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I'm trying to understand how I've been a "judgmental moral snob." Perhaps you could enlighten me? I merely inquired as to whether it's the norm for gay gays to be more relationship averse and promiscuous. I didn't attach a positive or negative view to promiscuity. In fact, if I recall, I stated several times I'm not judging others and understand both positions. The judgment seems to be coming from your direction mostly.
It's hard to find someone to try to start some kind of friendship with without having to pass through the door of initial sex. Even the conversation up to the point of the evening being over seems to be just forced as a necessary evil until the sex occurs. Meeting someone, talking, hanging out, doing fun whatever and then being able to say "want to hang out again?" without having to seal the deal with sex at the end of the night is what I'm looking for. Maybe it doesn't exist. Maybe it does but in a limited amount that will take a good while to find. Either way, I was looking for the viewpoints of others on the topic.
What the hell is your problem? The only bitterness in this thread is coming from you. I have not attacked a single person on here for their level of sexual interaction with other people. I realize that I can have a difference of opinion with other people without hating them personally. I also realize that my life experience is limited to only what I have experienced. So when I have things like this pop up in my head, I like to get a wide variety of views to help me better understand the world I live in instead of sit bitterly (like some people) in my own limited world of experiences and think everyone is out to get me.
This thread needs a song:
You were doing great...until that bit. I hope you weren't serious.
And if you were...it's still hilarious.
There's a lot of preaching being done in this thread about understanding people's differences in preferences/comfort/boundaries, etc. when it comes to sex and how (and who and when) they choose to 'share themselves' with others. You're doing a shit job at contributing.Your post isn't far from what you are subtly insinuating that the OP has done.
I do have my own personal view of when sex is appropriate, but it is definitely not Christian based and I view it as my personal decision. As a less-than-promiscuous person, I think it's a perfectly valid question to ask why gay guys (yes I know studies show all guys, but I'm a gay male and this is a gay board) seem to lean towards the promiscuity part of things since I don't have the experience or though process of the opposing view. I could have phrased the topic better, but this board won't let you go back and change it (and least I haven't found a way to.)
I will agree with Huntneo that you're sounding exactly like what you were accusing me of. Some people view sex as a mechanical type process that humans go through whenever they have the need to release. Others view it as something special that you can give someone special. Neither side is right or wrong. While I have done hookups before, I try to avoid them because I feel like sex is one of the few things I can give someone special that I don't give to just anyone who happens to know me. That's my personal opinion. Some on here seem to share that and others don't. I don't expect someone like you or Rolyo to change your ways because of how I feel and I hope you wouldn't expect me to do so based on your feelings. I certainly don't believe that dismissing anyone's personal views on what sex is or should mean because they don't line up with what you view it as is a proper course of action.
Riiiiight, let's look past the fact that you've been with literally hundreds of men. I'm sure your significant other will feel proud walking down the gayborhood street holding hands with you despite the fact some of the random men walking past you have already had you.
One big alternative to forming a position on this topic other than Christianity is health. Statistically speaking, the more people you have sex with, the more your chances of getting an STD or adverse health effects goes up.
