"Slut shaming" gay men or men for that matter. Does it exists?

[refujiunderground]

Even if this were true that gay culture revolved around sex, doesn't mean people can't slut shame. You really have an odd view of how things are, it sounds like you are stuck in your head more than you actual go outside and learn to enjoy people for who and what they are.

Breh, you and some of these guys don't know what slut shaming is.

 

[TheLoveableLoner]

It's funny seeing so many people in here say that gay men can be slut shamed as if gay culture doesn't revolve around sex or it isn't expected and accepted for gay men to be premiscious or sexual.

Gay culture or gay media culture? There's a difference. Gay media will have you thinking every gay man is a fashionable, gym-going, polished White guy in his 20's or 30's, too.

We're also shamed by people outside of our "community."

 

[refujiunderground]

Gay culture or gay media culture? There's a difference. Gay media will have you thinking every gay man is a fashionable, gym-going, polished White guy in his 20's or 30's, too.

We're also shamed by people outside of our "community."

I think the shaming youre referring to is more of homophobia. Slut shaming is applies to females where they can't even express themselves sexually at all even to their husbands or talk about certain things without folks making crazy assumptions. Slut shaming doesn't have to do with actually being premiscious when in reference to women.

When gay men use the term, it's more of an admission of being premiscious which isn't the word is supposed to mean to begin with.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

Gay culture or gay media culture? There's a difference. Gay media will have you thinking every gay man is a fashionable, gym-going, polished White guy in his 20's or 30's, too.

We're also shamed by people outside of our "community."

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[jbrown329]

Amen.

Some of you guys are in dire need of a good fuck.

.........................

 

[Telstra]

Oh if you are talking people who take a lot of risk during play,
stay away from them as far as possible.

 

[refujiunderground]

You think that gay culture revolves around promiscuous sex, but you're wrong about this. It is some kind of obsession that you seem to have.

I think that a reasonable expectation is that any person should feel that they are free to have recreational sex with as many partners as they choose, as long as they play safe. It is also reasonable to expect that any person should not feel they have to have lots of casual sex or even sex at all if they don't want to.

What is unacceptable, to put it bluntly, is having people sit in some kind of judgement about what other adults choose to do. It is unacceptable to impose some personal emotionally based moral standard onto others' behaviour if that behaviour is consensual and legal.

I don't see why you are surprised that gay men are slut shamed. You do it relentlessly in post after post and thread after thread. Many homos are the same. Either because they are so emotionally fragile or damaged that they are unable to have any intimate, but casual sexual involvement with another person...or usually because they are bitter that they aren't getting nay action.

You seem to think that you have the only legitimate definition of what gay 'culture' is. This is a mistake that a lot of people make.

There is no doubt that with the sexual revolution of the 60's and 70's and the gay liberation movement through the 70's and 80's that it suddenly became acceptable to celebrate that homosexuals were, in fact, sexual beings.....and that we damned well enjoyed it. But at the same time, there was also the same kind of explosion of casual straight sex as well....in large part because women were free for the first time to openly celebrate and enjoy being sexual as well.

You may not like this. It may not fit your image of how people should behave, either based on your own religious code or from personal experience.

But this does not make you superior to anyone.

Gay men being slut shamed by who? Tell me. There's a difference between homophobia and slut shaming.

The only guys that are saying this shit that i see are the guys sleeping around and want others to give them approval or the guys seem preoccupied on sex where they are making themselves into objects of sexual objectification. I see more gay guys being virgin shamed if anything. Its expected for gay men to be sexual or slutty. It's like people get shocked if you aren't premiscious.

 

[Telstra]

I have never been to Grindr...but if I went there..I would totally appreciate the upfront and honest thing......

If you aren't into me...who cares? I see it as a complete non issue and I would silently thank them for not wasting my time...

I usually stay out of this argument (no fats/no femmes) when it comes up because I don't think there is any real issue...

Honesty is one thing, rude is another.
Are you dare to wear a T-shirt saying "No fats, No femms, No ugly, No old, No ... etc" ????

 

[eastofeden]

Honesty is one thing, rude is another.
Are you dare to wear a T-shirt saying "No fats, No femms, No ugly, No old, No ... etc" ????

I wouldn't wear it..nor would I write it in my profile if I had one...but I would tell someone if I was not attracted to them sexually...

Thing is....on the internet you have an anonymity that is not available face to face so you are right..alot of them wouldn't wear the t-shirt...but I am not so convinced it would be rude if they did. I think lying to a partner is rude...or lying to get laid even is rude....

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Breh, you and some of these guys don't know what slut shaming is.

Uh, I do. It is not a straight orientation specific term which you seem to think it is. You honestly think you know more than you do when it only shows you are only more ignorant about the world around you.

You clearly cannot open yourself to others ideas or opinions or you are not willing to. So what is even the point in talking to you?

You already have your mind made up and are not looking to discuss anything. You continually just look for approval in your opinions.

 

[Telstra]

I wouldn't wear it..nor would I write it in my profile if I had one...but I would tell someone if I was not attracted to them sexually...

Thing is....on the internet you have an anonymity that is not available face to face so you are right..alot of them wouldn't wear the t-shirt...but I am not so convinced it would be rude if they did. I think lying to a partner is rude...or lying to get laid even is rude....

So you are not willing to advertise (NO fats, No femms ... etc) but you agreed with someone who is doing it.
This is called [STRIKE]hypocrites[/STRIKE] or what is the name for this ?

 

[jbrown329]

When a guy that manages a smut hut brags about how many cocks he sucked that day, he's a slut.

 

[eastofeden]

So you are not willing to advertise (NO fats, No femms ... etc) but you agreed with someone who is doing it.
This is called hypocrites or what is the name for this ?

Why would I advertise it? I have no problem with fats or femmes or any race...

There is no word for it.

If that is who THEY are and are honest about it..I give them points for being honest...simple as that....

If I had a tshirt..it would read NO GAY REPUBLICANS....

 

[Telstra]

Why would I advertise it? I have no problem with fats or femmes or any race...

There is no word for it.

If that is who THEY are and are honest about it..I give them points for being honest...simple as that....

Come on, it is wrong to advertise "NO fat, No fem, No ... etc" and you know it.

 

[rareboy]

Gay men being slut shamed by who? Tell me. There's a difference between homophobia and slut shaming.

The only guys that are saying this shit that i see are the guys sleeping around and want others to give them approval or the guys seem preoccupied on sex where they are making themselves into objects of sexual objectification. I see more gay guys being virgin shamed if anything. Its expected for gay men to be sexual or slutty. It's like people get shocked if you aren't premiscious.

You just aren't getting it are you?

You are slut shaming. Every time you post another thread complaining about the guys who are out there getting laid.

You need to let this go. You complain about it endlessly in the venting thread and threads like this.

And it is Promiscuous. Not Permicious. Which is not actually a word.

 

[eastofeden]

Come on, it is wrong to advertise "NO fat, No fem, No ... etc" and you know it.

I don't really think it is wrong.....

It may be rude..I will give you that...but the truth is often rude...and it is better to understand that as soon as possible...makes life a lot easier...

I would be OK with someone telling me I was too ugly.....or too fat...or too old...I might even burst out laughing...I have had people in the gay bar tell me all kinds of nasty shit...and not much got under my skin....

Opinions are like assholes..everyone has one. I am not gonna fall apart or even get mad if someone rejects me for ANY reason....

 

[refujiunderground]

You just aren't getting it are you?

You are slut shaming. Every time you post another thread complaining about the guys who are out there getting laid.

You need to let this go. You complain about it endlessly in the venting thread and threads like this.

And it is Promiscuous. Not Permicious. Which is not actually a word.

You're desperate to look for a fight, aye?


For the record, your little comment about me having to get laid and being jealous of those that do doesn't apply to me. Nice try trying to virgin shame me. That would have been relevant a year ago.

 

[Telstra]

I don't really think it is wrong.....

It may be rude..I will give you that...but the truth is often rude...and it is better to understand that as soon as possible...makes life a lot easier...

I would be OK with someone telling me I was too ugly.....or too fat...or too old...I might even burst out laughing...I have had people in the gay bar tell me all kinds of nasty shit...and not much got under my skin....

Opinions are like assholes..everyone has one. I am not gonna fall apart or even get mad if someone rejects me for ANY reason....

I'm talking about Advertising. So it is not wrong to advertise "No fats, No fems, No ...etc" ?
Telling people face to face is a different matter.

 

[alphacentauri]

There's a difference between having a lot of sex partners, and jumping in bed with anything that moves. In this day and age when STDs run rampant, being easy isn't a good idea.

Personally, I'd rather have sex with a guy who I know, and care about. It would be hard to decline if the hottest guy came up to me and wanted to fool around... but since AIDS is a massive epidemic in SK, I wouldn't risk it.

Exactly. I have older bisexual and gay men as friends who were active/around in the 70s before HIV/AIDS was known about and during the height of the HIV/AIDS pandemic, and they said how nowadays it's not good to be promiscuous nowadays unless you want an STD.

It's not 'slut shaming', 'being a prude', or being 'sex negative' to say how this is true.

 

[alphacentauri]

Come on, it is wrong to advertise "NO fat, No fem, No ... etc" and you know it.

Everyone has their preference. Do you personally want to have sex with someone that's morbidly obese, or hyper effeminate to the point of almost being transgender? Or have people lie about how they are OK with having sex or dating someone they have no interest in?

If you do want to have sex with people like this that's cool but most bisexual and gay men, do not.