Why does life always takes away the things we like the most?

[rodvill]

So being a medical student, I finally reached my last semester in school and urology is one of the rotations programmed for this term.
So after putting a lot courage into it, I went to my professor and ask him for an appointment, he said he'd give it to me right away (which I didn't expect so soon). With a lot of embarrasement (while doctors I had rotated with, entered and exited the room continously) I showed him my "concern" which turned out to be a moderate to severe phimosis. He told me the definite cure is circumcision.
I am very disappointed by this since I used to love the feel of masturbation with my prepuce. I don't want to, but I must, since I cannot retract my foreskin when on a full erection and I don't want it to get worse.
So I practically have no alternative but to have the circumcision and I plan to schedule it in December. I think I actually feel a little sad about the news. I don't know how to take it... I had never planned on getting cut!
So please lie to me and tell me that masturbation will be the same as enjoyable when being cut. I know sex is, but what about jerking off?

 

[JasMuney]

wait, so you just developed phimosis as an adult?

 

[kallipolis]

This article sheds some light on phimosis:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phimosis

 

[KaraBulut]

Get a second opinion from a urologist.

Phimosis alone is not a reason for circumcision. Usually, circumcision is warranted only when there is scar tissue or the opening (foramen) is so tight that retraction of the foreskin is impossible.

Circumcision should be a last resort when all other measures have failed.

At this point, you should see a urologist and ask him for a second opinion. Ask if there are other alternatives to full circumcision. And if circumcision is the only option, talk with him about how much of the foreskin has to be trimmed.

The issue of circumcision always seems to stir up arguments in the forums. But the bottom line is that all men- cut or uncut enjoy sex.

 

[chillyboi]

life takes nothing away
God takes it away

 

[rodvill]

JasMuney: yes I developed phymosis as an adult.

Karabulut: the reason of my phymosis is a phymotic ring which is actually a scar, so probably surgery really is the only option.

 

[CudDULL]

You want what you cant have?

P.S. It so sad, your basically getting rid of something you had a loving relationship all your life D:

 

[rodvill]

So anyway, I spoke to my urology professor today after my final exam (which I completely aced!, probably because I love penis haha *joke) and he gave me his office phone number.
I intend to do my circumcision without the knowledge of my family... I mean it kinda is a minimum procedure. I will seek for my private security company to pay for the charges (so noone will ever know).

 

[rodvill]

You want what you cant have?

P.S. It so sad, your basically getting rid of something you had a loving relationship all your life D:

I know CudDULL... it's like saying goodbye to a friend.

 

[3nipples]

You apparently need to have it done and that means that sex and masturbation will be better once you're circumcised than it is now, when you're unable to retract.

I can understand why you're not happy about the circumstance, but I can't understand you're attitude - especially being a medical student - about not telling your family, like it was a shameful dirty little secret.

 

[KaraBulut]

Karabulut: the reason of my phymosis is a phymotic ring which is actually a scar, so probably surgery really is the only option.

Well, if they have ruled out a preputioplasty or a doral slit, then circumcision may be your only option. I would still get that second opinion, though.

I intend to do my circumcision without the knowledge of my family... I mean it kinda is a minimum procedure. I will seek for my private security company to pay for the charges (so noone will ever know).

"Minumum procedure"? It's done under local with infants but it's usually (and humanely) done under general anesthesia in adults. And the first 2-4 days afterward are not a lot of fun. Peeing is a chore for a few days. Finding a comfortable position is a challenge- many guys just give up and wear no pants or underpants until the swelling goes away. It will be 4-8 weeks before you can have any sort of sexual activity.

You definitely want to have someone there with you for 24 hours after the surgery. If not a family member, then a close friend who is not squeamish. And someone that you don't mind seeing you naked.

 

[sheep]

Those of us that were cut at birth tend to be not very knowledgeable about such matters. Would it be out of the question to ask you to take pictures soft and hard so we have a better understanding of what you are going through? Also perhaps when the operation is done you could keep us up to date with photographs and describe how it feels and how the healing process is progressing.
I know, I'm not asking a lot, am I?
The only thing I find in the various threads on the subject of cut vs uncut (all 281,923 of them j/k) is whether it is better to be cut or uncut and posts showing so much ignorance of the way they aren't.

 

[seven2go]

We had a customer who was cirucmsized when he was in his 70's due to that problem.
He said if he knew things would be that good he'd have had it done years sooner.
Don't believe all the horror stories and, even more important, don't believe all the

 

[cityboy-stl]

You clearly don't want to do it. Shouldn't you do a lot more research on alternatives rather than accept the standard "cut it off" line from doctors. I mean that's what doctors "do" - they cut things off. So of course that's what they're going to say. Steroid creams and stretching work wonders I'm told. Just not as fast. Once you cut off all that sensitive skin with all those nerve endings you'll never ever have those feelings ever again for the rest of your life. Find out the alternatives. Think for yourself. Make an informed choice. Get a second or third opinion. They do teach you that in medical school don't they? Sure cutting it off is a definite cure but what other cures are not so drastic and permanently altering? I got over 11,000 hits on treatment alternatives from Google.

Why is it so bad anyway? I've been with some guys whose foreskin didn't pull back and it was an extremely erotic experience. Are you just self-conscience about it or does it cause some other kind of problem?

 

[rodvill]

3nipples: I find your statement a little bit judgamental.

The reason that I don't want to tell my family is because they don't support 'me being gay', they just make a blind eye to the situation. They know for a fact that I'm not sexually active now, they just don't know why... they think because I'm chosing celibacy (haha). So If they'd knew that the 'fix' would let me become sexually active again, they most-likely wouldn't approve. They'd say ahhh so that's why you haven't been interested in ANYBODY for the past year... and they'd made me stay the way I am no... It's like a situational chastity belt, if you know what I mean.

 

[rodvill]

You clearly don't want to do it. Shouldn't you do a lot more research on alternatives rather than accept the standard "cut it off" line from doctors. I mean that's what doctors "do" - they cut things off....

It is not that I don't want to do it... I mean I am not LOVING IT! but if it's necessary I'm ok by it. It is just that I am a little bit afraid of the unknown. So that is the whole point of this thread. Probably for people who got circumcised at an adult age to tell me their experience.

 

[ohioboxerbriefs]

why not just remove the tip where its constricted? I would think if you love being uncut so much you would think more about it.

lots of people have partial circumcsions and are more than happy.

 

[spencer]

I agree with a partial circ.

As for your family, you're having it done because your forskin doesn't retract properly. You're a doctor, you can tell your family it's interfering with urinating, not sex. Seriously? You can't tell them?

And if you wanted to be less embarassed, you didn't have to have your whole class in on your examination.

Good luck.

 

[3nipples]

3nipples: I find your statement a little bit judgamental.

The reason that I don't want to tell my family is because they don't support 'me being gay', they just make a blind eye to the situation. They know for a fact that I'm not sexually active now, they just don't know why... they think because I'm chosing celibacy (haha). So If they'd knew that the 'fix' would let me become sexually active again, they most-likely wouldn't approve. They'd say ahhh so that's why you haven't been interested in ANYBODY for the past year... and they'd made me stay the way I am no... It's like a situational chastity belt, if you know what I mean.

Fair enough, but without the background info... well never mind.

My father, if it's any help, was circumcised as an adult. He was something over 50 at the time. He was happy with the result (from a sexual standpoint) and said he would have had it done much sooner had he only known.

 

[rodvill]

I agree with a partial circ.

As for your family, you're having it done because your forskin doesn't retract properly. You're a doctor, you can tell your family it's interfering with urinating, not sex. Seriously? You can't tell them?

And if you wanted to be less embarassed, you didn't have to have your whole class in on your examination.

Good luck.

Spencer, I find your advice very helpful. I CAN tell my parents that I have trouble urinating... I just need to sound convincing when I tell them since it is not true.

also, it was not my whole class on my examinatinon... it was the whole bunch of professors (urologists) entering and exiting the examination room (which I don't mind since I don't know them personally, plus it's their speciality).