No frank is fine talking with me about it. I'm like the one person he feels comfortable talking about it with I think. He just doesn't like talking to his brother about it.
And as far as franks brother knowing how to delete stuff... I don't think he does. They don't have regular access to the internet because they have been building a house then moving to a rental house when they sold it and waiting on the next house to be built. So most guys his age would know how to but he doesn't. I've actually met a 15 year old that didn't know how to clear the history.
The conversation with him is going to be very general. In other words I'm not going to be like "oh looking up zac efron huh?". It's going to be "I saw you were looking up porn on my computer. Don't do it because it's my responsibility if it's on mine. And I would suggest not looking at it on other computers if you can't get rid of it". Then Im going to let him know it will be between me and him. I'll probably say something about sexuality and not to worry about the size of his penis, since he was looking up ways to increase his size. I'm going to offer him my knowledge about things of he ever has questions because I know at that age if you don't look it up yourself then you'll probably hear something crazy from one of your friends that knows little more than you.
People probably think this is over the top but I told the kid about jacking off when he asked me over the summer. Not much reason to worry about it after that conversation.
Dude, I honestly don't know what to say about it. On the one hand I agree that it's your computer and there's nothing wrong with saying, hey don't be looking that stuff up on
mycomputer. BUT seriously, a bigger part of me says
don't say anything or be MORE general than that because I know you're going to say something anyway
I think you want to talk to the kid out of misplaced loyalty. Your friend is not gonna go "hey, he's so cool with my brother. Maybe I should see what he really knows sexually!"
I know you haven't asked specifically, but if it were me, I would put my foot down and if your friend feels like his brother needs to be chatted with then I would insist he be the one to do the chatting. Tell him to get over it! Not everyone exposed catches the plague.
You can advise your friend on what he could say. I mean the kid may be just like a brother to you, but his brother is right there. You don't need to step in unless his brother is not around. Help your friend be a better brother because you're his friend.
But I'm lost....why does anything need to said again? Who is this John person again? For that matter, backpacker has a point, how do you even know the brother is the one looking stuff up? It could be your friend, and could not be. It could be someone playing a trick, and there you'll be in a damn awkward situation.
It just seems like you're trying too hard to show how cool you are with the whole "taboo" subject, and it's showing. People can feel and pick up on this stuff, especially if they are sensitive to it as your friend seems to be. I think you genuinely back off from time to time and when you do, your friend responds and he broaches the subject, but then you may take that as an all clear and you go in balls to the wall and he shuts down again.
the sexually confused scare very easily buddy!
I might be wrong, but I've been in your shoes before and they seem to be a perfect fit. I'm worried you're setting yourself up for a great deal of pain. From my experience, it's a pain that is
noteasy to get over.
