Would your life be easier if you were str8?

[Telstra]

Isn't the real question, "Would life be easier if I were a member of the majority?"

hey for your nation's sake,
you must produce at least 3 kids, 1 for mum, 1 for dad and 1 for your nation according to Peter Costello (aus minister).

 

[panda29]

No. I am gay and I like my life just the way it is !!!!

 

[Críostóir]

hey for your nation's sake,
you must produce at least 3 kids, 1 for mum, 1 for dad and 1 for your nation according to Peter Costello (aus minister).

So this guy wants every third child to be raised by the government?!?!?!

No, of course he doesn't. He just wants the population to increase. But it's an interesting dystopian near-future, isn't it? "I am the third son of my family, and therefore was conscripted at the age of 5."

 

[Telstra]

So this guy wants every third child to be raised by the government?!?!?!

No, of course he doesn't. He just wants the population to increase. But it's an interesting dystopian near-future, isn't it? "I am the third son of my family, and therefore was conscripted at the age of 5."

no, he was joking. He wants 3 kids from couples because the population is aging.

 

[sixthson]

I visited my local grocery store and saw two young guys hitting on two young girls.

1. Did you remember to buy toilet paper?

2. How do you know the girls weren't hitting on the guys?

 

[PabloZed]

I attended a jesuit school and jesuits love taking young, tender boys on retreats in the woods. Anway, one of the exercises was to answer a bunch of questions in a blue book for reflection and one of the questions was, "Who in your class do you admire and would trade places with?" At the end of the week they made us read our answers aloud in the group and one of the other boys said he wanted to be me because I was popular and everything seemed so easy for me.

I almost peed in my pants. Here I was a closeted mess, only on the retreat to try to catch a glimpse of some cute boys in their underwear. I doubt he would have wanted to trade places if he really knew what it meant to walk in my shoes.

I think its too easy to say life would be better as a heterosexual or anything else for that matter because there are a lot of straight people going through hell. Imagine having five kids right now, facing foreclosure and unemployed. A straight guy in CA kill his whole family for that reason.

One last thing. I too used to think it was so much easier for straights to meet. That was before I learned the art of cruising. I met a guy on a Christmas cruise with his parents at one of the buffets. We looked, smiled, and the next thing you know we were scaring the straight people by dancing in the little disco. If he had been straight he probably would have thought I was overly friendly.

 

[Telstra]

^ good point. the question is too simplestic.

its like asking is it easier to be a man or a woman ?

 

[Shepherd 2]

It is always now to post under Ankh for he is a thoughtful and articulate man. I do agree with him my answer is no. And I do know a bit about this. For my story is that I lived life as a straight man for 47 years, totally convinced that was who I am. It was not easy, and my marriage became a wreck, and my life was for all intents over.

Then into my life came my now partner, who over 19 months gently guided me into a clear understanding of me the gay man, and we have stayed together for 22 years since then. It would be hard on me and all around me if I were trying to live a straight life, for I am not.

I did not have the teasing at school. I did have some transition difficulties with my children while they wondered if they and their children were losing access to me, but that has evaporated. No life is right for me, the gay man living life as a gay person.

This was a throughtful thread, and I thank you for putting it up here. I wish you well, and would love to find a time when we can chat. Love to you.

Shep+

 

[Fucker29]

Definately yes.

 

[metta]

yes and no.

- I 'm thankful that I will never have to worry about having a baby by accident.

- Part of me loves being part of a group that is fighting for civil rights.

- It is fun sometimes to be a part of something that often times goes over the heads of mainstream society.

- For me, I think that it would be so much easier to find a 'good' woman than a 'good' man. Most women have no problem with monogamy.

 

[2243]

If I was born straight, then the answer is yes. I'm not saying my life would be problem-free, but it definitely would be easier. I would be a different person of course and I, being myself, wouldn't like the idea of ending myself in exchange for being someone who isn't me unless I was suicidal, but that is not the question.

If I suddenly turned straight just now, I believe my life would be slightly easier. I would still have other issues. Some issues that I think I wouldn't have If wasn't gay and some I'd have regardless.

I try not to think about this a lot, it doesn't really help at all.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

I don't think so. Life is no picnic for straight guys either. Being dissed by women all the time, not being able to dance well, looked upon as a knuckle-dragging clod by much of society. Nah.

 

[metta]

*flutters eyelashes*

I have no problem with monogamy...

And yes, life would be easier...it just wouldn't be me.

awww....Vanti....you're sooooo cute!

 

[Cayden]

Life would be so much easier, I wouldn't have to deal with the assholes at my school who mock me, I wouldn't have to see the disappointment in parents' eyes when I look at them, I wouldn't have to go through years of hating myself and wanting to die, and I wouldn't have to listen to people telling me I'm an abomination every so often.

But I wouldn't be as strong as I am today. I wouldn't be able to face the world with the confidence I now have because I am gay.

As someone said before, it would easier? Yes. As fulfilling? No.

Just my after-school special 2 cents

 

[Críostóir]

I wouldn't have to listen to people telling me I'm an abomination every so often.

You don't have to listen to them now. You should tell them to go fuck themselves and you'll see them in hell.

 

[MetaKnight]

Honestly I learned that life is NOT supposed to be easy, and I'm glad being gay is one of my "problems" because seriously, people could have it worse.

 

[innocentbychoice]

Would my life be easier?

If I was a str8 man no, If I was a str8 woman, yes it would. I would be able to do lots of things like holding hands with my bf in public.

I've thought about it many times and, even though I'm very open about my sexuality, sometimes it saddens me that I can't do some things str8s can. I can't hug my bf in public, or kiss him, if I had a job I wouldn't be able to take him to parties and stuff. This might me possible to some of you but I live in a small town and there's some lines that I'm not ready to cross yet.

The only bad thing about being str8 is that I wouldn't have had the chance to learn all the amazing things I did as a gay person, such as self-respect, tolerance to myself and others, being open minded, trying not to judge but to understand the rest...

 

[Joshua_me]

- Part of me loves being part of a group that is fighting for civil rights.

Hmm.

I would never have thought to put it like that, but I suppose I agree.

I guess most of my life has been about helping and fighting for the underdog, myself included.

I'm convinced that every little bit of progress we make will all add up in the end. We may not live long enough to see the final result, but it's extremely satisfying being part of the movement... Part of the fight against the intolerance of the day.

 

[Telstra]

Would my life be easier?

If I was a str8 man no, If I was a str8 woman, yes it would. I would be able to do lots of things like holding hands with my bf in public.

I've thought about it many times and, even though I'm very open about my sexuality, sometimes it saddens me that I can't do some things str8s can. I can't hug my bf in public, or kiss him, if I had a job I wouldn't be able to take him to parties and stuff. This might me possible to some of you but I live in a small town and there's some lines that I'm not ready to cross yet.

The only bad thing about being str8 is that I wouldn't have had the chance to learn all the amazing things I did as a gay person, such as self-respect, tolerance to myself and others, being open minded, trying not to judge but to understand the rest...

str8 woman can get all the sex they want from lots of men.
But men can't.

 

[cruz555]

Anyone's life would be easier if they were straight. It's delusional to think otherwise. It's always an adventage to be more socially "accepted" when it comes to looks, sexual orientation, race and just about anything.

However, it's not really an excuse. If your life sucks, it's not because you're gay, it's because you can't get past that little fact. Plenty of gay people are happy with their lives.