Do you think it's weird for a 22 year old man to date a 53 year old man?

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

I think it's creepy when someone wants to date someone 20 years younger or more than them. It seems like they are not looking for an equal and want someone that they can control and mold into what they want. If an older guy just so happens to meet a younger guy and just clicks with them that's okay.

folk is aware da amazin history of human race of taday wot still runnin every side a ^human^ ways fa eons ans is da mainstreams<>a pickans a choices of it alls area it like a bit a this but not a dat ans fforgat da tip > it da modern way or mainstreamys live ins idea ooh yay we a modern while minefileds keep folks feet alway reminda ans da Cleopatra titters ta da centurys roll by aint MAN a twat

ans thread op is woteva say so it a no a someone of someone one thang

it a 2s a apes wot gons flippys ans ins da bubble gum disnsey woteva heart bubblublls is floatys ans orcestra is vilons or rock band goin YEAAHHHHH OOH YEAAAAAAAH OOOH YEAAAAAAAH

ans if gonna make a tie up Kool
may ofs no work as is fa lot a folk of many sum a female! ooh my gawd yes wit tits

so it no a someone ans a someone

anyway back ta da amazin human backg round a noise wot stills a playin on repeat

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this a no way say da currents worlds cream of idiots run countrys ans professions ans fa eons is not amazin moron cretins fa alway forget da obvious
wot dat me hears folk go of no idea nothin but sound a their owns wantys

it obvious < a thang wot few in real world runnin now in alls locations strain threws da shit pile of da > fancy word culture < wot set up by lot a FARTS

ans etc etc edit bit here bit a there
bla bla

was ood fa you

ooh look a time

thankyou

 

[frankfrank]

I wouldn't say "weird" at all - only statistically unusual. Certain types of liaisons don't happen as often as others ("May-December" type relationships being one of them), but there are no laws that forbid them unless one is a minor - and common wisdom only says that such relationships *usually* don't work. There's nothing that says NEVER...

A major age difference is only a barrier, which can be overcome. This is no different than a relationship between two people of different races or ethnic backgrounds. (Somebody from Ecuador and somebody from Hungary will probably be the same "race" but their backgrounds will be very different.) Or, for that matter, it's no different than a relationship between people who are widely separated by religion (or lack of it) and/or politics - and working relationships exist in all cases. There is a current JUB thread about a three-way relationship which is working out well, and I believe that is considerably rarer than major age differences, and in all my lifetime travels I've only knowingly run into one such relationship (in Coffeyville, Kansas).

Go for it, nurture the relationship, cherish the moment...I hope that things are still going well for the two of you, even when YOU get old.

Why and how did far-unmatched-ages relationships ever pick up the term May-December relationships, anyway?

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

I wouldn't say "weird" at all - only statistically unusual. Certain types of liaisons don't happen as often as others ("May-December" type relationships being one of them), but there are no laws that forbid them unless one is a minor - and common wisdom only says that such relationships *usually* don't work. There's nothing that says NEVER...

A major age difference is only a barrier, which can be overcome. This is no different than a relationship between two people of different races or ethnic backgrounds. (Somebody from Ecuador and somebody from Hungary will probably be the same "race" but their backgrounds will be very different.) Or, for that matter, it's no different than a relationship between people who are widely separated by religion (or lack of it) and/or politics - and working relationships exist in all cases. There is a current JUB thread about a three-way relationship which is working out well, and I believe that is considerably rarer than major age differences, and in all my lifetime travels I've only knowingly run into one such relationship (in Coffeyville, Kansas).

Go for it, nurture the relationship, cherish the moment...I hope that things are still going well for the two of you, even when YOU get old.

Why and how did far-unmatched-ages relationships ever pick up the term May-December relationships, anyway?

dat easy

piles of shit of lands twat fill museums librarys ans folk hangin from rope tellya

if dude go marry leaper or wot eva is marryem mean

it is of no interst but da 2 folk or dozen mongooseesy wot doin it

ans humans of cultures so hung ons da SQAURE wheel gotta move onnnnnn

thankyou

was a very nice ta be here ans wish alls a happy day ans
^ here ya 500000 fa da politcal pep talk^
ooh ya no has gotta but

da world at 0 ha

 

[hungkee]

dat easy

piles of shit of lands twat fill museums librarys ans folk hangin from rope tellya

if dude go marry leaper or wot eva is marryem mean

it is of no interst but da 2 folk or dozen mongooseesy wot doin it

ans humans of cultures so hung ons da SQAURE wheel gotta move onnnnnn

thankyou

was a very nice ta be here ans wish alls a happy day ans
^ here ya 500000 fa da politcal pep talk^
ooh ya no has gotta but

da world at 0 ha

I agree. But could you elaborate on your theory as to how the moongooseesy are doin it?

And does it always take twelve of them?

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

I agree. But could you elaborate on your theory as to how the moongooseesy are doin it?

And does it always take twelve of them?

it a once year a somewhere ons full moon shine wen venus is not a penis ans pluto a flame
ans ( classfied of great not important )
ans there ya go

ha
# wot ya tell um?!!! #
NOTHIN
# good #
ya gonna lick me all ova now with icecream?
# no #
ohh

 

[altlover85]

All I can think of is that the younger one is in the spring of his or her life and the older one is in the winter of his or her life. Maybe you knew that part already.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

All I can think of is that the younger one is in the spring of his or her life and the older one is in the winter of his or her life. Maybe you knew that part already.

humans assume ta death woteva life let on planet earth

amazin is da product lines many lands idea civilizaation

thankyou

 

[mikey3000]

Absolutely WRONG...

...Just as poorly as you have done in distorting and twisting what I said as a typical trolling.

You talk about logic? What logic have you demonstrated? When? Point it out!

I think hard up1 is very logical. He pointed out your inconsistencies nicely. Very observant.

 

[seven2go]

But everything is peachy when a 72 man with $$$$$$ buys.......er.......marries a 22 year old woman.......

 

[Kulindahr]

1. Someone has to be on the edge of the bell curve, though since the middle is higher many there will look down on you.

2. You own yourself, he owns himself -- those are what matter.

3. I'm truly impressed with all the positive feedback here!

 

[windsors]

There is a large age gap between you two,
but as long as you too are happy, then go for it.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

There is a large age gap between you two,
but as long as you too are happy, then go for it.

large age gap?

tree 1000 yr old ans dat a day

desktop computa wot few decades ans no work
# oooh here buy new one da latest upta datey besto eva of eva but hurry in 3 mins new one is #

let da 2 of um figa it out if woteva is or is not ans folk no stick lot a stuff wot aint on their head wot is sure a they go figa their bit of amazin land of -yes we is da bestest eva ins modern civlization please wear life jacket wen we invent um

or stuff

anyway

no forgat da planet round fa any universtiys round world thinkin right papa ons HEY guess wot !

thankyou

 

[Beachguyj]

Look at it this way. If you turn 31 and someone told you your boyfriend was just born how would you feel.

and your boyfriend is born 13 years after you graduate high school....= creepy.

 

[medic1]

I still don't believe a word you say in your threads, butit doesn't matter if someone finds a pairing "weird," what matters is that it's healthy. And if it is, then go for it.

Naughty Arousal , Why dont you believe what the other guy has posted ?
Have you had run-in,s with the guy before and then found out it was just attention-creeping ?

 

[Kulindahr]

It all depends...many 20 something Guys prefer more mature Men than their immature peers.

Yep. I knew a guy here who partied, did petty vandalism, that sort of thing. Then he got his GF pregnant (broken condom), and decided all that had to be put aside because he was a dad. All of a sudden he realized how immature his former 'gang' were, comparing them to farm kids who were twelve and had already learned responsibility. Since most of the mature people his age had gone off to college and beyond, he found his favorite company then to be guys in their late thirties to mid forties.

 

[medic1]

I think hard up1 is very logical. He pointed out your inconsistencies nicely. Very observant.

For christs sake will you stop trying to cause Troll-fights , if you have a problem with either of the other posters , why not take it
outside and stop making such a twat of yourself .
You remind me of my old grannies terrier-dog that used to growl and go for the ankles of other people ,

 

[Anders123]

personally, I'd question what a 53 year-old can intellectually see in a 22 year-old, and based on where you both are in life, I'd wonder how long it can really last.

Ah yes, because the mind of a 22 year-old man is an intellectual wasteland, and he concerns himself only with vapid trivialities such as celebrity weddings, alcohol, and using the latest Apple products as a status symbol, right?

This isn't directed at you specifically loki, but when ever this subject comes up, so too does the ambiguous phrase 'different stages of life'. Can somebody please explain to me what this is referring to specifically, and also how it supposedly creates an insurmountable dissimilarity between two people?

Is it referring to career? Should two people only get together if the prestige and/or earnings of their jobs are of equal value (i.e. is it about a person with a more established career earning a greater salary)? If so, what of the countless relationships with 'stay at home parents'? Is who earns more money so important that all of these relationships are inherently 'imbalanced' and therefore doomed?

Is it because one might still be studying as the other is working on their career? If so, does it really matter which one they leave for in the morning if they come home to each other? What if your current (same age) partner decided to go back to study in order to switch careers? Would you all of a sudden be incapable of maintaining your relationship due to being in 'different stages of life'?

I always see a whole lot of buzzwords and generalities, but very few clear explanations (though much like kulindahr, I'm pleased to see the more open-minded and positive response this thread has received).

Oh, and wish me a happy birthday for later this week loki; I'll be 22.

... Wait, does that mean nobody is going to be interested in my opinions or perspectives, or is it just the people over 50?

For christs sake will you stop trying to cause Troll-fights , if you have a problem with either of the other posters , why not take it
outside and stop making such a twat of yourself .
You remind me of my old grannies terrier-dog that used to growl and go for the ankles of other people ,

I feel that this was an unreasonably aggressive response. Mikey was simply expressing cordial agreement with Hard-up1. Perhaps you may have misinterpreted his tone or intention, because I see no evidence of personal grudge or inflammatory purpose in his words.

 

[handyman76]

I don't think that being at different stages of life is an insurmountable difficulty, though it does make things more complicated. For instance, if a 53 year old and a 22 year old decide to buy a house together, the younger man can probably only afford to make payments on a starter home, while the older man probably wants a home with more comforts. The younger man probably wants a 30 year mortgage, which would put the 53 year old in the position of making payments well into his years of decline. So people of different ages have intrinsically different interests.

Compromises can be made to work these things out, of course. One way would be for the older, more established partner to support the younger partner. For instance, the older man may very well already own a house. But this deprives the younger man of an important opportunity for investment (as well as making him the older man's dependent -- which is something he may or may not want to be).

I say all this to answer Anders's question about what is the significance of the difference in stage of life. It is not, in my opinion, the main reason for concern about the original poster's situation.

 

[ixthrock]

Having acquired 47 summer solstices and since joining Prime Timers, I am now much more social and friendly with guys who have at least a couple of decades on me and made me incredibly uncomfortable with lascivious proposals when I was a twentysomething. I know a few couples with age differences into the decades - doesn't seem odd enough to rant about. Having dated some pretty immature jackasses nearly 8 years my senior, I've decided I'm ready for someone younger and hotter, so long as they've got their head screwed on reasonably well. Immaturity comes in all age groups.

As far as Daddy goes, I was in love with a guy with a young son, and the son knew I loved his father and wanted us to date. It wasn't the son's decision; it was his father's.

 

[Legionair]

The fact that there are people all over the world in wonderful relationships with nothing more "weird" about then then a considerable age differences is testament that they can succeed.

Would I do it? Oh Jesus no.