The Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2014

[travis82]

Having a child - especially the first child - tends to shift a person's priorities more than perhaps any other single thing. Your life literally begins revolving around this creature 24/7. Everything else falls by the wayside, or at least gets scaled way way hack. Meanwhile, Facebook continues to be what it was before - a reflection on what's going on in people's lives. Ergo, new parents find their page shifting from pictures of new nightspots or get-togethers to...pictures of their baby. Because, in many ways, that's what their lives ARE for a good chink of time.

Annoying? A bit. I had one friend who posted "happy two-month birthday to this cutie!" and whatnot. And of course, there's only one "correct" way to respond to these posts - agreement that the baby is in fact darling, cute, etc. i used to respond with "awwwww". They thought it meant "awwwwww, what a cute baby", not "awwww, what a shame you're holed up in your place with that thing 24/7." I didn't correct them.

Lex

Well, I forgot to mention. In the past, whenever my straight married friends post pictures of their babies on facebook, I will try to be nice and "like" their photos.

Then I realise that when I "like" their baby photos, this will only further encourage them to keep on posting ridiculous amount of their baby photos on facebook.


Not to mention, these people....they think that the world revolves around them.


Most of them....they never ever comment or "like" anything that I have post on facebook.


So I thought to myself, " Why should I even bother to like their baby photos when they don't ever comment or like anything that I post on facebook?"

 

[travis82]

Not to take anything away from familial love, but "yes." Some people intentionally build their lives with little but family as their raison d'etre, while others seem to slide into it without it being a goal so much as a default.

My college roommate and his wife seem to be the latter. We were good friends for years after college. They had three boys. Their worlds revolved around the kids, but they did have active lives, had careers, sang in a musical ensemble, and had lots of friends. But, the boys began going off to college and it devastated the wife. She was having major tears over the empty nest. I don't have any stones to throw, but I just didn't have any sympathy for such self-indulgence. The kids were happy, doing well, and needed to fledge. Cut the apron strings already.

Oh please....the world is already populated with over six billion people.


Why does everybody feel like they need to reproduce?


Yeah , having kids can be nice. But eventually , your kids will grow up. They will hang out with their friends and have their own lives.


And it's not like every kids will take care of their parents when they grow old.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Most of them....they never ever comment or "like" anything that I have post on facebook.

Depending on the subject there is definitely something to this I think. I made a 9 year anniversary post the other day and plenty of people liked it which was nice.

The next day my mothers cousin made an anniversary post about his wife. There were family members that are on my list that liked his status but not mine. A part of me thinks it is stupid because it is facebook but at the same time a part me is thinking that maybe it isnt so stupid to read into that.

 

[sixthson]

The world needs more babies.

 

[Gentleheart]

The world needs more babies.

lol bullshit.

There are far too many breeders shitting out brats they can't even take care of.

I really hope you were kidding.

 

[peeonme]

The world needs more babies.

If nature works as some speculate, then we may see an increase in the percentage of people who are born gay, it might be natures birth control. It's not good to mess with mother nature.
China put a limit of 1 kid per family on their people, parents were aborting female fetuses so they could have boys, now they have boys marrying close relatives.

 

[Gentleheart]

How strange life can be...

Two weeks ago was one of the worst time of my life, with threats of losing my apartment and being out of ressources being jobless beyond state allocations period. Very dark thoughts and hard anguishes.

And now, two weeks later, I can keep my apartment and most importantly I just got a good job as project manager in a software company.

I haven't yet realized how lucky I am righ now.

Many thanks for those of you who send messages during the hard time, much appreciated !

OMG...I am so happy for you. that's awesome news!

And very inspiring to others who are in similar spots.

Was our community this retarded before the technology age?

I assure you...it was.

I don't get my straight married friends on facebook. They feel like they need to constantly upload photos of their babies and kids on facebook for the whole world to see and get as many "likes" as possible.

It's so annoying.

It's like everytime I log into my facebook account, I see this same person again uploading another photos of her baby for like the umpteenth time just to show off to everybody else.

Seriously, I don't need to keep seeing photos of your baby sleeping, eating, walking around, taking her first steps, video of you reading a book to her, video of your baby blowing candles on his birthday cake, video of your baby boy riding his toy car......

Does it gets to you too?

Seriously, does these people have anything to post about besides their kids?

Is having children the definition of " Happiness"?

Because I'm single and I don't see myself having kids in the future.

Seriously, these straight married people, I don't understand why they think that they have to document every single details of their kids's life for the whole world to see. It's not like everybody cares, you know.

Just roll your eyes and continue scrolling. That, or just hide their posts.

Some people have kids and that literally becomes the be all end all of their lives.

I have a good number of high school acquaintances and relatives who are all about the "I'm a mommy/parent and PROUD" posts...look at the 113th photo of little Jayden, etc. etc. I just smile and keep it moving. Have fun with that.

I was just behind a couple at the supermarket with a pack of screaming rugrats...acting all extra and out of control. I don't understand how they do it, or enjoy it for that matter...but to each their own. What really pisses me off are the people who act like you're supposed to immediately find their kid and their actions "adorable" simply because they are a child. Nope. Not here...I don't care about your kid, nor do I want them around me.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

However, in the case of FB, it may or may not mean your circles have tolerated you and yours. But, if they did, it is hardly an active campaign against you nor can you assume there is a whispering campaign or such. If they truly do not like gay couples, but haven't actively posted so, then why second guess? Let your supporters be your supporters, the silent be silent, and any opponents self-identified. Why does it become necessary to add to the list of opponents if they haven't declared?

I dont think they are actively campaigning behind my back and I dont see them as opponents.

Just disappointing seeing that there is a sense of dissaproval. These are people who I thought cared but I am slowly learning that they dont. If there wasnt some dissaproval then my post would be acknowledged just the same as my Mothers cousin.

Just because they dont say it doesnt mean it doesnt exist.

 

[mikey3000]

lol bullshit.

There are far too many breeders shitting out brats they can't even take care of.

I really hope you were kidding.

Woah! Where did that come from? If it wasn't for us breeders "shitting" out brats, you wouldn't even be alive. Grow the fuck up already and stop bashing straights. I thought you were better than that, but lately you've grown so rude and sucky. Sheesh! If you're so fucking miserable in your life, fix it already. Don't try to drag everyone down with you.

Oakpope: great news to hear! Congrats and all the best!

 

[pat grimshaw]

Woah! Where did that come from? If it wasn't for us breeders "shitting" out brats….

Let's be honest with ourselves, the wrong people are breeding.

 

[GreyUnderscore]

I haven't heard from my buddy for over a week now. We usually text once or twice a day. I'm hoping nothing is wrong with him. I don't want to go straight to the negative reasons why he hasn't gotten back to me.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Woah! Where did that come from? If it wasn't for us breeders "shitting" out brats, you wouldn't even be alive. Grow the fuck up already and stop bashing straights. I thought you were better than that, but lately you've grown so rude and sucky. Sheesh! If you're so fucking miserable in your life, fix it already. Don't try to drag everyone down with you.

Oakpope: great news to hear! Congrats and all the best!

Get off the pedestal.

 

[mikey3000]

^Speaking of shitting out brats...

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

 

[Gentleheart]

Woah! Where did that come from? If it wasn't for us breeders "shitting" out brats, you wouldn't even be alive. Grow the fuck up already and stop bashing straights. I thought you were better than that, but lately you've grown so rude and sucky. Sheesh! If you're so fucking miserable in your life, fix it already. Don't try to drag everyone down with you.

Hold the fuck up right quick...

First off...I don't recall ever having a choice in the matter of "being alive". It was made for me.

Yes, shitting out brats. Exactly what it is. Opening their fucking legs and/or slinging dick when they aren't ready for the consequences.
I don't think 50% of people who have children are even capable (or have the means) of taking care of them. If you and your wife (and your boyfriend lol) manage to take care of yours...then great. That's awesome. Obviously, I'm not talking about you.

And you have a lot of nerve coming in here preaching about not 'bashing' straights.

YOU have lived most of your life hiding in the closet as a "straight" family man with the wife/kids/white picket fence, etc. Don't you dare try to preach to me about bashing anyone. You haven't experienced half the shit I have at the hand(s) of straights.

 

[mikey3000]

Hold the fuck up right quick...

First off...I don't recall ever having a choice in the matter of "being alive". It was made for me.

Yes, shitting out brats. Exactly what it is. Opening their fucking legs and/or slinging dick when they aren't ready for the consequences.
I don't think 50% of people who have children are even capable (or have the means) of taking care of them. If you and your wife (and your boyfriend lol) manage to take care of yours...then great. That's awesome. Obviously, I'm not talking about you.

And you have a lot of nerve coming in here preaching about not 'bashing' straights.

YOU have lived most of your life hiding in the closet as a "straight" family man with the wife/kids/white picket fence, etc. Don't you dare try to preach to me about bashing anyone. You haven't experienced half the shit I have at the hand(s) of straights.

Firstly, no one has ever been asked if they want to be alive. That is one of the silliest things I've ever heard. But yes, you do have a choice if you want to remain alive.

Secondly, I hardly think that lately you are in the right frame of mind to judge who should or shouldn't reproduce since you hate about 98 % of the population, yes there are lots of gays who have kids too. Just be thankful that you aren't one of them, totally your choice, and probably the right one.

Thirdly, i have never been in the closet and you know that, though i should have heeded the advice and climbed in one. It would've made my life much easier. My mistake. But i supported gays long before i was one. Guess i learned my lesson there, eh?

We used to be friends before i found out how you really feel about bi's and breeders, and that's too bad. But you single handedly have proven why some people don't deserve happiness. Never mind Gentleheart, you have a blackheart. Pity.

 

[Gentleheart]

^ Nah, YOU said that if it weren't for breeders I wouldn't be alive. I made your "point" moot. Don't try to shoot for the..."well, you can choose not to stay..." rebuttal. Silly my ass, it's true.

And LMAO I know YOU (of all people) are not talking about people's "frame of mind". Based on a fair number of posts, you have some things you need to be working on. lol that you would even go there with me is hilarious. You're right...I have zero use for a lot of people (especially breeders), but I'm not the only one who feels that way.

Sorry you feel offended because I don't find you having children endearing or "cute". You'll deal.

I must have struck a nerve somewhere, because your insecurity is really coming through. Do you regret having kids, mikey?

Oh...you've never been in the closet? So...did your wife know you were GAY when she married you?
LOL please stop while you're ahead.

For someone as old as you are, you can be so dense sometimes.

 

[mikey3000]

No, i regret thinking i might be gay. But with all the toxicity around the community, i think I'm cured. I just might become a homophobe now. At least they get along.

See ya!!!!!

 

[travis82]

Now, be consistent. You asked if the having of children was the definition of happiness. For some people, it obviously is.

Then you imply that I endorsed it. I did not. Observing phenomena and endorsing them are not the same.

Re-read. I said that I did not have sympathy for Our Lady of Perpetual Motherhood. And the answer to your question about reproducing, more than a few mothers have confessed to wanting to have a baby so that they have someone who will love them absolutely. And the more needy these women are, the more painful their separation when their children mature and move on to love others.

Sorry. I guess you're right. For some people, having kids means the world to them.

But not everybody desires to have kids.


I can't really see myself becoming a father one day.

 

[travis82]

Depending on the subject there is definitely something to this I think. I made a 9 year anniversary post the other day and plenty of people liked it which was nice.

The next day my mothers cousin made an anniversary post about his wife. There were family members that are on my list that liked his status but not mine. A part of me thinks it is stupid because it is facebook but at the same time a part me is thinking that maybe it isnt so stupid to read into that.

Well, I rarely post LGBT stuffs on facebook. Because I don't want to spam my straight friends's newsfeeds with all the LGBT stuffs.

But I realise that even if I post about non-LGBT stuffs, these people; they don't care about me.


No surprises...I was never close friends with them during school days.

But hey, at least I bother to comment or like their photos and they can't do the same for me too?