On Topic Discussion Taralen's 2018 Random Musings About Life...

[eastofeden]

Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

Lets assume that masculine and feminine gay men are all individuals...eh?

...and tension exists between INDIVIDUALS for as many reasons as there are people....

I have tension with personality types....across the board...in every race/age group/sex/sexual identity/nationality...these qualities exist in individuals and I am not compatible with them as individuals due to personality traits....

 

[Telstra]

Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

I think there is because
if you read Craiglist, a lot of gayish guys are looking for "straight" acting guys Only.

 

[eastofeden]

Re: Why is it hard for gay men to network?

I easily network with straight guys...I can't relate.

For the most part...they either like or love that I am gay. I make it a non issue..because it IS a non issue for me. That leaves them to be free to make it a non issue as well.....

 

[Vannie]

Re: Why is it hard for gay men to network?

It's not hard....

Keep trying

 

[medic1]

Re: Why is it hard for gay men to network?

I have never found it to be hard.

I have at times found it to be very frustrating.

 

[PalacePaul]

Re: Why is it hard for gay men to network?

I'm not the best at networking and I don't like it. I work much better on my own, at my own pace. But this has nothing to do with being gay.

 

[Charon]

Re: Why is the gay community not accepting of alternative lifestyles/personalities?

It's not just the Gay community, anyone will reject you for having an alternate lifestyle/mentality that they think is abnormal. If I tell someone, Gay or straight, about certain stuff that I'm into, they'll classify me as a weirdo, and say that I need to "get help". Why? Because people these days are being brainwashed into having a boring and close-minded point of view. That's why I choose my friends carefully.

 

[belamyi]

Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

Not at all. Just

 

[eastofeden]

Re: Why is the gay community not accepting of alternative lifestyles/personalities?

You are dead wrong on this one....

I was a real "weirdo" when I worked in the gay community..and they pretty much embraced me.

I said things not many people ever said..I shared my off the wall observations and philosophies...

I laughed along with them when it was a bit too bizarre for their understanding....but it was what I thought... or it was my POV... and I knew how funny it sounded...so what? I am not afraid to be different. I have seen what clones look like..no thanks. I would rather be a weirdo.

I opened all kinds of doors that no one else I knew even wanted to look in...and I freely shared my findings

 

[Charon]

Re: Why is the gay community not accepting of alternative lifestyles/personalities?

You are dead wrong on this one....

I was a real "weirdo" when I worked in the gay community..and they pretty much embraced me.

I said things not many people ever said..I shared my off the wall observations and philosophies...

I laughed along with them when it was a bit too bizarre for their understanding....but it was what I thought... or it was my POV... and I knew how funny it sounded...so what? I am not afraid to be different. I have seen what clones look like..no thanks. I would rather be a weirdo.

I opened all kinds of doors that no one else I knew even wanted to look in...and I freely shared my findings

Well I'm speaking from personal experience. I wish I knew people who would embrace me like they did with you.

 

[eastofeden]

Re: Why is the gay community not accepting of alternative lifestyles/personalities?

^^I was actually referring to the OP's post..I don't think I saw your post when I responded.

I didn't say alot...or address alot....because alternate lifestyles/personalities covers alot of ground...

 

[Latimer]

Re: Why is the gay community not accepting of alternative lifestyles/personalities?

I don't think there is a gay community. Perhaps there are communities, but I see no evidence of a community. Advocacy groups like to represent themselves as speaking for "the community" but that's all self-serving bullshit.

 

[LeicsDom]

Re: Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys?

Can gay and straight men be friends? Of course
Do you believe race/culture plays a factor in your gay lifestyle?[/color] No
Why is it hard for gay men to network? It isn't
Why is the gay community not accepting of alternative lifestyles/personalities? It is
Do you believe there is tension between masculine and feminine gay guys? Not any more
Why are straight people not interested in your personal life being gay? They are. Always

 

[LeicsDom]

Re: Do you believe race/culture plays a factor in your gay lifestyle?

No I don't. Because it doesn't

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I live in Australian "culture" hence i have an Australian lifestyle.
Anyone who don't "assimilate" into Australia lifestyle should consider moving to different country.

That should apply to any immigrant to any country

 

[LeicsDom]

Re: Why are straight people not interested in your personal life being gay?

They are, if they are close friends.
Straight people don't delve into the personal lives of their friends unless they are close

 

[Happenis1]

Re: Why are straight people not interested in your personal life being gay?

1. Some are disgusted by it.

2. Most can't relate to it so they feel like they would have nothing to contribute in that conversation.

3. Some are afraid that they'll say the wrong thing and get painted as bigot.

 

[gayvga]

Re: Why is it hard for gay men to network?

I don´t think it´s a truth for all gay men.
There are straight men and women who aren´t experts in networking too. I think it´s a mix of factors. A shy person, for example. It can be hard because he feels insecure about what he should say. But, then, this shy person can be rich and, then, due to his family, he can have a natural and frequent contact with powerful persons, what is not so common for a poor person. So, there are many factors acting to provoke the final result.

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Do you feel that's due to being gay, because myself personally with my situations, I think it is.

It's not just gay people, it's anybody who doesn't fit the typical, nuclear white, good looking, successful business man role.

 

[gayvga]

Re: Can gay and straight men be friends?

Yes. I don´t have many straight men as friends, but I know gays who have straight friends.

 

[72-Jay]

Re: Why is it hard for gay men to network?

For me I wouldn't even say its a gay/bi/straight thing when it comes to the ability to network (or more truly lack thereof).

Can't even say exactly why/how I do it, but I am truly unfriendable...I have this way of I guess you could say driving people away or something like that even if I try to be friendly.

 

[72-Jay]

Re: Why is it hard for gay men to network?

I really feel if I wasn't a gay black man, I would have been given a job offer, despite my qualifications and that I have a vibrant personality about myself.

I think that's what shoots myself in the foot. These straight men running these companies don't want guys like me.

Do you feel its everything combined having equal portions, or one thing more than the other - like if we were to pull just one factor out of the equation:
* Say for example you were a straight black man (& everything else remained as is) would that be the deciding factor?
* Or say you were a gay white man (again everything else remained as is) would that be the deciding factor?