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[ixthrock]

Re: How do i stop people from abusing me when i do successful things?

How do i stop people ......

You can't.

We are not your little puppets, you cannot make us do what you please. If you think others are making you do things you don't want (I mean, really) you have serious boundary issues.

As has been stated, there have been several of these threads along the same theme. Until I see you start a thread about your quest for appropriate counselling, a thread about your journey of self-actualisation and discovery, I'm going to treat any others you start with this theme as bogus trolling.

Whether these are genuine pleas from someone who honestly needs help, or fony phishing by a bored loser looking for an excuse to judge others on the qualities of sensitivity and compassion, you are seriously damaged.

GET PRO HELP.

This forum doesn't qualify. We will never meet your need.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Re: How do i stop people from abusing me when i do successful things?

Dude... seriously. You need to check yourself in somewhere, going by this, and your other previous posts.

 

[NeedingHelpASAP]

Re: How do i stop people from abusing me when i do successful things?

I've needed help my entire life. No one has ever helped me and my needing emotional help from people has been an on going thing. emotionally. "Professional" helpers are bogus and a waste of finances.

 

[NeedingHelpASAP]

Re: How do i stop people from abusing me when i do successful things?

You can't.

We are not your little puppets, you cannot make us do what you please. If you think others are making you do things you don't want (I mean, really) you have serious boundary issues.

As has been stated, there have been several of these threads along the same theme. Until I see you start a thread about your quest for appropriate counselling, a thread about your journey of self-actualisation and discovery, I'm going to treat any others you start with this theme as bogus trolling.

Whether these are genuine pleas from someone who honestly needs help, or fony phishing by a bored loser looking for an excuse to judge others on the qualities of sensitivity and compassion, you are seriously damaged.

GET PRO HELP.

This forum doesn't qualify. We will never meet your need.

You must be wretched like every other human being. Dishonest, self-focused and vapid.

 

[HunterM]

Re: How do i stop people from abusing me when i do successful things?

Call Dr. Phil!

 

[hellowazzup]

Re: How do i stop people from abusing me when i do successful things?

You must be wretched like every other human being. Dishonest, self-focused and vapid.

Isn't this a little hypocritical? One part of your OP that stood out to me.....

You became the manager at your place of employment, promising to help the business grow by helping implement the processes and procedures set forth by the owner.... and you proceeded to try and "get rid" of people who you had previous problems with. You were given the job to manage the business, and instead tried to manage your own personal agenda.

Is that not "dishonest, self-focused and vapid"???

 

[Telstra]

Re: How do i stop people from abusing me when i do successful things?

I've needed help my entire life. No one has ever helped me and my needing emotional help from people has been an on going thing. emotionally. "Professional" helpers are bogus and a waste of finances.

You made rareboy cried on your first post.

I don't think he cries anymore, i might be wrong tho ............

 

[MoltenRock III]

Re: How do i stop people from abusing me when i do successful things?

I've needed help my entire life. No one has ever helped me and my needing emotional help from people has been an on going thing. emotionally. "Professional" helpers are bogus and a waste of finances.

Bogus? How so? Have you actually gone to one / some? If so, what did they tell you and prescribe you?

Additionally, you didn't answer my question about street drugs. If you are taking them they are screwing with your brain and spiking your paranoia.

 

[NeedingHelpASAP]

How do I retaliate against betrayl, backstabbing, and hurtfulness from fake friends?

How do I retalliate against this? When I was a small child I had my first experience with extreme backstabbing and betrayl. At the time i had a best friend who was very jealous of me. I was running for class president and was well deserving of it...but there was a small technicality that could have gotten be uneligible. I wasn't of age yet. In order to run you had to be 10 years of age by the last day of the application submittal deadline.

My bithday is in the later of the year and in order for me to be of age i wouldnt be able to do it before graduation. A certain teacher knew of my good grades and conduct and decided to encourage me to apply. I contemplated it for a while....got anxious....hesistated and then eventually applied. After application everything was going well as i had garnished the majority of the votes and was in the lead by a long shot.

My alleged best friend was thinking about running...applied....sucked....got no votes and withdrew himself from the race. At first he supported mr and complimented my success but then the dreded day came where he inquired about my ability to run when i was only 9....he knew the requirements were 10 years of age and i was only 9 as a result of my birthday being late in the year. In my mind....in confidence ....I allowed myself to tell him "Mr- so and so allowed me to run as a favor because he belives in me and likes me dont' tell...i'm so happy he did that for me"....my alleged best friend then IMMEDIATELY ran into the classroom (we were in the hallway at the time) alerted all of the students of my ability to run without being of age and told the other school officials about my circumstance....the students bombarded the voting box and PHYSICALLY withdrew all of their ballot tickets and left me high and dry.

He laughed and laughed and laughed as i was being attcked, ridiculed, strong armed and robbed....and gloated about my downfall. Afterwards he spoke to me the very next day as if nothing happened and was shocked when i had extreme dsidain for him and insisted that i think nothing of his betrayl. I've had other moments like this in my life and have always had thoughts and fears of betrayl of the same magnitude or even worse at a greater level. How do i stop people from harming me in this way? What do i do to defeat them? What should i have done to him or about him? What do i do when people start to ask me invasive questions and i start to freeze up?

 

[AlmondMilk]

Re: How do I retaliate against betrayl, backstabbing, and hurtfulness from fake friends?

Well, you can't really do anything about an alleged friend's jealousy if you're not rubbing it in his face. It seems to me you didn't do anything to cause him ot be jealous. You can't prevent jealousy, heart breaks, fights, etc in your circumstance especially when the other party acts to support you. It hurts; believe me. I've had my fair share of people turning their backs to me when all I've done was hold their hands. In fact, it still happens right now.

How do you stop them? You can't. Unless you can physically control every action they do like a little toy, you can't stop them from doing this.

What do you do to defeat them?
Well, either not become friends with them in the first place, or just ignore them. Sure, you can befriend them and try to do harm to them as they have harmed you. For some people, revenge is sweet. Some people believe in an eye for an eye. But, if anything, it seems like it can spiral down to an unhealthy rivalry. So I say that when it happens, leave them be. You've learned your lesson with this person, do your best not to make it happen. Take that person out of your life.

What should I have done?

Since you were 9, ignoring the him was probably the best thing to do. The best thing to do, however, is to talk it out. It would have been best to include your teacher in it who has a neutral position so both of you can voice your opinions evenly. But, as a I said before, since you were 9, there's nothing that could be done now about this specific event.

What should you do when people ask you invasive questions and you freeze up?

Mentally prepare yourself. I know. It sounds stupid, but believe it or not, there are other people who get anxious/nervous about certain things. If, for example, the teacher decides to go around the room for everyone to answer a question, I would tense up, sweat, my heart would race. Even if the teacher would assure us that answering even if you didn't know the answer wouldn't harm your grade, and no one would laugh at you, These conditions always happened to me.

The best thing to do is to mentally prepare yourself. You don't always have the time to fully prepare yourself, so that means you have some homework to do when you're by yourself in a room.

Breathe. Take short inhalations and long exhalations. Free your mind of wandering thoughts. If need be, write any random thoughts of things you have to do beforehand on a piece of paper. Let everything go. Release yourself from the stresses of the day for just a few minutes. Focus on your breathing.

Now, if you do this, at a situation where someone asks you something invasive, mentally bring yourself back to that calming place you invision as you did your breathing exercise. Maybe clear your thoughts. Quickly tell yourself you can do this. Take a couple of seconds, and then respond.

I'm not sure what invasive questions you need to answer, but you don't always have to answer. If you're uncomfortable with something, say, "I'm uncomfortable answering that right now." or "I'd rather not."

 

[palbert]

Re: How do I retaliate against betrayl, backstabbing, and hurtfulness from fake friends?

From your numerous posts in this same vein I would suggest you seek help in a professional setting. See a mental health professional.

 

[asu1117]

Re: How do I retaliate against betrayl, backstabbing, and hurtfulness from fake friends?

Whoa, how dramatic. You keep making threads like this and every time the advice is the same: Seek professional help. And yet you continue to make more while disregarding that advice. You can only be helped if you are willing and constantly playing the innocent victim doesn't help matters.

 

[Greenherbz]

Re: How do I retaliate against betrayl, backstabbing, and hurtfulness from fake friends?

lol srsly? You were 10.... you have to at least be 18 to be on this website. Why are you STILL dwelling over something so small? So you lost class president when you were 10, who gives a rats ass,,,,,, come back with bigger problems and if this to you really IS a big deal, go get professional help

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

Re: How do I retaliate against betrayl, backstabbing, and hurtfulness from fake friends?

I'm going to echo the sentiment that you need professional help.

I'm going to also ask that you stop posting on here looking for the same answer to the same set of problems, and seek professional help.

I'm, lastly, going to state that we cannot help you in all things, you need professional help. It's not a bad thing, we are concerned and want you to listen to that key advice.

 

[mbamike]

Re: How do I retaliate against betrayl, backstabbing, and hurtfulness from fake friends?

You need to put all grudges behind you. If you don't, they will eat you alive and make your life miserable. Life is full of episodes where people will knock you down just so they can look good or get an upper hand. Those who want to knock you down or harm you are not your true friends. Remove them from your life. Just let it roll off your back and keep going. I wish you the best.

 

[MoltenRock III]

Re: How do I retaliate against betrayl, backstabbing, and hurtfulness from fake friends?

LMAO! You're still pissing and moaning about something that happened when you were 9 years old?

Dude, you're mentally unbalanced and as I've told you 3 other times, get to the doctor today!

Why did you run away from your last tantrum?

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?p=7500920#post7500920

 

[fetaby]

Re: How do I retaliate against betrayl, backstabbing, and hurtfulness from fake friends?

What a load of crap. Age limits for a school election?

Bullshit aside, I find it disturbing that you choose to concentrate on "retaliation". That's telling me you're no better than the people you claim have "betrayed" you.

So what should you do? Grow up.

 

[racer2438]

Re: How do I retaliate against betrayl, backstabbing, and hurtfulness from fake friends?

Put on your big boy panties and grow up. This was a long time ago and you still want to get even for something that you were doing wrong to begin with. YOU LIED about your age. This is what ALL POLITICIANS do is LIE dont you read/see the news.

So seeking professional help would be good for you. As it looks like your repost the same topic different ways to get answers.

 

[shainski]

Re: How do I retaliate against betrayl, backstabbing, and hurtfulness from fake friends?

How do I retalliate against this? When I ...
He laughed and laughed and laughed as i was being attcked, ridiculed, strong armed and robbed....and gloated about my downfall. Afterwards he spoke to me the very next day as if nothing happened and was shocked when i had extreme dsidain for him and insisted that i think nothing of his betrayl. I've had other moments like this in my life and have always had thoughts and fears of betrayl of the same magnitude or even worse at a greater level. How do i stop people from harming me in this way? What do i do to defeat them? What should i have done to him or about him? What do i do when people start to ask me invasive questions and i start to freeze up?

I have to agree with the others here that you have to let go of something that happened half a lifetime ago. (Actually, i don't know your age, but if you are an adult, then it is at least that). Nine and ten year olds do all sorts of mean things to each other - either out of ignorance, lack of maturity, lack of confidence or whatever else.

But, for the sake of conversation, let's say that this episode occurred recently.
Here's how i would handle it. I would calmly tell someone that i was disappointed in them - and i would not let him know that it bothered me. And i would cease sharing information that could be used against me. I simply would not give someone the power to know that they could affect me like this.

And ironically, i learned this when i was young - going through puberty. I had a friend that i wanted to me a best friend. But he would tease me because i was overweight. And it hurt then. He would draw a big circle on a paper, then a small one, and tell me he drew a picture of me from the top and laugh. It hurt, but i didn't let him know. One day, i said he had it all wrong. I took his picture and said that the circle was much too small. And i redrew it - much fatter than before and i laughed. Nothing took the fun out of what he was doing more than knowing that he could no longer bother me.

I didn't retaliate. I didn't beat him to a pulp (although i would have been capable of it). I didn't try to find some weakness in him. I just took the fun out of it.

Going on your own life and finding way to be successful will do more to "retaliate" to anyone who is trying to undermine you than anything else you could do.

because if you try to one-up him - you will perpetuate the "game". You find something to embarrass or undermine him - what do you think will be his response? To realize his error and apologize? Or to think of a bigger scene to undermine you?

Forgive his ignorance (For your own good, not his). Do not share intimate details of your life with him that can be used against you. Go on with your own life - looking toward the future - Use the past only to learn - but don't reopen wounds from it.

And do find a doctor to help you with your depression. Life can be better, and it will be once you take that step.

 

[Telstra]

Re: How do I retaliate against betrayl, backstabbing, and hurtfulness from fake friends?

You don't retaliate.
The best revenge is to become successful and happy.

Yourself is your enemy and you have to deal with it first.