Would like to have a "gay" friend, but how?

[2243]

Why do you want a friend?

 

[Payton]

Well you seem to have the right attitude. That's a good start!

 

[Royal Heart]

I can understand the problem you're having, it must be frustrating. Have you ever considered using a site like Plenty of Fish? You could make gay friends that way and make it very clear you're *just* looking for a friend, nothing more.

You may have to make some concessions, though, if you want a gay friend. I understand you're probably just venting, though.

4. They're mostly liberal. Which means they're strange. I haven't met a liberal yet who wasn't strange. (Please save your attacks, I'm just being honest)

That's fine, it's your preference. We all have preferences and anyone who attacks you for being honest about the kinds of people you would prefer to have for friends is being silly, in my opinion. Although, I have to be honest, I did laugh a little when I read "they're mostly liberal."

 

[DeafFoxDemon]

I agree, sometime it is hard to befriend a guy guys, espically fem guys

 

[BeMused]

I tend to say this in most of his threads but....for realz??

 

[SoulSearcher]

I'm having trouble making friends with a "gay" guy. For a couple of reasons.

1. They always want to get into my pants right away. In other words they want me for sex instead of just hanging out and going places. Of course I can completely understand but..... It's like, I don't want to have sex with you! Then they get upset cause they think that they're not good enough for me.

2. They usually don't act as manly or straight as I do. (Not to toot my own horn here) but it's like...... dude... please don't call me honey, baby, or dear. Please don't walk and talk that way around me because..... people are going to know you're gay right away. And they just might follow us somewhere and beat the piss out of us.

3. They usually want to watch movies like Steel Magnolias or Beaches, but it's like....dude.... we may like men, but we are guys. We should be watching good stuff like Die Hard, The Godfather, or Smokey and the Bandit.

4. They're mostly liberal. Which means they're strange. I haven't met a liberal yet who wasn't strange. (Please save your attacks, I'm just being honest)

5. They want to molest me.

6. They want to molest me.

7. They want to molest me.

8. They want to molest me.

Now if you read my other thread, I'm about to lose my married straight friend Bryan, because I secretly seduced him. I know it's kind of my fault. But we were alone and all, but I didn't think he'd keep wanting more of me. But I should've known that he probably would, because that's usually how it is in my case.

If anyone has any advice as to how I could have a good gay friend, then I welcome your advice. Thank you for reading.

P.S. I'm not interested in being friends with Justin Timberlake, because he, like so many others, only wants me for sex. In fact, he wants to tie me up, worship my rock hard body, and do dirty sexual things to me that I can not say on this forum. That's not what I'm looking for.

Not to get personal here, but you sound awfully uneducated, and live life fully brainwashed by heteronormativity, and you certainly display internalised homophobia. Leave your box, this is masculine, that is feminine, this movie is butch, that is not, etc., etc, is so 80s, the world is moving forward, leave behind your box. "Liberals" are weird, what is that supposed to mean? You could always join the Log Cabin, or move South or the Midwest, and enjoy some tea bagging sessions, and hear them call gays animals and child molesters.

 

[theFallenGod]

Why do you want a friend?

Because living in his fantasy world is apparently pretty lonely.


On a side note ... I have found that when it comes to making "friends" with people one shouldn't be picky at all... A friend is someone with whom you can agree with and respectfully disagree with.. a friend is someone who will stand by you no matter what the issue is...

The people I consider to be my BEST friends are all different from me in some aspects but similar in others but the reality is that they know me for me and respect me as I respect them and still stand by one another through thick and thin.

To quote Chichi Rodriguez from To Wong Foo... "No one is too rich to turn away a friend"

 

[chimbooze]

It seems like you have too many criteria for people to be your "friend," and all of them are far too shallow. I can understand not wanting hookups. You discriminates against people who are not like you. It's the truth. You think liberals are weird? Why not make friends with one? Maybe you might like them. Or maybe you're too close-minded to try.

 

[GL]

trolls... trolls... trolls... trolls...

 

[bokan800]

Can't find gay friends? Read your OP. Carefully.

I agree...

I'm not surprised...goodluck

 

[BINOWGAYLATER]

any advice as to how I could have a good gay friend

Sure - Move to CANADA !!!

 

[theFallenGod]

any advice as to how I could have a good gay friend

Sure - Move to CANADA !!!

To quote another thread

"DO NOT WANT"

Do not send this wacky freakazoid up here. He may be able to get his meds cheaper and it might make him A BIT more sane... but we don't want him with his non-liberal mindset coming up here and attempting to destroy everything we have worked so hard to create in this great land of ours.

 

[Ryuusei Boy]

I kind of agree with the topic creator. I went out with a guy like 2 weeks ago. I made it clear from the start that I was looking for friends, yet he ended up hitting on me, the first (and consecutively last) time we met. He even tried to convince me that I should have sex as soon as possible, lol. It's actually quite sad when you can't find a friend who doesn't want to have sex with you.

 

[Tadaa]

Guys, I am serious, I'm just being open and honest and telling it like I see it.

By the way, to all of the closet gay man on here, please don't tell anyone that you like to watch The Golden Girls or The Hills. Because then people will know you're gay for sure.

Watch what you say about Dorothy, Blanche, Rose and Sophia...thems fighting words

 

[miguelfukt]

i dont understand this thread at all! what is the point?

 

[MindBlast]

i dont understand this thread at all! what is the point?

 

[Telstra]

darkcap2008 i remember you.
post 1 is a guessing work for fun ...

 

[G-Lexington]

I don't see a problem.

Lex

 

[rodvill]

i don't know if my comment will help you.
since july I began looking for a gay friend i could TRUST (with capitals)... since I'm closeted and all my friends are straight (male & female).
so after deciding who (since I don't know that many) i found a guy i usually just said "hi" to. i couraged up and invited him a cup of coffee the first day of vacation. when we got there i asked him if he would like being my friend since i had the desperate urge to really trust someone as well as share experiences, etcetera... he answered back that he thought i was going to ask him out, when i said i wasn't, he revealed that he had a HUGE crush on me, to the point that he said that since 1 year ago he had been planning to one day just give me a kiss
anyway when i told him i didn't want him for THAT type of relationship, he TURNED my friendship invitation DOWN (can you imagine! )... i encouraged him to at least try,
anyway, he has a boyfriend now with whom he is growing his relationship stronger. and we are trying to work out our friendship as well.
my advise to you is to ALWAYS speak the truth. if you want a REAL & serious friendship, learn to ALWAYS speak your mind. you'll feel like the world's been lift off your shoulder, I promise.

 

[JasunStrikesBack]

not like I haven't fallen for the big truck of trollish bullshit that is every post by Darkcap, but people... you really all need to just put him and his little show on ignore and move on.