The Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2016

[dpnice]

I find it annoying that members end a post comment with "goodbye" or put you on "ignore".

It expresses that their point of view is so much superior to yours that they are not even going to bother to reply to you.

So what is the point of participating on a discussion forum?

 

[refujiunderground]

I hope you don't leave.

You are of the internet generation, so you should certainly know what this world is like. You have to filter through all that crap to get to the good stuff/people. You are an intense young man who feels things strongly. I think you come across as angry to other JUBbers, but my sense is that it it more frustration. We've all been disappointed by people.
I would suggest that you not take the internet and the dickheads so serious. Let them pass over you like water over a duck's head. Do you think you could adapt that mindset?

There are more important things that internet personalities, but you don't have to the opposite extreme by disappearing.

Be well, refuji.

I'm not going to leave. My post was simply the frustration that I have with some of the shit involving my gay peers and the gay community. I feel as if way too many people within the gay community don't get it when they should be getting it

 

[blanefan]

Kingpin50, I am right there with you! I am not sure why they don't put salt and pepper on the table. Is it:
1. The chef thinks his food is perfectly seasoned and he cannot comprehend anyone ever needing additional salt and or pepper?
2. Patrons keep stealing the shakers?
3. It is a pain in the ass to keep filled so they just don't bother?
4. The restaurant is operating on such thin margins that it can't afford to have them?

I don't have the answer but I agree whole heartily that it pisses me off, too.

 

[refujiunderground]

I think the biggest frustration that I have is that it seems like an accept mentality among gay men in general that they want real shit but can't keep it real or accept reality for what it is where their actions show that they get it.

Like you can't expect people to respect you if you don't respect yourself and others. You can't live in a bubble trying to paint life into what you think it is then deny life for what it is. It's nobodies job to make you happy with yourself. If you have someone dissing you because you're gay and you're an adult, you gotta realize that they are fucked up and not you. I see a lot of guys that claim they are proud to be gay but in reality, they are not and you can see it from how they live their lives and carry themselves. It's more of like they expect other people to make them comfortable with themselves or think it's someone else responsibility to go like you're a good person or someone to be valued. That you don't need to have a good body or have swinging dicks coming at you all cumming for you to be a worthy individual.

Whenever I see these so called gay news sites and media publications, they seem to show something that isn't realistic.

I read the other day of some news article from a gay news website or tabloid talking about "surprising amount of Americans aren't comfortable with same sex couples holding hands". I'm like... are folks forgetting that legislation striking down systematic discrimination in the form of words doesn't change a society's attitude or even those that are in the government. Like seriously, folks really think people suddenly throw away their prejudices overnight? I just wonder sometimes because Im surprised at how folks don't even see the connection with themselves. We have racist ass gay dudes that seem to want to uphold their way of thinking but think that people suddenly are going to do the same thing for them.

I guess what I'm saying is that theres too many gay folks trying to disconnect themsleves away from the world that they are living in everyday instead of facing the music. Even if shit is so fucked up, there's plenty of people that are facing that shit too and coping. They aren't saying fuck it and giving themselves away to drugs, sex, and etc. This whole entire fuck it mentality where it's no hope for the future. I see all these guys ready to give up and it's like seriously... you are a grown ass man. Fuck running away and being scared. Take a breather and get back in there.

 

[mikemizanin729]

I find it annoying that members end a post comment with "goodbye" or put you on "ignore".

It expresses that their point of view is so much superior to yours that they are not even going to bother to reply to you.

So what is the point of participating on a discussion forum?

Most of them never put anyone on ignore or if they do, they usually take them off after a while.

 

[rareboy]

I'm not going to leave. My post was simply the frustration that I have with some of the shit involving my gay peers and the gay community. I feel as if way too many people within the gay community don't get it when they should be getting it

The best thing I can recommend is that you focus on living your life the way you want to and just simply ignore everyone else who isn't meeting your standard if they aren't coming after you in some way.

Do this and there's a good chance you will be happy.

 

[sixthson]

I find it annoying that members end a post comment with "goodbye" or put you on "ignore".

It expresses that their point of view is so much superior to yours that they are not even going to bother to reply to you.

So what is the point of participating on a discussion forum?

Who would put you on ignore??

I think that some people are so insecure in their opinions that they feel threatened when someone holds an opposing viewpoint. They only way to deal with it is to put them on ignore.

I find it strange that when you disagree with someone here, they feel obligated to have you as their enemy and not only that, but all their friends hate you, too. It's so immature. No one agrees with anyone all the time, no matter how close they are.
You should just agree to disagree agreeably.

There is also a lot of unforgiveness here.

 

[kingpin50]

Kingpin50, I am right there with you! I am not sure why they don't put salt and pepper on the table. Is it:
1. The chef thinks his food is perfectly seasoned and he cannot comprehend anyone ever needing additional salt and or pepper?
2. Patrons keep stealing the shakers?
3. It is a pain in the ass to keep filled so they just don't bother?
4. The restaurant is operating on such thin margins that it can't afford to have them?

I don't have the answer but I agree whole heartily that it pisses me off, too.

And If you ask for a salt shaker, they act like you just insulted them.

 

[Cormac135]

I find it annoying that members end a post comment with "goodbye" or put you on "ignore".

It expresses that their point of view is so much superior to yours that they are not even going to bother to reply to you.

So what is the point of participating on a discussion forum?

I can't imagine you saying anything that'd lead to people putting you on ignore.

There's far too many thin-skinned people on here who are only interested in their own opinions.

 

[refujiunderground]

The best thing I can recommend is that you focus on living your life the way you want to and just simply ignore everyone else who isn't meeting your standard if they aren't coming after you in some way.

Do this and there's a good chance you will be happy.

I feel you. It's that there seems to be very few dudes that get it then for those that do. Like sadly and I hate to say this but it seems like a good portion of gay guys that I interact with either are withdrawn or want sex/love. I like to interact with guys on a friendship level first before anything and it seems like a lot of dudes don't know how to do just that or at least be willing to let a guy be himself without judging. At times I get overwhelemed socially and shut down regardless because I just don't feel comfortable. My straight friends for the most part. I can say whatever, joke around, be an ass and etc. They allow me to be me without being judged or having to worry about offending them and etc. I can't say the same thing for most gay people that I interact with. It's like I feel that I have to change my tune because folks will be ready to judge my character in a negative way where I have to hold back. The thing that gets me is that a lot of gay dudes are on the same shit I am but they're ready to look down on anybody on some "I'm better than you" type of shit. I'm like... how is this guy gonna be ready to tell me how fucked up I am when he's no better or different than me. That's why for the most part I really am turned off because I feel that dudes aren't seeing themselves.

Like I'm just cool and shit. I really don't feel the need to be around people who ain't even perfect fronting like they are then ready to tell others that they're fucked up. Like be real.

 

[refujiunderground]

Real talk. I understand how society can fuck someone up and etc but regardless, if you're a grown ass man, you should take responsibility for your shit if it becomes a problem for yourself and the world around you.

Whenever I see some of these narcissistic gay guys all plastering themselves on the Internet begging for attention to the point where it seems negative or these guys that basically are sleeping around like multiple people, having unprotected sex, and etc. whenever someone calls them and others out on that toxic behavior, someone makes up an excuse for why people should tolerate that bullshit instead of giving these fuckers the real. When you call out gay guys that sleep around on some reckless shit, they call it slut shaming or its "straight people do the same thing too". When you call out narcissistic gay men that basically think it's all about them and drag others down to feel good about themselves, someone is like... "there's narcissistic straight men too". Yeah, what's your point? It doesn't make it right or acceptable. Just own up to your shit and keep it moving

 

[rareboy]

Our lives are too short to spend it calling out everyone else who isn't the kind of homo we think they should be. As I said, You'll be much happier and at peace if you just move on and only spend your time with the people you like and admire...straight and gay.

 

[NotHardUp1]

It has been posted before, but Blake is always relevant:


The Clod and the Pebble
By William Blake

"Love seeketh not itself to please,
Nor for itself hath any care,
But for another gives its ease,
And builds a Heaven in Hell's despair."

So sung a little Clod of Clay
Trodden with the cattle's feet,
But a Pebble of the brook
Warbled out these metres meet:

"Love seeketh only self to please,
To bind another to its delight,
Joys in another's loss of ease,
And builds a Hell in Heaven's despite."

Perspective is always relevant, and it shapes our world around us.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

I find it annoying that members end a post comment with "goodbye" or put you on "ignore".

It expresses that their point of view is so much superior to yours that they are not even going to bother to reply to you.

So what is the point of participating on a discussion forum?

Stating it is silly, but at the same time not everyone that has someone on ignore does so because of superiority or disagreements. There are plenty of trolls on the board who do nothing but trying to start shit up.

 

[Cormac135]

Stating it is silly, but at the same time not everyone that has someone on ignore does so because of superiority or disagreements. There are plenty of trolls on the board who do nothing but trying to start shit up.

Oh i'd rather them than some of the glums that litter the place.

 

[mikemizanin729]

What is it with all these people who seem to live on COD? They must literally sit there all day eating junk and not exercise.

I don't mind playing games for an hour or so a day, but to sit there 24/7 eating and staring at a video game talking about it as though it's more important than life is certainly not healthy. I'm talking about grown adults here and not children and they take the game way too seriously.

No wonder obesity is up in the UK.

 

[refujiunderground]

i can't stand talking to my father. every single time we attempt to have a conversation which is usually centered around himself and if it's about me, it's about him telling me what i should do or asking for something from me. the conservation is about him basically talking to me he's some know it all and i'm stupid. he usually says.. "you know that right?" almost like he's trying to make himself feel superior and me inferior. i get frustrated because i don't even see the point of conversing if it's basically him having a conversation about himself with me being a yes person. i seriously believe that my father is a n personality but that's another story. he seems like he has a lot of the symptoms.

sadly, i'm starting to notice that a few of the guys that i know seem to act similar to him where they seriously make me question if i should even bother associating myself with them. hate to say this but they are gay. they have really pissed me off a couple of times where i've literally had to hold myself back from snapping on them because they've been on some disrespectful bullshit and they have the nerve to try to justify that bullshit too when honestly, if i didn't know them or cared about them, i would throw them under the bus without any hesitation or guilt. i've given them chances beyond the "grace period". i'm not for dealing with anybody's bullshit this year and believe me, if any of them steps out of line again where they do the same shit that pissed me off, they gonna deal with whatever i throw at them whether they like it or not. i not doing anymore chances or repeats. one of them guys owe me an apology too after he said something his ass shouldn't have said and he knows it too but wants to act like everything is all peace and love when i'm just WAITING for him to step out of bounce. i've been weary of him every text he sends where i simply am not entertaining him. i won't hesitant to cut people out my life if they're being too fucking problematic or being straight up assholes. i'm at my limit.

 

[Charon]

I feel his pain .

 

[refujiunderground]

I'm tired of hearing so many gay guys complaining about there being no guys to date when it's 99 percent of the time, when you hear their sob story, it's them admitting that they are the problem. The funny and eye rolling part is hearing them talk about their imperfections and wanting to be accepted and put up with their bullshit but turn around, judging, making complete "he must do and have" list, being shallow beyond belief, the pettiest deal breakers. Sometimes, when I hear these dudes whining with that victim mentality, I'm like stfu. They would probably find somebody if they didn't have their heads so far up their asses.

I would respect what they are saying if they owned up to contributing to their problem instead of completely blaming other people for their shortcomings or better yet, if they would just be quiet and not make a fuss about dating.

 

[rareboy]

^ Just be thankful that you don't have any of those judgemental 'make or break' standards for the guys you date. It probably means that you are the kind of guy that other guys want to date.

Don't worry about the hard luck cases out there with their impossible list of requirements, or try to set them straight. Just enjoy what you have.