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The Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2016

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rareboy said:
^ Just be thankful that you don't have any of those judgemental 'make or break' standards for the guys you date. It probably means that you are the kind of guy that other guys want to date.

Don't worry about the hard luck cases out there with their impossible list of requirements, or try to set them straight. Just enjoy what you have.
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Just saying because you have these guys always leaning on one of their friends expecting a pity party for what they are doing wrong. It's like wtf.
 
Just peeped an article and apparently I might possibly be a covert narcissist which would explain why I'm a fucking mess.

However, I would say that IF it were true, it's not my fault. I would say that I became that way due to my environment and the people around me growing up because she's a wonderful mother. I never had anybody around me as a kid when I was dealing with certain problems that gave a fuck, not even my parents. Not saying my parents especially my mother was bad. It was pretty much "deal with your issues". So I pretty much became a loner and dealt with my own shit where I just lived in my own world. It's not a good look.
 
^ Kind of spoken like a true narcissist.....don't you think?

But self-awareness is always half the battle.
 
Refuji, I think you need to lower your expectations of some people (not all of them). We all meet a lot of people in our lives and they fall into different categories. Some people never rise about being acquaintances for a variety of reasons--maybe they are insecure or immature or just incapable of any depth of relationship. You have a passing relationship with them. Then you have casual friends (probably most people fall into this category). These are people you can easily hang out with, go for dinner, movies, drinks, talk to about everyday issues. Conversations rarely go beyond "how are you?", "how's work", how's the family?". You enjoy their company, and while you can share laughs, they can't handle tears. Anything painful or involving sharing personal struggles or hurts turns into an awkward conversation. Then you have the genuine, abiding friendships, where you see the good, the bad and the ugly in each other and you accept that about them. They know that you are not perfect and you know the same about them, warts and all. These are the friendships where love lives and flourishes. Forgiveness is sought and received. You fail each other because you are both human and own it when it happens Grace is a big part of that kind of loving relationship.
The longer I live, the more I realize that this relationship is the rarest of all. There is a depth of commitment and loyalty to each other that means you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that they always have your back.
The last kind of relationship (others may have more types than this, I suppose) is the toxic relationship. Nothing but pain and disappointment comes from it. Time spent with the toxic person poisons your mind and heart and you end up regretting giving them that time. All the relationships have a place in your life, except the toxic one. This one needs to be cut out of your life.

You can't have the same expectations of an acquaintance and casual friend as you can with the true friend. If you try to do that, you will only be frustrated and I see you as being frustrated in your relationships. Perhaps this is why?
 
Great words of wisdom, Dan. Us older than dirt folk have that "Been there, done that" in our bag of not-so-tricks.

For some, at certain points in time, we might even have been someone else's "toxic" due to our own neediness.

That's a shame, because we're really nice people who had some particularly hard times.
But, it's also completely understandable, because what they were looking for in a relationship isn't what we may have needed at that point in time. Hell, we were probably toxic to ourselves, and the only want to cut us out of our own lives is through active change within ourselves.
 
Don, I don't think what you describe is what I mean by toxic. You are talking about someone who is not intentionally trying to hurt someone else. In fact, the kind of person you describe hurts himself more. I was probably not clear in explaining what I meant by toxic. I'm talking about someone who is generally uncaring about others' feelings or their life. They are usually people in it just for the drama.
Refuji is talking about people who are so self centered they cannot care about anyone else....toxic. These would not be the nice people who are unprepared for life or love that you describe. Does that make sense?
 
Presently I am trying to get over one of the most shocking experiences of my life. A friend's father passed away and the burial was today. At the cemetery it was discovered that an unfortunate error occured. The casket would not fit into the concrete vault. The funeral director tried three times to force it in, until the casket flipped on it's side. As everyone gasped in horror, the director had a brief, private conversation with the children of the deceased. Then he sent a worker away for a few minutes, only to have him return with a large, power reciprocating saw. The worker then proceeded to hack away at the casket to, "make it fit." It was the most un-fucking-believable thing I ever saw!!! Luckily I had the nerve to snap pictures on my phone, you know, for the law suit that will surely commense any moment. FUCK ME !!!
 
MakeDigitalLove said:
Nickelback is making new music.

Please, I can't take it.
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When I don't like something I make the simple choice not to listen to it. I respect the fact that SOME people do like their music. I think we can ALL refrain from listening to Nickleback if we want to.

Speaking of music, Celine Dion is making a greatest hits and it's the same one from a few years back but with new packaging .:gogirl:
 
I really wish I could adopt every cat at my store and I had the best means of having a healthy home for all of them. There is one cat, Glinda who has been here for a while and I feel bad for her. She is so gorgeous. There is also Cora who seems very affectionate and talkative.

I some times think about volunteering to help clean/feed them, because the adoption agency is actually a separate thing that only works with my store. I couldn't just request to work there on a day off or something.
 
mikemizanin729 said:
When I don't like something I make the simple choice not to listen to it. I respect the fact that SOME people do like their music. I think we can ALL refrain from listening to Nickleback if we want to.

Speaking of music, Celine Dion is making a greatest hits and it's the same one from a few years back but with new packaging .:gogirl:
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Just don't subject me to rap, gads I hate that crap.
 
Hey guys. This is a little bit off (this) topic, but I posted a good while back in the 2015 post about my family. My mom is doing well. "Cancer-free" isn't the right word, but she has no issues to be worried about at this time. Though, now she finds it pertinent to check my throat for lumps when she sees me (which is once a week!) I understand why, though.

My brother is doing great too. The divorce is final and we haven't heard from Crazy in quite some time. Though, it was odd, she wished me a happy birthday via Facebook. Said my thanks and moved past. I don't really have anything to say to her, I guess. Anyway, I'm sure most of you don't remember or know me, and that's okay. But for those who do, all is well. :wave:
 
Slept all day yesterday. I feel like total shit today. At work and I wanna go home and sleep all day. Truth be told, Im feeling anxious and depressed over matters beyond my control. Its like I'm ready for the worst or whatever happens but i don't wanna feel shitty again. I've been depressed and anxious for years. I've had a break recently but certain situations in life are bringing those feelings back. I don't think those around me know or want to know how bad it is.


Waking up in the morning sucks though. My legs hurt. They feel drained and the muscles are throbbing. My mind isn't in the right place. I'm not eating right
Had a long gap between meals this weekend and had junk food last night.
 
justanothershyguy said:
Hey guys. This is a little bit off (this) topic, but I posted a good while back in the 2015 post about my family. My mom is doing well. "Cancer-free" isn't the right word, but she has no issues to be worried about at this time. Though, now she finds it pertinent to check my throat for lumps when she sees me (which is once a week!) I understand why, though.

My brother is doing great too. The divorce is final and we haven't heard from Crazy in quite some time. Though, it was odd, she wished me a happy birthday via Facebook. Said my thanks and moved past. I don't really have anything to say to her, I guess. Anyway, I'm sure most of you don't remember or know me, and that's okay. But for those who do, all is well. :wave:
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Good to hear that your mom is doing well and your fam is doing okay as well. You haven't been around in a minute.
 
For the first time in my life today..I finally had a crystal clear understanding of the old saying...

THE MORE THINGS CHANGE...THE MORE THEY STAY THE SAME...

It is weird how the truth unfolds sometimes. I couldn't even see it until now.

I think maybe I couldn't really appreciate it until I had enough experience to see the comparison....

I am glad I didn't know before today....kinda depressing really...

I had this Hindu guy come in the bar once..fascinating guy..I like/loved him instantly. His goal in life was to suck a dick in every country on earth...I can't remember how many he already had under his belt..but it was a lot. We fucked after work..he already had his USA dick LOL...but the thing he told me that I thought was fascinating is that there were were only a certain number of personalities or different people on earth.....and I am not sure what part of it was true..but I felt something about it was...I am cool not having to figure it out...

...and now..it makes a lot more sense. The same "people" making the same mistakes....it is a little difficult to watch now.....

I wish there were more true individuals....he said that was a class itself....

Hmmmm,.......
 
justanothershyguy said:
Hey guys. This is a little bit off (this) topic, but I posted a good while back in the 2015 post about my family. My mom is doing well. "Cancer-free" isn't the right word, but she has no issues to be worried about at this time. Though, now she finds it pertinent to check my throat for lumps when she sees me (which is once a week!) I understand why, though.

My brother is doing great too. The divorce is final and we haven't heard from Crazy in quite some time. Though, it was odd, she wished me a happy birthday via Facebook. Said my thanks and moved past. I don't really have anything to say to her, I guess. Anyway, I'm sure most of you don't remember or know me, and that's okay. But for those who do, all is well. :wave:
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Wonderful to see you back Matt (*8*) great news about your Mum, glad your brother managed to free himself from that nutty Pole.
 
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