On Topic Discussion Taralen's 2018 Random Musings About Life...

[Taralen]

Re: Should queer people be open at their workplace?

I don't know about y'all, but I'm not working in a negative environment.

I'm not saying they have to be gay friendly or whatever, but if there is homophobic bullying, if I'm open or closed with my sexuality, I can't be there.

Which is why I rather be open, in hopes of maybe them getting some sort of reality check, and if not, and the abuse and negativity continues, well then I'll just remove myself from that environment, and have in the past with jobs I've had.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Should queer people be open at their workplace?

Way to knock that down is etiquette classes for all. Preferably at least two courses in elementary school and one every year of high school.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Re: Should queer people be open at their workplace?

I don't know about y'all, but I'm not working in a negative environment.

I'm not saying they have to be gay friendly or whatever, but if there is homophobic bullying, if I'm open or closed with my sexuality, I can't be there.

Which is why I rather be open, in hopes of maybe them getting some sort of reality check, and if not, and the abuse and negativity continues, well then I'll just remove myself from that environment, and have in the past with jobs I've had.

Preventing negative environments is exactly why there are fraternization policies, sexual harassment policies, et cetera.

But you sound like you have a solid plan, just leave every job where you experience negativity. Lemme know how that works for ya.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?

I ....can't imagine wanting to talk to a teacher about sexuality in school, no matter their orientation. That's what libraries were for. And very informative they were.

 

[gsdx]

Re: Can gay and straight men be friends?

Just as an introduction as I know we all come from different backgrounds and situations and experiences, I am a gay African/Black American feminine man.

For the record, this is not an introduction anymore, and I don't understand your need to keep telling us.

Now, to answer your question, yes, they can.

 

[Telstra]

Re: Should queer people be open at their workplace?

Such a tiring question(sssssss)
Simple answer, Yes(sssssssssssssssssssss) LOL

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Re: Should queer people be open at their workplace?

Such a tiring question(sssssss)
Simple answer, Yes(sssssssssssssssssssss) LOL

Fucking Christ, I was hoping for some real Telly craziness when I saw you had posted in this thread. What the fuck is this shit? Nonsensical but not entertaining.

 

[Stardreamer]

Re: Is there racism/discrimination in the gay male community?

Yes, I'm afraid the original post is clearly in the TL;DR category. But there is really no need, the answer to the proposed question is simply, YES racism/discrimination exists in all communities. Its all a matter of degree and how open it is allowed to be.

 

[mikey3000]

Re: Is there racism/discrimination in the gay male community?

Still better...

 

[Taralen]

Re: Is having a racial/body/personality preference preference okay?

What do you mean?

 

[Taralen]

Re: Is gay for pay porn damaging to the gay/queer male community?

It’s not a reddit term, it’s general internet lingo.

I gave my opinion on your threads before, I’m not really interested after reading your replies to mine or other people’s because you never seem to actually listen or just have a bad attitude about it.

These posts are long winded when I doubt they really need to be.

That's just not true. At all.

 

[Taralen]

Re: Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?

You guys are completely misunderstanding me.

These teachers are with these students all year, 5 days a week, hours daily etc.

You can disagree that's fine, but to me they should have at least be open somewhat.

I would hate to find out that kids were bullying me in class and calling me faggot, only to find out the teacher was gay himself, and didn't do anything to step in or protect me.

That's what I'm talking about.

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?

You guys are completely misunderstanding me.

These teachers are with these students all year, 5 days a week, hours daily etc.

You can disagree that's fine, but to me they should have at least be open somewhat.

I would hate to find out that kids were bullying me in class and calling me faggot, only to find out the teacher was gay himself, and didn't do anything to step in or protect me.

That's what I'm talking about.

Fuck no. Any teacher's sexuality is none of your, or anyone else's, creepy business. I don't care why you want to know who a 'hypothetical' he rogers on Tuesday nights or who she prefers to have dinner with on Sunday. Basing your reasoning on 'but they might be hypocrites!' doesn't indicate it's a grand idea that adults must make their romances known to children, or other adults come to that. Quit hanging under eaves.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Re: Is there racism/discrimination in the gay male community?

Can somebody please explain TL DR to me because I'm going to die if my curiosity isn't appeased.

 

[Taralen]

Re: Why is the gay community so promiscious and sex crazed?

Haha you really don’t believe that do you? No man is going to hire a woman just to accompany him somewhere. That is the wording they use to get around it being called prostitution. Also you say there are no straight apps for sex have you not heard of Tinder.

And why are gay men promiscuous because sex is fun and we have attached this puritan image to sex that should not be there. If a woman is promiscuous she is labeled a slut by our crazy norms! Also there is no risk of pregnancy with gay men and men know what the want! Hey I am horny ok let’s have sex easy peasy!

Sex is natural and fun and we have turned it into something evil and Taboo gay men are the ones who have it right!

It's not the same at all.

Tinder is also not the same as Grindr. Tinder is a relationship app, Grindr, (at least based on the advertisements and reputation it has) is a random sex app.

But going back to female escorts and call girls.

A straight man doesn't look at it the same way in the gay culture.

A man calls that girl to take her out to eat and drink and so he can have female companionship.

If they happen to have sex or whatever, so be it, but it's not the same. He usually calls her to keep him company, and mild sex might play in the factor.

With gay men, it's strictly wild hot random anonymous sex, and it's basically prostitution and calling a guy to have sex with.

For example, gay male escorts are not there to be your friend, boyfriend, buddy. He doesn't have time for that.

You call him for dick, and once you get your dick, he's gone.

I know sex is okay, but to me sex should mean something.

I don't want to have sex with Joe Schmoe off Grindr, and after we have sex, I never see him again.

I want to have sex with the man that I love, and he loves me.

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Re: Is having a racial/body/personality preference preference okay?

There isn't a singular answer to this. There are incidental attractions and desires that may cause someone to prefer one group over another (example if you like gingers you're not gonna find a whole lot of non-white guys you're attracted to). However, the part people like to gloss over is just how much culture can influence our desires. A lot of people who say they don't like X group really mean that they don't like stereotypes associated with X group (I don't like black guys cuz they're all this, I don't like white guys cuz they're all.....)

People like to pretend that their preferences are entirely self-constructed but that's just not how human beings work, never have. Another example, say a guy who doesn't like black men is highly attracted to Zac Efron. If a black person had the same exact build, facial structure et cetera as Zac would what was once his ideal guy suddenly become unattractive because his skin is darker? Doesn't make a lick of sense to me.

 

[xyxyxy]

Re: Can gay and straight men be friends?

why couldn't they be? Then again I only have straight friends

 

[luckynumbah7]

Re: Why is the gay community so promiscious and sex crazed?

'Happen' to have sex?

How is it you're so familiar with escorts of the vagina-having persuasion? I'd like to know where your information comes from. Mostly because if I had any wonder left I'd be wide eyed with incredulity.

 

[G-Lexington]

Re: Why is the gay community not accepting of alternative lifestyles/personalities?

How does a community form if they're not accepting of people?

Lex

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

Re: Should LGBT/queer teachers be open to their students?

You guys are completely misunderstanding me.

These teachers are with these students all year, 5 days a week, hours daily etc.

You can disagree that's fine, but to me they should have at least be open somewhat.

I would hate to find out that kids were bullying me in class and calling me faggot, only to find out the teacher was gay himself, and didn't do anything to step in or protect me.

That's what I'm talking about.

Why would he have to be gay to protect you from bullies? Would a straight teacher be dumbfounded and just not know what to do? You're kind of romanticizing (borderline non-sexually) the student-teacher relationship. They are your educators not your friends or counselors. Honestly this sounds like you're just digging for a problem on shallow turf. There are gay-straight alliances, counselors, not the most but not the least amount of resources for someone struggling with their sexuality in high-school.

I'm still scratching my head [STRIKE]and wondering if maybe THIS will be the topic where you realize "Maybe sometimes it's me that's wrong and not everybody else"[/STRIKE] because I don't even understand why or how this could be implemented. Hi class, I'm Mr Schwarz and I'm gay so if you have any gay problems, see me after class. Nothing about this seems remotely practical and, all due repect, I think your mental impairment is preventing you from seeing that. What's to stop this from turning into a way for gay teachers to prey on students? Once that happens the backlash will set our progress back 50 years, it'll be used as proof that we cannot be integrated into society and trusted around children. I cannot imagine that our circumstances are so desperate as to take such a huge risk with seemingly so little reward.

I'm well aware that lgbt youth are suffering, a micro-portion of the population yet account for a third of youth suicides. For the sake of everything that lives you HAVE to come up with a better solution than this. It won't work. Ever. It's not a good idea, albeit your heart is in the right place. I say gay-straight alliances, an updated sex ed curriculum and counselors should be sufficient. Final answer.