Would you rather be rejected for looks - or personality?

[Corny]

I would rather be rejected on looks just so I wont have to get to know the shallow fuck and give them the chance to reject my personality....

And we have a winner. At least from my perspective, as that was my conclusion as well. Being rejected for personality definitely would hurt more. Being rejected, simply because of your looks, also hurts - it hurts because you didn't even get the chance to show him your personality. But that makes HIM shallow, so you know that you would reject him for his personality - which makes it easier to be rejected.

 

[geloge]

I would preffer to be rejected by looks, but generally I get rejected because my personality sucks :/

 

[Sam Blum]

I have thought about this and discussed it with friends in the past, and I have come to the point in my life when I can honestly, and with experience, say that I don't care if I'm rejected for looks or personality. The only things that irritates me is when I'm rejected for something like race. And in regular social situations, for being gay. I have been marginalised for being too educated, too. That pisses me off. But as to looks or personality: Both speak as much to the person rejecting me as they could speak to me, so if that person is walking away and I think and feel that I am actually okay, what would I care what that person imagines that they know of me? Concepts and perceptions of race, sexuality and education speak of the other person also, but those issues have been covered to such an extent publicly that any moron ought to know better than to sling them about in this day and place, and so I will publicly challenge almost anyone with any slurs against me on those grounds.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

It's the truth, suck it up buddy.

I also mentioned about grooming, go watch "Style by Jury".

It's not the truth, so try again kid. Grooming still won't fix everything.

Not talking about personality here.

Then you obviously can't read the thread, which renders your "truth" invalid.

 

[jackoroe]

I would rather be rejected on looks just so I wont have to get to know the shallow fuck and give them the chance to reject my personality....

I used to become upset or worry what can I do when rejected. Now all I can think is "thank God" The last thing I need is another person looking for themselves and wanting to go through me to to find themselves.

That says it all!

 

[palbert]

Either one. Saves a lot of time and trouble and gets quickly to the ending.

 

[LoveInEcstacy]

Ive never gotten rejected for my personality (mainly because its of very high quality) but id imagine that would hurt alot more than people that dont like me for my looks. I just hope the people who reject me for my looks get rejected by someone even hotter so they know what it feels like and can therefore understand the importance of a smart brain and a good heart. Good thread btw

 

[asu1117]

Probably personality, because that would mean we'd taken the time to get to know one another. Not everyone gets along though.

There is no ugly men, only lazy men.

Go and take some grooming lessons, get the best hairstyle that suits your face.

Envy those with 6 packs and bulging biceps?

Everyone has it, it's whether you take the effort to get them, or not.

Not true, you can work out all day and night but that doesn't make your face more attractive. Same goes with your hair, style it however you want but it doesn't change bone structure. Beauty isn't completely based upon one's body.

 

[uslad7]

I voted looks. I think I have a pretty good personality, or so I'm told, and while I may not be a model, I'm not that bad too look at.

Beauty fades. When I'm old and wrinkly, it's not my looks that'll keep him around.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

Originally Posted by JayHawk View Post
I would rather be rejected on looks just so I wont have to get to know the shallow fuck and give them the chance to reject my personality....

I used to become upset or worry what can I do when rejected. Now all I can think is "thank God" The last thing I need is another person looking for themselves and wanting to go through me to to find themselves.

That says it all!

dat bit > is another person looking for themselves and wanting to go through me to to find themselves

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Girl boy ans hand book Food ans wata ans go grow stuff <no read dat if ya moron thankyou

thankyou

 

[Latimer]

I'd rather be rejected for my personality, although the two times I've been rejected it was for my looks. On the first occasion the guy told me I was "far too pretty" and ripped for him, that he really liked "rougher" football player types.
Maybe it was a line, but it was a great line and I took it as a compliment.
The second time I was rejected because I had shaved my chest and abs, and the guy said if I was interested I'd need to stop shaving for a few weeks--he wanted a hairy blond, not a smooth one. He was hot, so I did and we had a couple of great fucks.
I don't know that I've ever been rejected for my personality, although a guy I dated for a very short period ultimately rejected me because he regarded my history as that of a "slut". So perhaps he figured I had the personality of a slut.
Come to think of it, there was another guy who dated and fucked me a couple of times who said I was far too "Type A", ambitious, and hard-working for him--he was much more relaxed and easy-going and that whatever good times we might be having together at the time, we were essentially incompatible. And he was right.

 

[GL]

i am rejected for both quite honestly

but i'm more used to being rejected because of my looks

i don't fit into any particular 'gay' paradigm

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

I don't have any personality, therefore...

 

[MTLDude]

Since I am very far from the canons of beauty imposed to the gay community, I have been rejected so many time for my look, that I have developed some kind of misanthrope personality, so now, I am often rejected for my look and personality... Oh! well, I guess I only have myself to blame...

 

[refujiunderground]

personality because it makes no sense trying to make something work if our personalities aren't compatible. i will reject someone more for their personality if anything even if they're cute. i have a low tolerance for dickheads.

 

[palemale]

Looks. Being told I'm too handsome to have sex with isn't so bad.

 

[Incognito]

Both can hurt. Being rejected on personality is probably easier for someone you don't care as much about, while it would really sting when you have a strong liking for a person.

 

[birddog7]

I'd rather not be rejected at all. However, anyone could find a myriad of reasons for which to reject me. I have more flaws than a two dollar hay baler...

 

[resonance]

Call me shallow, but I voted personality.

I can and have come to grips with having a vile personality, but I would never want to have to accept I was ugly.

Also, if a guy hasn't turned me away due to my personality, it pretty much means I can get away with anything.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

I'd rather not be rejected at all. However, anyone could find a myriad of reasons for which to reject me. I have more flaws than a two dollar hay baler...

Repeat after me:

-I am a decent person.
-I am attractive.
-I have traits other people would be interested in.
-I like myself.
-There is nothing wrong with me.

Repeat until you believe it.