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Your age, does it "bother" you?

VICTORIADON

VICTORIADON

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I don't mean this as a trivial question. I am 46, soon to be 47 and in some respects I love being this age. I have stability in my life, job etc., but in the 'gay' community I really dislike it.
I used to go "out" to the clubs here and many other cities but I heard the comment "look at that old guy, what's he doing here" once too often so I no longer bother to go out because on the outside I could pass it off but inside it stung. I no longer support the gay community in my city because of it. I do go to the occasional party being held at someones' home but that is it.
JUB in our profile has "show your age" and by default it is now set to yes. I have left it yes, I have changed it to no, changed it back and forth and now I am stuck. I had put my age out of my mind since deciding years ago not to go to the clubs, now it is back, haunting me.
I came out to my family, friends and people I work/ed with back when I was 17, almost 30 years ago, so I have been around for a while. Coming out is not a factor in my question.

What are your thoughts on your age and being gay?
 
No, it doesn't bother me.

I really don't see that much age discrimination. Of course, I don't go to clubs or bars often...and when I do, I avoid those that tend to attract the younger crowd.
Hell, I didn't go at all when I was that age, so....why would I now.

I've made it to my early 40's. Granted, I'd prefer to be with someone special.
Being single and what's considered "older" in the gay world is not easy, that I can sympathize with. But, it comes down to one's own perspective about the whole age issue. I've got enough to deal with, things that could easily "bother" me...I can't let my age be one of them.


:-)
 
My age doesn't bother me, granted that I'm still on the younger side, but all you guys shouldn't worry about your age. 'Older' guys are hot so you should remember that.
 
Kester said:
My age doesn't bother me, granted that I'm still on the younger side, but all you guys shouldn't worry about your age. 'Older' guys are hot so you should remember that.
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Gee, what a nice post to follow! Suddenly I feel GREAT about my age! :gogirl:

Anyhow, sure it bothers me off and on. Its hard to turn those big numbers like 30 and 40 and 50. I'm pretty fine inbetween. 50 has taken me longer to deal with than 40 did but I'm doing ok.

When I go out, I go to a bar with mixed ages and I don't get any funny looks. In fact, if I get up and dance by myself I have been joined by guys of all ages so I guess its not a problem. I can't stop time so what choice do I have?

My dad has always hidden his age so its not just a gay thing.
 
No...I am 36 and am happy with it.....I do understand your dilemma, and think that the gay community at times could learn to respect others, especially older guys(including myself) cause if it wasn't for us struggling to get what we have today, these young guys wouldn't have a place to party it up!
 
VICTORIADON said:
... I no longer support the gay community in my city because of it. I do go to the occasional party being held at someones' home but that is it.
JUB in our profile has "show your age" and by default it is now set to yes. I have left it yes, I have changed it to no, changed it back and forth and now I am stuck. I had put my age out of my mind since deciding years ago not to go to the clubs, now it is back, haunting me.
I came out to my family, friends and people I work/ed with back when I was 17, almost 30 years ago, so I have been around for a while. Coming out is not a factor in my question.

What are your thoughts on your age and being gay?
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Okay this bothers me for the simple fact you are letting some punk ass little bastards govern how you function in the gay community. I could give two flying fucks in a graveyard what anybody thinks of my age. If I were you I would have told them to cherish their youth because IT WON"T LAST! It doesn't matter who you are Time stands still for no one unless you are dead.


I look at it this way, I have managed to live for 34 years. A lot of people do not have this distinction.
 
At 24 I'm not really bothered by my age, but a few months ago I had a serious health scare that kept me hospitalized for a week. It made me realize that I was mortal and how close to death I actually came. Now this year I'll turn 25 and I know I should be bothered that in 5 years I'll be turning 30, but it's someting I dont care about.

The only time age bothers me at all is when I make some plans for my future and remember that I'm running a race of life that there is no chance of me or anyone else winning. It dosen't always make me feel comftorable to know that no matter what we do in our lives, they all end the same way. Your existance simply stops. Then the world goes on without you. That bothers me, knowing that when I'm gone everyting must still run and there's no time to stop. I dislike the concept of time, because its someting that we bring on ourselves. I'm sure other creatures "without watches or clocks" dont worry about time like we do. I think of the lyrics of a John Lennon song

"Working Class Hero":

As soon as your born they make you feel small
By giving you no time, instead of it all

But yes that's the only aspect of aging that bothers me. It's not tied to any number, just the fact that everyting eventually ends.
 
My age doesn't bother me, but people I've talked to seem to be bothered by getting old.
 
I'm 38.

Happily 38.

Yeah, it might be fun to be 18 again and experience it all over.

but I can't.

And I'm happier than any other 38 year old I know.
 
My age dont bother me at all I am 46. But one of my coworkers who I was very close with, who I always thought was older was only 19. So I heard all the generation gap jokes. The best was just yesterday we were on our way to lunch and he said "Man I just realisied that youir a year older than my mother, I was like THANKS ALOT!!!!!!! It was all in good fun
 
Ok ... a senior guy here , lol . I am 57 Years Young. I've had many jobs and owned several businesses, several homes, a variety of automobiles, and I have a nice substantial bank account that I've EARNED and WORKED for .
Yet; as has been mentioned , if I go to a gay club etc .. I am usually looked down upon and scorned . Hell; I even told one bitch ass punk that I could buy and sell him four or five times over when he made a remark about the "Old, Fat Guy at the bar" ....
Thing is ... we cannot escape getting older ...and time will eventually catch up to us all .... Right now; most folks tell me I look more like I'm in my 30's ... Sure Makes Me Feel GREAT !!
The good thing is that I've ALWAYS had my relationships develope from a Friendship and not from someone I met online or at a club etc ... and; they have always been considerably YOUNGER ; but lasted for at least three-four years at a time ....
So; Senior Guys: live your life to it's fullest ... Enjoy what you have while you have it ... and you younger guys who look down on the more senior guys ; YOU too will be OLDER one day ... How will YOU look ?
 
Reconciled to the fact that I could pretty much be a father figure.
So most young sexy things are just pleasing to the eyes now
And no, it dont bother me in a "Gawd-why-cant-I-have-sex-with-him" kinda way.
You know one matures with age and so on....
 
Yes....
I didn't celebrate my most recent birthday because I couldn't stand the thought of getting older. I don't want to celebrate the fact that I have one less year to live. Life is shit! Blah.
 
my age doesn't bother me. yes, i know i'm only 27, but in some circles, i'm practically expired.

but those are circles that i don't associate with, nor care for. my group of friends have a wide strata of ages, the oldest one being 46 years old. we all go out together and have a great time.

def agree with the posters who declare, "who cares about them? enjoy your life"
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I like older guys. Please know that there are people out here who appreciates mature older men. :)
 
I don't think I would want to be 18 again. I think this a much better part of my life. I may not feel the same way once I hit 70, though. :-)
 
I am proudly 37...what I do not like is that my body is 37, but my mind is still in my late 20's! I hate that my metabolism is slowing and it takes longer to lose weight...I hate that Abercrombie makes me feel like a pedophile and that going dancing and drinking has turned into dinner parties.

I do appreciate that I have found a great and understanding partner...I appreciate that I have a great job and I appreciate what I have as a 37 year old, gay man!
 
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