that "higher" emotional level that you seem to desire so much? Can you accept him completely, unconditionally? Can you hold him close with open arms, no strings attached?

Of course, no matter what ...

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[kramer362]

I do get a lot of crazy shit like this falling into my lap. But it also sucks because it's never someone who wants a relationship with me.

That's true, I'd probably prefer an actual relationship to something purely sexual. But I haven't had either, so beggars like me can't be choosers. I would totally pursue a relationship with you Superboy