Most Bisexuals Prefer Masculine Gays?

[kayman23]

I never wrote that it wasn't shallow. It may very well be shallow, but whether bisexuals prefer masculine men in general is an interesting topic of discussion IMO. You weren't attacking my "taste" or preference? What about that remark about our preferences reflect our personal insecurities and hang-ups? Let me explain my preference a little more specifically. I've been a jock or an athlete for most of my life, and I've kept company with other jocks for the most part. Sorry, but I've never run into an effeminate guy playing soccer, basketball, baseball or any contact sport like football or wrestling. If they exist, I've never seen one.

I really don't have that much in common with a guy that looks like Screech and speaks with a lisp. Okay, I realize that this is an extreme example. However, I'm more attracted to very masculine, athletic men because I normally spend more time playing, watching, and discussing sports with them. Sorry, but men that are athletic and in shape are physically more appealing to me. Am I the only guy that finds athletic guys more physically appealing? I don't think so.

Also I once saw this show on the Health Channel about sexual attraction and which traits make females more attractive to males and vice versa. It was concluded that most females are attracted to physically fit and strong, powerful men, because females normally look for a protector & provider. Now, a man like Donald Trump would be considered attractive to females, because he's a powerful man as well as a good provider. However, I don't exactly know how this translates to male-male attraction. All I know is that I prefer very masculine, athletic men because their bodies are normally better, and they're normally more confident and reassured.

On the other hand, it was concluded that males are generally more attracted to females with an hour glass shape or a voluptuous physique, because these women are seen as more fertile as some of the organs associated with or related to the reproductive system are more exaggerated or more visually apparent. For example, voluptuous females normally have larger breasts and wider hips. These women have very "female" physical traits in general.

Further, if you consider the social psychological aspect of human sexual attraction, people may be attracted to a certain type of female or male that is promoted by the media as being the ideal type. However, this doesn't always work. For example, you'll find alot of guys that don't find Kate Moss attractive, more than likely, because she's far from voluptuous. As a personal example, I don't find Brad Pitt or Leonardo DiCaprio to be that attractive either. I definitely have a preference for athletic guys and brunettes with light eyes. Finally, more people may be attracted to an athletic, strong, & powerful man and a voluptuous woman, but most people end up coupling with someone in their own range of physical attractiveness. In other words, most people couple with someone in their own league.

And is there a point to this? I said THIS THREAD is shallow. Geez, get a grip and stop take shit so damn personal.

But you are starting to make me wonder why you feel you need to justication for your attraction to me. When I don't care what you like. This thread speaks of another shallow aspect of the queer community, but whatever it seems society in general is quite shallow.

 

[kayman23]

Why don't you get a grip and get the hell out of here? LOL. Alot of the crap you wrote was presumptuous and naive. Who cares if some of you consider it shallow. Then keep your butts off of the thread. Some of us find the topic interesting. Get it? Don't make me bust loose on your ass again.

Dude what the fuck ever. Your passive aggressive bullshit hasn't proven thing to me besides you are simpleton. STFU talking to me. WINK, WINK, HINT, HINT.

 

[kayman23]

Hee hee hee! Whatever, Screech. Maybe you should start a thread on gay men who pose as bisexuals and use yourself as a visual aid. LOL

No, how about you start one about about dudes who date and fuck "straight" men that are denial while living in the closet like yourself?

 

[justhappy]

what turns me on about a guy isn't always the fact that he is masculine in a physical sense as much as in a mental way ... I like a guy who knows who he is and doesn't feel the need to "act" in a specific way ... we all know the guys who act macho and who act femme, can you really say that's a turn on ... but check out the guy who is comfortable with who he is, the one who carries himself with confidence not arrogance now that's a turn on

 

[rollex_2000]

I like masculine guys 'cause it brings me extra joy to seem them mentally transform to pussies when the get fucked. No offense please.
[DISCLOSURE] I have/had great respect towards all my partners. Here I am just talking about the sex thing[/DISCLOSURE]

When it comes to friendship I like hang out and do stuff which fem guys seem to be not comfortable with.

That's it

 

[Psyence]

I must be in the minority. I prefer smooth feminine acting/looking guys with a convincing girly voice. I'm not really attracted to masculinity.

 

[torontoguy22]

I think I'm bi, and I definitely prefer the masculine type. The queeny ones just aren't for me.

 

[kayman23]

You took the words right out of my mouth. I never could understand why a bi/gay guy would want to be w/ an uber femme dude. He might as well be w/ a woman w/a strap on. the same thing goes for woman wanting to be w/ another woman who is extremely butch.
However, I do use the term "masculine" in the broadest sense. I just happen to prefer guys who exude qualities that would me seen as more masc the fem. It's just like my taste in women. There are certain qualities that I am attracted to. When it comes to men, I prefer tall and athletic. But, I also like I guy who takes care of himself as well (i.e. metro). If I am look at girls, I am drawn to those who are curvy (not fat), firm and blonde.

I'm going to play Devil's Advocate, but what makes you think that ubber femimine homosexual and bisexual dudes are that way by choice. Some people have lower or higher than normal testosterone or estogen levels hints femimine guys and masculine females. If it's not for you then its not for you, but understand that most of the time are not that way by choice.

 

[bhg08054]

To start with, I tend to separate other guys into three categories:

1. Those I want to f--k
2. Those I want to be f--ked by
3. Those I have no sexual interest in

The guys in category 1 are (usually) smaller than me (in height mostly, and in weight). Also I'm more inclined to "want them" when they are less well endowed than me. But these guys still dress like men, talk like men, etc.

The guys in category 2 are (usually) larger than (well taller, not so much heavier). Often, but not necessarily, more muscular than me (although that's not hard). I tend to want them to be better endowed than me. Again, they still dress like men, talk like men, etc.

The guys in category 3 include cross-dressers, the stereotypical "limp wrist-ed" types, and the like. The shirt mostly unbuttoned, covered in jewelery types don't do anything for me either.

Things like long hair (like I have), non-athletic bodies, being skinny, being fat, and so on don't really matter much.

 

[ejbonk]

I'm atracted to girls and masculine gay guys. I've noticed that quite a lot bisexual guys prefer masculine gays over feminine gays. Some said that if they want someone femininity they would be with a girl. What are your thoughts about this?

Do you prefer masculine gays over feminine gays?

Sorry,But I have to say I will take the Str8 acting GAy or Bi Guy over a Girly one Everytime. I prefer my men Muscled,Young,and Masculine in behavior and speech.

I already have a Wife and 2 daughters,Why in the name of God,would I want a boy that acts like a girl.

 

[Frafilippolippi]

For me the equation is simple, I like girls who are most like myself (bookish) and guys who are the opposite of myself, butch and easy going!

 

[begood100]

Flaming queens, o rjust any kind of feminity turns me off. I hate rainbows. Guys who are just fun to be around (average guys). Im not often attracted to guys, but when I am, i am.

 

[bluealternative]

I'm BiCurious and all I look at is masculine men.

 

[Dduder]

Ya, guys are hot when they look like men, have muscles like men, voices like men, act like men and smell like men. I guess that if I ever were to have sex with a guy, I wouldn't care much about how he acts as long as he looked masculine because it would be only for a few hours and then ciao.

 

[lookin4sum1icantrust]

I agree I prefer a masculine guy. Over an feminine, because masculine guys you can do more with as in sports and doing more guy things. When with feminine most like to go shopping and do more girl things than guy things. All guys don't have to be all muscle for me just as long as they have a masculine personality (straight-acting).

 

[fireside]

It's a topic that's hard to approach without offending SOMEONE. Guys who largely exhibit effeminate qualities will feel slighted by all the "masculine" or "straight-acting" talk; guys who largely exhibit masculine qualities will feel slighted by all the "self-hatred" talk. What this boils down to is a group of people who like what they like.

Personally, I prefer guys with whom I can go to the bar, play some pool, watch sporting events, go to concerts--everything from Tori Amos to Killswitch Engage--and not have a purse and heels fall out of his mouth when he speaks. Now, as many others have said, I can be friends with just about anyone, but when I go for guys to date/have relations with, I generally want someone who displays all the qualities one would expect of a 'guy' (being born with the equipment is a definite qualifier; can't do trannies). Notice I didn't say 'man', because anyone with a penis can qualify as that, be it surgically attached or otherwise. I mean, what can I say? There's a reason I like dudes. Much like westwood, most of my friends are straight. Granted I still spend needless time out-manning some of them (sometimes a guy needs to be put in his place before he gets over himself) by beating them over and over in pool matches, drinking contests, and football knowledge quizzes, they're overall still pretty fun to hang out with. (There are relatively few people with whom I associate who, for some off reason, can't seem to have a conversation with me without dropping some reference to my sexuality. Thus, their relationship is described as 'association', and not 'friend'.)

As far as build goes, I don't feel that anyone's build will determine whether or not they are going to be more effeminate or masculine. I've seen some narrow-assed dudes be more masculine than some beefy muscle bear gym rats. Then again, I live in New Orleans--you see a lot of people come and go here.

In today's politically correct world, that's as good as you're going to get out of me.

 

[SteveP]

I'm bi and I'd prefer guys to be masculine but not have a body builder body if ya get what I mean

 

[andsowego]

I agree with that 100%

 

[hanshansen]

I guess there are certain traits which are typically thought of as ‘feminine’ that I dislike even in women when they’re very pronounced – extreme non-aggressiveness, indecisiveness, prioritisation of feelings and relationships over ‘serious business’, that kind of thing. This was appropriate when a woman’s only concerns in life were to attract a suitable mate, build a family, and avoid the wrath of her husband, but not today ...

I also don’t feel comfortable around super-aggressive alpha males.

I guess I like guys best who are open to both masculine and feminine traits in themselves, in the way they look, the way they think and feel ... there’s often something fascinating about that, and it also shows they’re multifaceted, open-minded and comfortable with themselves.

Note also that ‘open to masculine and feminine traits’ does not mean ‘self-conscious display of cultural gender markers’ – that’s only OK in very small doses.

 

[ejbonk]

Fem Guy = Drag Queen - the Dress.