POLL IT:- Straight-acting

[xbuzzerx]

buzzer buzzer, we're either conveying meaning in a limited space, or acknowledging it is pointless to try to say anything meaningful in so few words. If "I'm straight acting" is worth saying at all, I'm going to go with "it means something," and then try to figure out what it means. If it was pointless to say anything, people would just write "Bazooka penguin orange asphalt ladle. Call me."

The fact that they pick words they intend to be meaningful means we get to decide what they mean.

It has already been amply stated in two threads now that what the term means is that someone straight-acting sitting at a table eating their lunch is pretty unlikely to have people pick him out of a crowd and think he's gay.

However "bothersome" the concept is that people associate any number of factors or qualities into guessing at whether or not someone may be gay, everyone does it. Including gay people. Hence the term "gaydar."

 

[JayHawk]

buzzer buzzer, we're either conveying meaning in a limited space, or acknowledging it is pointless to try to say anything meaningful in so few words. If "I'm straight acting" is worth saying at all, I'm going to go with "it means something," and then try to figure out what it means. If it was pointless to say anything, people would just write "Bazooka penguin orange asphalt ladle. Call me."

The fact that they pick words they intend to be meaningful means we get to decide what they mean.

EXACTLY and they wanna fuck a dude that acts the way they expect a dude to act regardless of anyone else's definition. The easiest and simplest method to achieving that with limited description space is "Straight Acting" or "Masculine"

Hell Masculine is even a Grndr Group one may select to belong to like bears or twinks.

 

[TX-Beau]

Someone else asked me this as well. My answer was that I doubt I could put my hand on a holy book and take an oath that I'd never said it, but I certainly can't recall using it or having it come up in a discussion very often.

That said, I don't make heavy use of personal ads, dating sites or apps. However I do regard myself as the sole judge and jury of how I think of myself or what I choose to call myself... just as you are for yourself.

So you are arguing with phantoms? Call yourself Lucy and wear a sheepskin. Go for it. You can do whatever you want. Call yourself Klan and use the appropriate terminology - and no one can stop you, that is your prerogative, and YOUR consequences.

Period.

This next is GENERAL not SPECIFIC to you.

You can be an ass, that's your prerogative - but then don't whine like a little bitch when other people exert THEIR prerogatives.

 

[xbuzzerx]

So you are arguing with phantoms? Call yourself Lucy and wear a sheepskin. Go for it. You can do whatever you want. Call yourself Klan and use the appropriate terminology - and no one can stop you, that is your prerogative, and YOUR consequences.

Period.

This next is GENERAL not SPECIFIC to you.

You can be an ass, that's your prerogative - but then don't whine like a little bitch when other people exert THEIR prerogatives.

That's perfectly fine. You're free to judge or prejudge people any way you like and people do it everyday in every setting anyway, no matter how much this topic has engendered a myth that it somehow began with this term.

 

[TX-Beau]

Nah mostly I am just busting your balls because your so flustered over other people having a different opinion. More of that 'I am a better fag than you' bullshit that was in the other thread.

I swear people will make up anything to tell themselves they are superior.



nah I am not really into labels of any sort but I find emotion reactions to labels people choose just as ignorant.

Oh spare me that fucking flustered shit. The other side is the flustered and offended one. Mea Culpa I can be the shit stirrer, especially when us faggots get all full of our Nancy selves.

 

[TX-Beau]

That's perfectly fine. You're free to judge or prejudge people any way you like and people do it everyday in every setting anyway, no matter how much this topic has engendered a myth that it somehow began with this term.

Yeah, I'm too drink to really know what that means.

 

[JayHawk]

Oh spare me that fucking flustered shit. The other side is the flustered and offended one. Mea Culpa I can be the shit stirrer, especially when us faggots get all full of our Nancy selves.

LOL... see!

Here Quagmire sums up the entire argument:

 

[Kahaih]

The whole "self-conceptualizing" thing is overdone, I think.

If I wanted to explain myself to myself, I'd describe myself in a language I'd invent just for that purpose, that only I understood, and I'd write it down in a diary only I would read, and I'd never talk about it to anyone.

If I wanted to explain myself to any other human on the planet, I lose most of that control the minute a conversation begins. I have to take into account what words mean to others. I have to make myself intelligible to someone else. I can't just proclaim my own special meaning of words or say whatever "feels right for me." That isn't how conversation works. We inherit a language with meanings already in it. We can speak formally or casually. It isn't just about expressing our inner voice; it's about the skill with which we do it.

So from that, I realise when some people say they are "straight acting," they're just trying to describe something they observe about themselves in relation to others. I agree with JayHawk who said it wouldn't stop him from getting to know someone. But it still isn't a concept in a vacuum. It's a term with baggage that becomes obvious if you think about it for just a little bit. It doesn't seem like a very skillful self-description if you don't want people to misunderstand who you are. And there has to be a better word.

But, I would still keep a safe distance. If someone felt the need to use such a term, I'd be constantly wondering how far he would be willing to take his act. Wondering if he might have some sort of panic attack if he saw someone he knew and would freak out/become belligerent in a public situation. I've seen it happen.

 

[JayHawk]

But, I would still keep a safe distance. If someone felt the need to use such a term, I'd be constantly wondering how far he would be willing to take his act. Wondering if he might have some sort of panic attack if he saw someone he knew and would freak out/become belligerent in a public situation. I've seen it happen.

Yeah i have seen / been around guys who are still a bit freaked out or coming to terms with their sexuality. AT this point I wouldn't date someone in that state of emotional development but I would not hesitate to be their friend. So if that is what you mean by safe distance then I agree.

 

[TX-Beau]

LOL... see!

Here Quagmire sums up the entire argument:

OK that made me laugh.

 

[xbuzzerx]

Yeah i have seen / been around guys who are still a bit freaked out or coming to terms with their sexuality. AT this point I wouldn't date someone in that state of emotional development but I would not hesitate to be their friend. So if that is what you mean by safe distance then I agree.

Yup, or like "am discreet -- you be too", I always wonder if they mean a motel room or they have a wife or something.

 

[JayHawk]

OK that made me laugh.

 

[JayHawk]

Yup, or like "am discreet -- you be too", I always wonder if they mean a motel room or they have a wife or something.

THOSE are guys I avoid. If your cheating on your wife or your husband or your boytoy then to me your a fucking dirtbag. I know I have no need of that kind of person.

 

[eastofeden]

The perfect ad for me I think would be..."I want to fuck and I only want you for your body...I want to use you for sex and I want you to use me for sex and when we am done I want to leave."

I would respond immediately...my type of guy.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

The perfect ad for me I think would be..."I want to fuck and I only want you for your body...I want to use you for sex and I want you to use me for sex and when we am done I want to leave."

I would respond immediately...my type of guy.

then they complain on intenret 2 haaaaaaaaa

 

[Callum]

LOL! Only 28.77% seem to care to even object to the term.

 

[Adrock-JD]

After reading these posts and replies, I voted "I don't fully understand the term" because the poll is suggesting that half the people view it with a negative context while the other half doesn't.

To me, "straight acting" means masculine gay and that is all. I realize to a lot of you it means more, or something other than that. It has some very negative baggage attached. I've never viewed this term the same way I view "faggot" but I'm starting to see why some people might.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Oh spare me that fucking flustered shit. The other side is the flustered and offended one. Mea Culpa I can be the shit stirrer, especially when us faggots get all full of our Nancy selves.

Yeah, it is funny that one side gets called "flustered", "offended", "biased", not listening to other peoples opinions, when those people are guilty of this.

 

[G-Lexington]

Could somebody post some more hot gargoyles in here? I'm losing interest again.

Lex

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Make your own thread, stop hijacking.