Why are gay guys so promiscuous?

[JustMe5]

If that significant other were me I really wouldn't care. I seriously just don't get where your attitude is based off of if not Christianity. Seriously, this sounds like something a chastity speaker would say to group kids in a Catholic High School.

Judging by some of the posts, some people here aren't familiar with the concept of self-respect.

And since we're on the subject, I don't give two fucks about Christianity or its beliefs. But some of you should be the last people to criticize Christianity. Having hundreds or even thousands of sex partners in your life? Think it's any wonder that in the "Western world" gays are the people most overwhelmingly affected by AIDS? That's absolutely nothing to be proud of.

 

[JustMe5]

LMAO at this Puritan attitude. I doubt I'd ever want to date someone with such ridiculous views.

There is no shortage of men out there doing the same shit I'm doing, and one of those men would likely be who I'd consider dating.

Good for you, keep it that way. After all, birds of a feather flock together. I would never want to date someone with ZERO self-respect.

 

[Laufey]

Saying a person who has had many sexual partners has little or no self-respect is ridiculously ignorant and judgmental.

Your partner isn't a property you own. Why does it matter whether the people you walk past have slept with him or not?

It's really surprising how many puritans we have on a gay porn forum.

 

[bankside]

One big alternative to forming a position on this topic other than Christianity is health. Statistically speaking, the more people you have sex with, the more your chances of getting an STD or adverse health effects goes up.

Bible thumper!

 

[JustMe5]

Saying a person who has had many sexual partners has little or no self-respect is ridiculously ignorant and judgmental.

Your partner isn't a property you own. Why does it matter whether the people you walk past have slept with him or not?

It's really surprising how many puritans we have on a gay porn forum.

So because I consciously choose not to have sex with HUNDREDS of men that makes me puritan? I'm not a saint by any means. I've had my share of hookups and one-night stands, but I know where to draw the line. Besides, aren't you the one who once said that you used to be an "escort" (or whatever the PC term for it is)? If that's the case then I'm not surprised that you'd deem some us "puritan".

And what does the fact that JUB is a porn site have anything to do with this thread? While the JUB website is a porn site, lots of different topics are usually discussed on the forum itself. Some of us aren't here for the porn anyway.

 

[FlimFlam]

Saying a person who has had many sexual partners has little or no self-respect is ridiculously ignorant and judgmental.

Your partner isn't a property you own. Why does it matter whether the people you walk past have slept with him or not?

It's really surprising how many puritans we have on a gay porn forum.

Honestly? Because it matters. If you've had hundreds of partners.. what does that mean? That you can't stay with someone long? That you have an insatiable sexual appetite? That you do not care about the safety of your body?
There is SOMETHING amiss there. Now if you go through a phase early in your gay life where you were promiscuous I understand. However, serial promiscuity is just as bad as serial dating. Anything in excess is somewhat odd.

 

[Rolyo85]

Riiiiight, let's look past the fact that you've been with literally hundreds of men. I'm sure your significant other will feel proud walking down the gayborhood street holding hands with you despite the fact some of the random men walking past you have already had you.

Oh? So you always pick virgins and then move to a new town just in case? What's with the shame-tripping, luv? You've already branded him as some disease-ridden whore that should have a giant tattoo on his face, so "decent" folks know to stay away and not be embarrassed to be seen with him.

Get a grip.

 

[Rolyo85]

One big alternative to forming a position on this topic other than Christianity is health. Statistically speaking, the more people you have sex with, the more your chances of getting an STD or adverse health effects goes up.

Yeah, except this isn't how you're framing it, is it? You guys keep talking about "giving something precious" and "devaluing" yourself through sex. The health factor is literally the ONLY viable point one can make against promiscuity, yet it's barely been a part of this conversation.

No, I am not buying that that's what you're forming your position on.

 

[eastofeden]

Saying a person who has had many sexual partners has little or no self-respect is ridiculously ignorant and judgmental.

Your partner isn't a property you own. Why does it matter whether the people you walk past have slept with him or not?

It's really surprising how many puritans we have on a gay porn forum.

This is nothing. The last gay forum I was on was more like the Baptist Ladies Club than a gay forum. Really depressing.

It doesn't matter what you say...they won't get it. Of course...they are often the ones who crow the loudest while they are being judged. They think this is somehow "different".

 

[Rolyo85]

Judging by some of the posts, some people here aren't familiar with the concept of self-respect.

And since we're on the subject, I don't give two fucks about Christianity or its beliefs. But some of you should be the last people to criticize Christianity. Having hundreds or even thousands of sex partners in your life? Think it's any wonder that in the "Western world" gays are the people most overwhelmingly affected by AIDS? That's absolutely nothing to be proud of.

You're really verging WAY too close on being directly offensive, and bringing the mods on yourself.

Either respect the fact that your Puritan morality isn't universal and many people don't share it in this topic, or gtfo and leave the adults to talk like adults.

And AIDS is caused by unsafe sex, not by promiscuity.

 

[Rolyo85]

Good for you, keep it that way. After all, birds of a feather flock together. I would never want to date someone with ZERO self-respect.

And I would never want to date a judgmental ignorant prude. Just imagining the sex life I'd have with such a person makes me shudder.

 

[eastofeden]

Honestly? Because it matters. If you've had hundreds of partners.. what does that mean? That you can't stay with someone long? That you have an insatiable sexual appetite? That you do not care about the safety of your body?
There is SOMETHING amiss there. Now if you go through a phase early in your gay life where you were promiscuous I understand. However, serial promiscuity is just as bad as serial dating. Anything in excess is somewhat odd.

Really? So tell me...what exactly is amiss with me.....

 

[JustMe5]

You're really verging WAY too close on being directly offensive, and bringing the mods on yourself.

It's more like, YOU would call the mods after reading something that you simply didn't like. And please, you're not one to tell me what "adult talk" is like. You MIGHT get to be my age someday.

 

[eastofeden]

Riiiiight, let's look past the fact that you've been with literally hundreds of men. I'm sure your significant other will feel proud walking down the gayborhood street holding hands with you despite the fact some of the random men walking past you have already had you.

I just asked my "significant other" of 26 years what he thinks...he just laughed and rolled his eyes. He hates judgemental people even more than I do.

 

[FlimFlam]

Let me clarify. I don't mean something is amiss in terms of a person or human being. I mean from the viewpoint of someone wanting a serious relationship. These are the things that go through their minds.

 

[Rolyo85]

I think some people are just sorta unaware of how quickly that number goes up if you're an attractive young guy. Especially in college. I've been with 24 guys in 2 years, and while I'm no troll, I am anything but hot. A guy a few inches taller than me and more athletic, could have been scoring ten times that in the exact situations I've been in while in college, and now in Chicago.

Plus, most guys who talk about "hundreds", rarely keep actual count, so let's not make it into some "I know when to draw the line, so I stopped at 199, so you can't say I've been with "hundredS"..." thing, k?

 

[Rolyo85]

Let me clarify. I don't mean something is amiss in terms of a person or human being. I mean from the viewpoint of someone wanting a serious relationship. These are the things that go through their minds.

A year in a dorm in a big college could turn the counter up to anywhere between 40 and 80 different partners. How many guys you could DATE can one meet in that time? That's pure chance. Even when you turn it into 6 years (undergrad + grad school), you might still end up barely finding a couple of people you truly match with. In two and a half years of being out, I've met exactly TWO guys I've wanted to be with, and been only able to date one of them.

 

[eastofeden]

Let me clarify. I don't mean something is amiss in terms of a person or human being. I mean from the viewpoint of someone wanting a serious relationship. These are the things that go through their minds.

Really...I have been with over 500 men but under 1000 and have been in a monogamous relationship for 26 1/2 years...very happily I might add.

What is it exactly that has gone through "my mind" that concerns you?

 

[Vitamin]

Judging by some of the posts, some people here aren't familiar with the concept of self-respect.

And since we're on the subject, I don't give two fucks about Christianity or its beliefs. But some of you should be the last people to criticize Christianity. Having hundreds or even thousands of sex partners in your life? Think it's any wonder that in the "Western world" gays are the people most overwhelmingly affected by AIDS? That's absolutely nothing to be proud of.

Oh look, gay bashing on a gay forum. How very vogue of you.

 

[eastofeden]

I was replying to the question that was asked about why gays are considered sluts/whores for being promiscuous while straight men aren't. And it doesn't affect me personally if a gay man has had hundreds or even thousands of sex partners, but I would not want to get romantically involved with someone like that. That's just my personal preference. There are those who don't have a problem with it.

I think it is a good thing that you don't want to get involved with them. You both dodge a bullet...win/win.