Different time periods, Refuji. While we're both in 2016, language usually follows a pattern. It's gradual and tends to take decades, if not more, when dealing with the language of oppression. When rights have been withheld you start with shit, then you try and put a positive spin on said terms, and sometimes it works. And when it works, even in just a semi-comprehensible way, it paves the road forward for language chosen by the people. in the middle of that is a lot of people working through both internalized shit and giving the words a positive meaning since there are no others that outsiders use. And then you can get new words - but the older words, oh, they're always hard-going. They'll fade away eventually, Refuji, when they're no longer needed anymore. It's how language works.
Language changes depending on context - that includes where someone is personally and where their group is currently at. In this particular day and age in the usa, Negro would be a good example. You don't see it much anymore except in historic institutional names. The kind that Grimshaw likes to pull up because he thinks he can get away with not-so-subtle racism that way. And that stupid thing the u.s. census did, when it didn't separate the word and instead kept it in the list next to one box to check in the same line as black and African-American. Few people would check it and many got pissed, and rightfully so. But it's still in use, if only a little- most probably just the very old since they tend to be stuck in their ways and have done the work reclaiming it. For everyone else there's - only - a plethora of negative connotations because they didn't do the work to create the positive ones for themselves because they weren't around for that bit. Then words shifted and there were more positive representations - except that there's still quite a bit of racism in the usa, as you're obviously already aware, so some black people still use a negative variant o'six letters, both in a negative and a positive manner. Taralen used a variant in a negative manner in a politics thread, which is not how to reclaim a word. There's not a shred of positive aspect there and on that I'd agree with you. But connotations of who is doing the speaking and why do matter because that's part of how language itself shifts. Regardless, eventually everyone who cared one way or another about the word will pass because there's new terms (with, of course, their new associated problems, as new terms so often have) and it'll fade into random historical fact. God willin'.
But arguing about how language changes is a bit of a moot point. Instead of complaining others use the language for themselves (and I understand where you're coming from on that score - I ain't fond of quite a few people, trans and not, using tranny for a plethora of reasons, they just seem to emulate all the negative shit as if it were actually what we were, among other things (I'm looking at you, RuPaul, should you ever read this), and don't get me started on the trans people with quite a few privileges because the social experience is very, very different. Race, class (granted, we generally tend to be poor, but not always, passing-as-cis ability, gender (I won't even begin to explain the latter two, it's at least 102.5 on a teaching scale and the 'class', as it were, hasn't gotten past 101 yet).
It might change faster if you explained to the people you're angry and that dropping the word isn't 'acting white' (which I s'pose is considered internecine hostility, and frankly sucks) and that there's no such bloody thing when trying to better yourself. But that doesn't negate the systematic insults and laws and actions that created the use of the word in that manner in the first place. Mostly it's time, as self-respect has to be fought for. You've noticed black people haven't quite won yet - that's why you're in the middle of words morphing and you're not happy with it because it's not at its 'ending' stages yet. As much as I wish you could hurry language along, you can't. It's an organic process.
And apologies for length!
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yes!!) from Boy's Town, Chicago who was head over heels in love with a local guy named Billy. They were on the tenth day of their holiday romance. 
I bought everything on my list but I went home still with no peace/content. There's one grocery I skip to buy, that's him..I forgot to scan his ass, purchase him from his parents, put him in a trolley then bang the heck of him in my car.
