A Gay Teen kills himself after being outed on the internet!

[Audio Tech]

I read his thread and pondered about replying. Never did... Now I feel like crap.

Same here. But It looked like he had it pretty well handled at the time, so I really had nothing else to add.

I am so sad, if only we could have made a difference.

 

[Lube]

This is very sad indeed.

From the news reports, he sounded like a very shy, introverted guy. His roommate preyed on that obvious shyness by not only spying on him, but broadcasting it on the Internet.

You have to wonder what kind of family the perpetrator has. And to think he and his co-perpetrator are ethnic minorities--did they not understand his situation? How could they be so callous?

This past weekend I went to a barbecue in a very conservative school district here in Minnesota in support of a gay teen who committed suicide earlier this year because of homophobic bullying. It's sickening to realize that the school district will do everything possible to not talk about problems with gay bullying. There's even a "support group" for parents who want to abolish dealing with gay issues at all. I wonder how they'd feel if it were their son? I guess it's not surprising considering it's Michelle Bachmann's congressional district. Conservative wackos. :-(

 

[Newmercedes]

Im crying while reading it. Men I wanna kick the Indian guy so baddddddddddddddd. Fuck him. Send him to jail or send him back to his country. I wanna punch oh his face so badddddddd.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Im crying while reading it. Men I wanna kick the Indian guy so baddddddddddddddd. Fuck him. Send him to jail or send him back to his country. I wanna punch oh his face so badddddddd.

It took longer than expected for the accusee's nationality to be brought up. Bravo, by the way, on such an eloquent response. Why not include a reference to his Asian sidekick participating for no other reason than her natural subservience to a male?

 

[Lostlover]

It took longer than expected for the accusee's nationality to be brought up. Bravo, by the way, on such an eloquent response. Why not include a reference to his Asian sidekick participating for no other reason than her natural subservience to a male?

Oh their nationalities are being trashed everywhere. Jub has been civil.

I'm surpised a college student would be so openly bigoted. He didn't even care about being PC. I'd expect this kind of crap from an older person set in his ways.

 

[metta]

I can't stop thinking about this. Something had to have happened after he posted last.

A couple guesses:

1. the original web cam filmed way more than he originally thought.

2. the roommate that filmed was confronted with what he did and he may said something about going farther than anything that has been stated so far....or the roommate may have threatened to take it to the next level...what ever that may be....
to the point where this student may have felt that either his family would reject him and/or his future career as an artist would be ruined. Being an artist of course tends to be more liberal but many in the classical music area tend to be hush hush about their sexuality.

It had to be something really bad to make him feel that there was nothing left to live for. So very horrible.

I read on the facebook page a note from one of his previous music teachers that mentioned that the World has had a huge loss.


Selfishly...I wish that I had the opportunity to hear him play. I wish that I could have had a chance to talk to him...

 

[Rex]

This is crazy.

I hope the douche bag who was spying on him gets a reality check. His stupid prank lead to a suicide. I don't think he is directly responsible for the death of the JUBBER but he's going to have to live with this for the rest of his life.

 

[backpacker]

This is so very sad. He seems like such a nice guy. I hope some good can come from this tragedy in the form of awareness. I'm thinking something similar to Mathew Shepard.

I thought he was handling everything rather well and was shocked he took his own life. To those that didn't reply to his post, don't feel bad. I think enough people replied to make him feel like he had the support of JUB.

I'm convinced something happened in the late afternoon or early evening last Wednesday that changed things. He may have been threatened or found out that the RA's weren't taking his problem seriously. He was at a rehearsal that afternoon and nothing appeared out of the ordinary (even in retrospect). I sure hope the authorities get to the bottom of this. There is more to this than just spying.

 

[Blueboy369]

This whole tragedy is all I can think about since I heard the news. I read his post and even though I didn't reply, I was waiting for his update. I wish he would've come back and mentioned that he was thinking of taking his life. We could have talked him off the ledge. Boys, no matter how bad your problems may seem, they will pass and everything will be OK again. One day you'll have an entirely different set of challenges. Let these bad situations be learning experiences. Learn from your mistakes and the mistakes of others. Sometimes we don't even know how many people actually care about us.

 

[ajal]

I responded on that thread and was eager to hear about the outcome from the talk with his RA or any news about a discussion he may have had with the roommate. That was one of the few threads I had been checking out every day. I am so sad to hear about this and wish I could have helped him out more.

 

[freefall]

Damn.

Just...damn. Shit.

And you know what is worst?

Try check the memorial Facebook page and see the photos.

My parents always tell me not to speak ill of the deceased, and yet...

Damn. Just damn.

 

[evanrick]

I just want to say that yes, someone should be held responsible, because actions can lead to tragedy, its just not as easy to see as this has been.

Sometimes we do not realize the gravity of our actions until after the effects are apparent.

I don't want to speculate but I do feel that this young man was cheated out of his life by a homophobic and cruel act.

I can only imagine his sadness and despair and its something we need to look out for, to help people out of these situations.

I agree there is more to this that meets they eye and we may never know, and this young man may have had deeper emotional problems for it to go this far.

 

[Petalswilt]

May you rest in peace, mate.

 

[geloge]

Very sad, my condolences for his family and friends.

 

[star-warrior]

The original thread has been moved out of the public forums into Mod Towers and so does not lead anywhere for members and those who view JUB without signing up. Subsequently, the link to that thread has been removed in my posts and subsequent quotes or repostings of it. This was done pending any action to come or not from any investigations that may or may not ensue.

Only the owners and staff will likely have knowledge of what is to happen. I ask everyone's forebearance on this. Thank you.

 

[justndav]

Unfortunately this guy can only get up to five years it sounds like... but he will have the weight of his actions causing another person to take their own life on him the rest of his life. That in itself is going to be a huge burden for him to carry the rest of his days.

I remember reading that thread and thinking how unreal it was that the school seemed to be dragging its feet (the school being the RA) with no action seemingly to immediately happen. Once the RA was notified this should have been sent up the chain immediately and the two students immediately suspended pending investigation of the allegations. I suspect the school may have dismissed it or the RA said there was nothing he could do which sent beloved Tyler into some kind of an emotional tailspin.

When I saw the title of the threat I, also, though "Wow that sounds a lot like that one guys post on this message board" only to find out this is about the same person. I'm so sad for him and his family. I've lost two friends who were gay to suicide in the last four years and its heartbreaking. I had no signs of it with either one of them, it was like they made up their minds and there was nothing anyone was going to be able to do to change their mind. Only to find out a few days after it happened and then being in shock because of there being no signs. I think certain people just make up their minds and do it. We really need to get more activists out there and let people know its not the only solution to their problems, we can all be counselors and the best possible friends to people even we don't know to prevent these things.

Perhaps its time to start putting up our ph#'s or something for suicide counseling/prevention or creating a stronger network to prevent this....anyone lets perhaps try and do this in memory of Tyler.

 

[OhReally]

I read about that in the news and I emediatly cried because I had also read the topic that same guy posted. :'( So tragic. I hope those sons of bitch's that did this get thrown in for a long long time and get publicly shamed. Their lives will be fucked forever now all because they were stupid, immature fucks in college. RIP

 

[AlmondMilk]

I just heard the story on the news today, and like others my first thought was the guy who made a thread. I hope he rests in peace, and my condolences to his family and friends.

 

[braex27]

Absolutely heartbreaking.

 

[Callum]

Holy shit. I remember reading the thread title and assuming it was just someone wanting to spy on their roommate (as if we haven't read that before...) so I didn't even bother.

Now I feel as if I should read and respond to every thread in that forum. He seemed like a nice guy, even sensitive too especially with that "I don't want him to be mad" comment...

I just read his posts on Gawker (yeah, JUB mods...the screenshots all over the net) and I am dumbfounded. It seems as if the response from his RA wasn't in Clementi's favour. This whole situation is just fucking horrible and I hope the two punks rot in jail and have their thoughts fester upon them. Maybe when they get out they'll be better people.