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The Just Venting, Airing Out, Talking Shit, Personal Beefs, Problems, Anger Management, and etc Thread for 2016

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TheLoveableLoner said:
This entire post. WOW. YOu definitely know.

I tend to be all or nothing in a lot of ways. In work, in places I like, and even relationships.

I either know for sure that I want something, or it's awkward. Certainly the way things were when I first fell in love in NYC. And I've hit that point with few guys in the past.

Like you, I've never looked for a husband or a boyfriend, so this idea of just hanging out with a guy without a clear desire for more isn't productive. If being with someone else were some kind of goal in my life, it would make sense just to try things out and take my time. But since it isn't, it's problematic if I just hang around out of habit--particularly if I'm picking up on signs that he might want more.
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Well...I would have loved to know you when this was happening all the time because no one else understood me. I got used to it of course..but I didn't like it. I really wanted someone to hear me...not much to ask.

The part I highlighted..I could have written that. I completely understand..and I am like that as well.

Many have called me selfish for my handling of relationships. But you know what's selfish? Jumping into a relationship to feel a void in yourself, instead of doing it out of a general longing to be everything you can for the other person.
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I was going to write a book once just to get it out of my system....defending myself against other people's fucking expectations. It is why I have a problem with people who say they want honesty....OMG..that is soooooooooooooo not the case. I paid for my honesty...and then when I tried a different approach.and then another one..I got the same shit.

My friends...they thought I was "lucky" that so many guys were interested in me ....I felt like I was walking a tightrope. People have a thing where they expect you to want the same things they do..and alot of people really don't understand when you try to explain. After the stalkers when I was 20-21...I got the obsessive guys who just "knew" we would be good together or even worse... BARF...we looked good together. There is probably nothing worse you can say to me than we would look good together. I actually have an intense hate rise up in my gut when I heard it and I tried to hide it. When I met my BF....I told him that I promise never to dress him up and parade him around or show him off. He was the pretty boy in his group of friends and it made me sick watching the dynamics and seeing how uncomfortable he was....

I got told I was selfish and not grateful all the time.....and how I was a pain in the ass for insisting on defining things for myself. I think the pain in the ass thing is true..I know I am...but I do not think I was selfish or ungrateful because I didn't have chemistry with someone and was honest about it. I absolutely agree about the people who need someone to fill a void and being selfish...and jumping into a relationship to get the fix. Sometimes they remind me of vampires LOL....and they certainly had no business telling me what I "should" do.
 
Funny how I see half of these gay guys especially the ones that I've seen say racist and sexist things, talking shit about Muslims and sounding like some white supremacists ready to say "don't support Donald trump" because he doesn't support gay people. Bigots that hate a bigot for being bigoted towards them. Bet you if they were straight, it would be a different story. You can tell who's real and who's full of shit.
 
think that love is more so loving someone for them where they compliment you personality wise and not loving them based on how much you see yourself in them. You can't have all these expectations and checklists that you want in a guy then say that if he has these things, he will make you happy. Then you are defeating the purpose to begin with. It's not anyone's job to make you happy except yourself. You can't make mr. Right.as you can't predetermine him. You have to acknowledge him when he comes and accept him according to your feelings and see what qualities he has where he isn't harmful to you and shit.

It annoys the shit out of me when I see all these people with checklist already sabotaging themselves from the jump. If you don't have it all yourself, don't have standards or make fucking checklist especially with shallow and vain aspects that are luxuries.
 
You know, refuji, one of the things we learn (hopefully) as we mature is to pick our fights. In our lives we all run into ignorant people who say and do stupid things. You can't battle all of them and you can't let them get your goat, either. You learn to ignore and avoid them and this is especially true of people we barely know. It sounds like you are letting them get you caught up in their shit. It's just not worth it.

Never apologize, either, for having a faithful heart where you are looking for someone who shares your values. You are your own man, and I know you own that.

Now, stop being so easily annoyed.:D
 
sixthson said:
You know, refuji, one of the things we learn (hopefully) as we mature is to pick our fights. In our lives we all run into ignorant people who say and do stupid things. You can't battle all of them and you can't let them get your goat, either. You learn to ignore and avoid them and this is especially true of people we barely know. It sounds like you are letting them get you caught up in their shit. It's just not worth it.

Never apologize, either, for having a faithful heart where you are looking for someone who shares your values. You are your own man, and I know you own that.

Now, stop being so easily annoyed.:D
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Right now, I'm feeling very sad over some shit that I don't feel like talking about. Also very angry too. Really angry. I doubt that I could forgive whoever for that shit too because personally, the more I think about it. The more I really want to punch that motherfucker in the face.

There's some things that really would make me hate someone forever to the point where I will never deal with them under any circumstances.

Constantly disrespecting me

Lying to me in my face

Playing me out

Hurting me

If anybody does all four, then you know I'm going to get even with them regardless if it's now or until I die. I don't play that shit. Even if they try to apologize, there's nothing they can do that will make me change the hate that I have for them. It really takes a lot for me to really not like someone. Especially if I fucking showed you nothing but love and you think shits a joke. I will throw someone down the stairs or even try to kill them for that becuase that's just disrespect. I am not to be fucked with or to really piss off. I do hold grudges and believe me, I hope that person doesn't run into me because I'm doing my best to avoid them. I've already have taken the proper steps and they haven't said shit to me since.

A part of me wants to be forgiving and say cool. Another side really wants me to make that motherfucker feel all the anger and shit that they caused through fucking idiocy. Like don't get me caught up in some fucking bullshit, completely blame me, not take any responsibility for it and then think I'ma let you slide without me letting you feel some pain too. Fuck that coward ass bitch btw. They get no respect and no sympathy either.

They should apologize though even though I'm still not going to forgive or forget that shit as long as i live.
 
^Plotting revenge is playing the game. There's a large difference between not forgiving/avoiding and plotting harm for future encounters.
 
luckynumbah7 said:
^Plotting revenge is playing the game. There's a large difference between not forgiving/avoiding and plotting harm for future encounters.
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I'm really trying to take the higher road because I felt I had been wronged for real. Like don't play me and then have the nerve to blame me for their shit. I never seen some cowardice like that.

I know that this shit is more than likely not finished yet anyways because them and me are probably going to run into each other. I hope that person realizes that things are not going to be what it was and it's THEIR fucking fault. I expect them to really apologize for everything because I tried to work with them but they basically were bullshitting, confusing, manipulating, lying and etc. Like don't waste my time if you don't know what the fuck you're doing simply acting on your fucking ego and insecurities when you really should be working on yourself and not dragging other people into your fuckery. I already have my own shit that I'm dealing with. Reminds me of my fucking father.
 
Last year my step father was hit by a drunk driver, hit and run. My younger brothers car was hit by a drunk driver today when him in his buddy were in it, luckily they are both okay.

Why can't these people drink themselves to death before getting into their cars? Do the world a fucking favor.
 
I'm surprised at the number of people that need to shut off the computer, come up from the basement, and go outside and see the real world. Life is so much more fun when you're doing it live action, and not sitting behind a computer screen.
 
MakeDigitalLove said:
Last year my step father was hit by a drunk driver, hit and run. My younger brothers car was hit by a drunk driver today when him in his buddy were in it, luckily they are both okay.

Why can't these people drink themselves to death before getting into their cars? Do the world a fucking favor.
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Because they are selfish, ugly people who hate themselves so they expect to be able to do whatever they want and expect sympathy. Truth is, the more sympathy you give these people the more they act like assholes.

I know a drunk who got into a car and drove it, then ended up crashing it. I get tired of these alchoholics excuses and expecting everyone else to let their unacceptable behavior slide just because they can't stop drinking yet not caring whether they get into a car and crashed into someone. Always blaming everyone else for their own issues and acting like aggressive wastes of life.

I have no time for people who constantly shove their shit on people's doorsteps and expect them to put up with their depressing lifestyle and infecting other peoples moods with their depressing ways. Especially when they start attacking people, trashing peoples property and drink driving. You know they have to go.
 
alister said:
I'm surprised at the number of people that need to shut off the computer, come up from the basement, and go outside and see the real world. Life is so much more fun when you're doing it live action, and not sitting behind a computer screen.
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My computer isn't in the basement. It's in my living room. And I do get out and see the world.
 
jbrown329 said:
My computer isn't in the basement. It's in my living room. And I do get out and see the world.
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That wasn't directed at you :kiss: it's just a random observation of people on their computers and on their phones and apps and not interacting in TRW

My best friend and I put our phones on silent when we're together and never pull them out. We can talk for hours and cover a thousand topics.
 
sixthson said:
You said you weren't looking for feelings, yet in this short post, you mention how you feel three times. You sense he has feelings for you that you aren't feeling back for him. Of course you are looking to feel something.
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You're really reaching. Word counts don't work.

1. "Feel this out" is an expression for seeing how things go.

2. "I feel like" basically means "I'm getting the idea that"

3. See #2

You're better than this, man.
 
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