If you ever say you are "straight acting" that is a copout

[aaggii]

Lol, was that supposed to be a caricature?

Because listening to Cher and crossdressing (it's called drag, honey) are totally disgusting and super exclusively gay.

Oh wait - the whole world listens to Cher and there are straight drag queens. I guess they are gay acting. Oops.

Ooooh snap. Offended, are we? So offended that you can´t see an obvious exaggeration made to prove a point, are we? And if it´s too much of a work to have a word that means the same or nearly the same as another one, it´s your problem. You´re crying that no one responds to your arguments, but I fail to see you making some. You´re too busy not-straight-acting.

There is no point to use straight because whatever behaviors you are exhibiting isnt exclusive to straight men.

But it´s more common between straight people, just like the flamboyant behavior is more common with gays, that´s why it was invented. Acting one way or another doesn´t make you straight or gay! Do you have a problem with the word straight, just like some have a problem with the word gay? With straight-acting, the inevitable gay-acting pops up (just like in this thread). If a straight guy would say ¨stop saying gay-acting¨ you´d be the first to call him a homophobe.

Be offended when people are assholes, not with definitions and expressions.

 

[Rolyo85]

How many of you have met a lot of gay men who simply "can't relate to other gay men?"...or don't really "like" other gay men? There are a shitload of them out there...and they usually think they are "straight acting"...if they have a few drinks in them it becomes "NORMAL ACTING"...I know of what I speak...and guess what? they are usually the biggest fucking oppressive assholes in the "gay community". They will tell you they are the "nicest guys" though...they just want a "normal guy" to spend their lives with.

Thing is...there are millions of gay men so to use a broad brush to paint millions of individuals who share the same sexuality is...well...sort of "straight acting"....the asshole straight people anyway

...so maybe they have a point after all.....HEY! EUREKA!

Amen to that.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

But it´s more common between straight people, just like the flamboyant behavior is more common with gays, that´s why it was invented. Acting one way or another doesn´t make you straight or gay! Do you have a problem with the word straight, just like some have a problem with the word gay? With straight-acting, the inevitable gay-acting pops up (just like in this thread). If a straight guy would say ¨stop saying gay-acting¨ you´d be the first to call him a homophobe.

Be offended when people are assholes, not with definitions and expressions.

Why do you keep implying that I am offended? Are you selectively reading what I post because I have stated that I havent been offended here.

And no I dont have a problem with the word straight. If acting straight or gay doesnt make you either orientation then you are further proving to me why I find the term pointless.

And yes I would call that straight person homophobic because that person is actually gay. You are not actually straight and I am not criticizing "straight behavior", just the fact you need to call it that.

 

[Rolyo85]

Re: If you ever say you are "straight acting" that is a copout

Some of you might be. I'm busy - I have an interview to prepare for.



Lemme see a photo. I get right of refusal on my interviewers.

Lex

Ha, you're lucky to have me, sugar, if I even agree to do the interview ^_^

 

[aaggii]

The offended wans´t directly to you MakeDigitalLove , but as a general conclusion to my post.

And yes I would call that straight person homophobic because that person is actually gay.

Who said that person is actually gay? Imagine that conversation between to straight men.

So you have a problem with the name, not the behavior. Why? It´s not degrading and it´s not meant to insult flamboyant persons, regardless of their sexual orientation. Crap, it´s not even used to describe one, but oneself. Censoring words/expressions won´t make the idea behind them go away. They tried for many years before, unsuccessfully.

 

[Rolyo85]

Ooooh snap. Offended, are we? So offended that you can´t see an obvious exaggeration made to prove a point, are we? And if it´s too much of a work to have a word that means the same or nearly the same as another one, it´s your problem. You´re crying that no one responds to your arguments, but I fail to see you making some. You´re too busy not-straight-acting.

Yeah, I'm over making arguments. It didn't work. Same as your "are we?" failed due to repetition. This one only works once. And no, not offended, more entertained at how quickly you went to exaggerated "gayness" to make a point.

But it´s more common between straight people, just like the flamboyant behavior is more common with gays, that´s why it was invented. Acting one way or another doesn´t make you straight or gay! Do you have a problem with the word straight, just like some have a problem with the word gay? With straight-acting, the inevitable gay-acting pops up (just like in this thread). If a straight guy would say ¨stop saying gay-acting¨ you´d be the first to call him a homophobe.

Be offended when people are assholes, not with definitions and expressions.

But... but... saying you are straight acting IS being an asshole!

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

The offended wans´t directly to you MakeDigitalLove , but as a general conclusion to my post.


Who said that person is actually gay? Imagine that conversation between to straight men.

Sorry, was on my phone thought I read it saying to a gay guy. And it kind of depends but straight men tend to use "gay" as a negative and as a joke.

So you have a problem with the name, not the behavior. Why? It´s not degrading and it´s not meant to insult flamboyant persons, regardless of their sexual orientation. Crap, it´s not even used to describe one, but oneself. Censoring words/expressions won´t make the idea behind them go away. They tried for many years before, unsuccessfully.

Because you are for one reason or another separating yourself from other gay people and to me that means you find something wrong with it.

 

[xbuzzerx]

Because you are for one reason or another separating yourself from other gay people and to me that means you find something wrong with it.

And this statement implies a uniformity to being gay which supercedes individuality, that several people have pointed out may not even exist.

If someone openly admits to being gay then I am not sure how you say they are distancing themselves from being gay.

 

[G-Lexington]

Ha, you're lucky to have me, sugar, if I even agree to do the interview ^_^

Oh, no doubt. And if you decline, I'm sure I could find someone to read the questions the way I'd like them read.

Lex

 

[xbuzzerx]

Oh, no doubt. And if you decline, I'm sure I could find someone to read the questions the way I'd like them read.

Lex

Are you ready for your closeup?

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

And this statement implies a uniformity to being gay which supercedes individuality, that several people have pointed out may not even exist.

No, that is what you like to read.

If someone openly admits to being gay then I am not sure how you say they are distancing themselves from being gay.

By considering yourself straight acting, otherwise you'd just say you were gay and that is it.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Are you ready for your closeup?

I picture him in a cheesecake pose.

 

[xbuzzerx]

No, that is what you like to read.

By considering yourself straight acting, otherwise you'd just say you were gay and that is it.

Everytime you give yourself any descriptor of any sort you are "distancing" yourself from somebody else. You're distancing yourself from the general population when you say you're gay, and when you say you're male.

I asked you directly earlier in the thread if you would equate "trying to seem straight" with "not intentionally attempting to seem gay" and you said yes. So you have backtracked a bit on why you have a problem with it.

 

[aaggii]

Yeah, I'm over making arguments. It didn't work. Same as your "are we?" failed due to repetition. This one only works once. And no, not offended, more entertained at how quickly you went to exaggerated "gayness" to make a point.

But... but... saying you are straight acting IS being an asshole!

I had a 3rd ¨are we¨ but it felt a bit insulting so I decided not to use it. Some grammar rules can be broken, in special circumstances.

Exaggerated gayness? Really? Oh God, if you could read your post from another perspective, you could learn something. If straight=asshole is what you understand from this thread, I advise you - again and again - to re-read the thread.

 

[aaggii]

Because you are for one reason or another separating yourself from other gay people and to me that means you find something wrong with it.

Not at all. But we are different individuals, everybody has his own way of being, behaviour, way of acting around people, not by changing who they are, but actually showing who they are. You said it´s a problem with the name and now you go back to why such a concept exists. It´s a description, nothing else. Straight-acting implies, pretty much, being gay, so there is no separation from anything.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Everytime you give yourself any descriptor of any sort you are "distancing" yourself from somebody else. You're distancing yourself from the general population when you say you're gay, and when you say you're male.

Being gay and being male are a normal part of society, how are you distancing yourself from the general population when these things exists in it? This is not the same when you're gay, claiming that you have straight behaviors, when these behaviors aren't exclusive to straight males.

I asked you directly earlier in the thread if you would equate "trying to seem straight" with "not intentionally attempting to seem gay" and you said yes. So you have backtracked a bit on why you have a problem with it.

If "not intentionally attempting to seem gay" is "straight acting" then I am not back tracking.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Not at all. But we are different individuals, everybody has his own way of being, behaviour, way of acting around people, not by changing who they are, but actually showing who they are.

...lol. Then why are you adopting "straight behavior"? That is hardly an individual thing.

You said it´s a problem with the name and now you go back to why such a concept exists. It´s a description, nothing else. Straight-acting implies, pretty much, being gay, so there is no separation from anything.

Straight-acting doesn't imply being gay when Straight is the opposite of being Gay.

 

[xbuzzerx]

Being gay and being male are a normal part of society, how are you distancing yourself from the general population when these things exists in it? This is not the same when you're gay, claiming that you have straight behaviors, when these behaviors aren't exclusive to straight males.

I think you aren't grasping the point which is that there is no uniform "gay thing", you seem to agree with this, for people to fit in or out of. So why are you then saying someone is trying to distance themselves out of the "gay thing" (which you say doesn't exist) when they describe themselves in ANY way?

If "not intentionally attempting to seem gay" is "straight acting" then I am not back tracking.

The inherent implication from your answer is that someone who isn't making special efforts to match some kind of "gay seeming" (whatever that may be) is trying to fool people that they're straight.

Which of course, would not apply whatsoever in any case of someone openly stating that they are gay.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Being gay and being male are a normal part of society, how are you distancing yourself from the general population when these things exists in it? This is not the same when you're gay, claiming that you have straight behaviors, when these behaviors aren't exclusive to straight males.

It's NOT "normal" in ALL societies, and not all societies are quite so understanding and accepting.

If you live in a Metropolis, sure... but not if you happen to live in the sticks.

In some parts of the US being "straight acting" could very well save your life.

 

[aaggii]

...lol. Then why are you adopting "straight behavior"? That is hardly an individual thing.

Straight-acting doesn't imply being gay when Straight is the opposite of being Gay.

It´s not adopting anything, it´s describing who you are. Period. And straight-acting does imply being gay. You can´t have straight people telling others their behavior is straight. I still think that even explained, the term ¨acting¨ is misinterpreted, still.