Re: Why is everyone so oblivious here? YOU GUYS EXIST AS GAY MEN IN REAL LIFE
Meetup is a social website that coordinates local in-person activities. It's basically a scheduling clearinghouse for many types of social meetings.
That is extremely besides the point.
The point was, to me there is virtually no fucking difference between a site like this, and a site like that for making relationships.
Really you're supposed to make relationships naturally, and both this site and meetup are both unnatural means of finding relationships.
But many things like the internet are natural, yet are still useful, so.
In other words, I don't see the difference and to me one is not better than the other or vice versa.
It's very dismissive that you can say maybe the people on meetup would be more friendly to me, and the people here wouldn't, or vice versa. So it's complicated.
It's not a gay site, not a hookup site, and not any one thing. It's expressly there to enable people to find like-minded people locally.
My experience doesn't agree with that. It seems very artsy and hippy dippy and all that. Ugh. No thanks.
I can tolerate reddit though. I don't know. I wouldn't mind having a reddit boyfriend. I've gone to reddit meetups before. One of my ex crushes was this straight guy on reddit who would bully me all the time. Meeting him in real life he's my type too, being this big bear guy, so it's tough.
But no. I can just picture what people on meetup are like. Just ugh.
No thank you. My mind is made up.
JUB is a forum where ideas are exchanged on national and international level, and with almost no focus on the local or in-person connections. JUB Meetups are essentially a thing of the past and were always the exception. I have met members in person as I travelled, or they did, but it was in complement of the site's purpose, not because of it.
Yeah, I was much too young to go when they had them. I was in school and stuff. Shame.
But what better way to know someone than their opinions on stuff.
On meetup, you guys just meet once a week for an hour doing yoga or ceramics or whatever. Then you guys go home. So I don't know.
If you think being unemployed isn't a factor, it is likely you are in the minority on that topic. It is hard to imagine many guys dating someone with no real income or career. Whereas few are looking to date up into any income, even fewer are looking to find someone to possibly support. It's not that there isn't or can't be dating when you are unemployed, but it will definitely limit your prospects.
And, I'm sorry for your nasty retort, but you made it our business when you shared that you were unemployed and fired from your job. You made it our business when you resurrected four of your necro threads and began to pump every one of them full of piss and tears about your misery until the boards could see little else but the Taralen Show as you raged against supposed injustices in your life while you kicked and screamed and bit anyone who came near. Finances become the problem for most couples that break up, straight or gay, for most, so it's highly relevant.
Implying that I asked about your finances is off. I mentioned that the appearance of idleness and not working is as big an issue as the likely shortness of expendable income.
And I also said I'm doing fine financially.
If I wanted to go and paint the motherfucking town red right now I could.
I don't have any children or anything like that. I have a cat, and I want to get a dog soon. So it's just me.
To me I mostly want a job so my ass isn't at home all the time, and I'm contributing to society.
As there (with you being proof) a stigma of people who don't work as being lazy and lowlifes. That's not true.
This is a competitive job market, that's all.
No I'm not Donald Trump rich, no. But I'm fine financially, and money is not the issue.
I don't care if a guy makes less, at the same level, or more money than me. I just care if he loves me.
I'm not on welfare or any of that shit.
But I'm not going to explain it any further than that.
