Age Difference

[Xthegeminix]

I have two opinions. If its a truly serious relationship and your talking an age difference of 10 years thats fine.I have of course over the years seen your bisexual muscle boys claiming they want a serious relationship, when all they are doing is tradi ng out to a younger boy every few years. If there is real chemistry between an older guy and a younger boy then of course they have every right to be together and not take shit for it.I have just scene people casually dating and playing with some boy toy and trading to a new one every few years.Its kinda like shoping for a sex toy the same way people shop for a newer better cell phone.

 

[quasar]

I've had a partner who was 12years older, and one who was 10years younger. Both had their own special attractions, so I wouldn't rule any age out. At the moment I seem to have 18-25year olds showing interest, and if I'm honest, I'M the one worrying about the age difference!!!

 

[evilest]

I date older men because they act their bloody age.

 

[Aratron]

Does he honestly look that much older than me? No, but he's a hell of a lot more mature than 90% of my age group.

I can't even say who is who

I'm a young man who's attracted to older men; what I don't understand is how ANYONE would want to date someone who's 18-25. Gay guys around that age are catty, bitchy, immature, backstabby, and all they think about is their cock and their next sexual conquest.

Are you including yourself there? I just think you're generalizing.

 

[screwnutty]

Ok, this is buging me so I wanted to post something about it.

What is up with guys my age(18-25) going out with guys in their 30's????

I mean WTF they are old. Sure they have their shit together but come on!

I'm sorry. Who died and left you in charge of who falls in love with who? Age is just a number dude. I know you don't understand this right now and I'm sure your one of those young guys that thinks he's never going to live to be 30 years old, but guess what....one day you wake up and your 30 years old.

Your time is coming! Oh yeah remember.....there is no sanctuary!!!

 

[CoolguyAT]

I tend to like older guys myself, usually guys in their 40s and early 50s. I just find them sexier and i'm able to have better conversations (and sex) with them. In fact, the hottest guy in the town I live in (in my opinion) is 50. Like someone else said, if two men are attracted to each other and care about each other who cares about the age difference?

 

[waves]

With what everyone else has said, I think it all comes down to being able to mesh well together. There are immature guys in their 20s, 30s, 40s...regardless of age. There are also some very good looking guys in every age range as well.

It's all a matter of personal tastes, really. I've been out a couple times with guys in their 40s and I must say they are freaking amazing to be around with. There wasn't much of a culture clash either...we would grab some coffee, hang out, talk about stuff. Or go hiking, drive around...I didn't find it difficult to be around them.

As long as you both love each other and got something great going on, I say: GO FOR IT! I think before getting into the whole dating scene I was the same way in thinking I wouldn't get with an older guy, but I'm glad I left my options open! I wouldn't have gotten a chance to experience some really great times had I rejected them.

 

[cityboi]

I met a guy when he was 23, he's now 26. He has matured greatly and now realizes what to value in life. I'm now 50 and can appreciate what insight can be found in youth. When the chemistry is there, nothing else matters.

 

[looseliam]

I'm a young man who's attracted to older men; what I don't understand is how ANYONE would want to date someone who's 18-25. Gay guys around that age are catty, bitchy, immature, backstabby, and all they think about is their cock and their next sexual conquest.

Give me a mature, stable man who's able to think with logic, has lots of life experience and is simply more interesting to talk with than an immature little brat who can't see past the end of their prick any day of the week.

Also, I agree with Propserity; why the HELL would any older man want to have a relationship with someone they have to help raise? That seems contradictory, but when I look at people my age compared to people that age, the difference in maturity is so extreme that I can't imagine them ever meshing together positively.

TL;DR, Luka, you're shallow and immature for thinking that just because someone's past thirty (THIRTY! You're just settling into a career and getting your life under control at thirty, how is that old?!) they shouldn't have a relationship with someone who's younger.

I see you're single... I'm single, too *cough**cough*

 

[thelaw2047]

Well as far as concerns about age difference goes try this formula. Take your age and divide it by 2. Add seven to that number and viola! that should be your date range. But hey if you love someone and they really care for you age does not matter. All of us here on JUB will not always be the Hottest thing forever. Younger or older immaturity and shallowness comes in all groups. What you think of the man you want to be with and what he thinks of you is all that matters.

 

[youngnihilist]

Hey luka, like you I really don't get the big age gap thing. I mean, I can get why old guys might want young guys (for sex), but on the relationship end I just don't see it working out for either party. But I've given up on judging people - if it makes them happy, why not? And this is the wrong forum to be preaching about age differences since it's filled with older (and younger) guys who are huge proponents of intergenerational relationships.

I'm in my early 20s and I think guys my age are great. They're more laid back, nicer, have the same interests as me in many many dimensions, happier/less jaded, and just more fun. We grew up watching the same shows, lsitening to the same music, having similar movies, video games, parenting, cultural phrases, and so much more. I'm much more myself around guys my age. Stereotpically, older men have lived life longer and are more grumpy jaded, or simply stuck in their ways. Guys my age are always very chill and friendly. Yes, this includes the gay boys too. As for older guys having their shit together, I've noticed that guys in their 30s and 40s no more have their shit together than young guys. A lot of young guys are ambitious and off to conquer the world, and plenty of older men are at a dead end in life.

When I interact with older men, straight or gay, I stiffen up becuase theres a disconnect. I imagine if and when I'm 40 I'll relate to them better, just like I dont' relate well to 16 year olds anymore. It's a matter of being the same age group and having similar experiences and insights.

 

[screwnutty]

I'm in my early 20s and I think guys my age are great. They're more laid back, nicer, have the same interests as me in many many dimensions, happier/less jaded, and just more fun. We grew up watching the same shows, lsitening to the same music, having similar movies, video games, parenting, cultural phrases, and so much more.

Hey youngnihilist. You make some great points but I just want to comment on the above quote. I'm 33. I might surprise you in that some of the same movies, music, video games and cultural phrases that I know and like. I still play video games. Love my 360 to death. Most of my friends (all straight) are younger guys (19-26) because most of my straight friends my own age, have moved on in life. They've gotten married etc. How did I meet all these new friends? By doing the stuff that they like doing, cause I like it too!

Anyways you make a really important point that I agree with 100%. That's do what feels right for you! Not what others think you should do.

 

[treanir]

Well as far as concerns about age difference goes try this formula. Take your age and divide it by 2. Add seven to that number and viola! that should be your date range.

According to that I should only be allowed to date 19-year-olds. Hell no!

(half of that formula's missing. Specifically the upper limit. But it's still an arbitrary set of numbers)


My personal age range is somewhere between 20-35, though I wouldn't be surprised if that number shoots up to 54 soon. So yeah... age is but a number and all that.

 

[Luka]

Sounds like I should be in the ground and dust according to Luka, (being one of the older men on this site).

Got some news for you bud, I am 63 and my husband is 31! We have been together for almost 3 years now, and we got married this past April!

What doesn't fit you doesn't mean it can't fit others! Life is too fucking short to argue about small age differences, (or large ones for that matter), as you describe.

Some people get together for just sex, while others are looking for a meaningful relationship. My man never thought he would be in love with an older man, but he is and we are!

I have responses for every post but i dont have time to reply to all right now..but this one caught my eye... and I have to say...GROSS

 

[Willie Boy]

Ok, this is buging me so I wanted to post something about it.

What is up with guys my age(18-25) going out with guys in their 30's????

I mean WTF they are old. Sure they have their shit together but come on!

Some people like older partners, some younger. Some people want members of the opposite sex, some want same sex partners. Some of us would even choose from both sides of the fence (Heaven forbid!). Is there really anything wrong with any of that?

Seriously! As long as you're not into children or animals, what's the problem? If you're an adult, age is just a number.

Many young people want someone with experience to guide them, while a lot of older people want a wild youth or two to reinvigorate them and remind them of the passion that may have started slipping away.

 

[JOHN B]

I'm not complaining. I am now 42, soon to be 43. When I was 30 or so younger guy in their 20's would not even look at me. Now, I have 18 years hitting on me! Before, I was not old enough. I'm going to enjoy it while I can....before I get to be one of those "old guys who use to be good looking", in a few short years.

 

[Willie Boy]

John, if I wasn't one of those older guys who likes the young 18-25ers, I'd most likely be interested in you EVEN in a few years! Alas, I'm one of those older freaks (according to the OP) who likes to rob the cradles of their 18 to 25 year old babies!

 

[youngnihilist]

Do what you all like, though it is a little frustrating how many young guys want old guys. Our pool is small enough, and now you old guys are stealing a significant portion of the cute young guys. There's been times where I've seen a hot guy my age, but then it's like "No, I don't like you because you're young and fit and handsome. I'd rather be with a guy twice my age with a beer belly, tons of hair, and grey whiskers. He's established at his dead end government job and can mentor and father figure me!" Hmm, maybe I should start claiming to be a young "daddy" to get these boys

It's such a bizarre paradox, we claim that the gay community is so image focused and old fat guys are worthless, but then there's that large contingent of young cute things looking for older heavier things.... for FREE. so as many of you have noted its not even a bad thing to be middle aged and heavy and gay, I don't get why some of you claim it is. in the straight community that doesn't happy unless "daddy" got a deep wallet.

 

[screwnutty]

Youngnihilist. Time is not on your side. One day you will find the answers that you seek.

there's an old saying that you should not judge a man until you've walked a day in his shoes.

 

[Rick18]

Do what you all like, though it is a little frustrating how many young guys want old guys. Our pool is small enough, and now you old guys are stealing a significant portion of the cute young guys. There's been times where I've seen a hot guy my age, but then it's like "No, I don't like you because you're young and fit and handsome. I'd rather be with a guy twice my age with a beer belly, tons of hair, and grey whiskers. He's established at his dead end government job and can mentor and father figure me!" Hmm, maybe I should start claiming to be a young "daddy" to get these boys

It's such a bizarre paradox, we claim that the gay community is so image focused and old fat guys are worthless, but then there's that large contingent of young cute things looking for older heavier things.... for FREE. so as many of you have noted its not even a bad thing to be middle aged and heavy and gay, I don't get why some of you claim it is. in the straight community that doesn't happy unless "daddy" got a deep wallet.

Old != fat or ugly.