"Slut shaming" gay men or men for that matter. Does it exists?

[MorrisseyX]

If it was me..I would focus on what I DO like in my advertisement....

..but for all I know..maybe they tried that already with their advertisements and got a lot of guys who lied to them or bugged them or who acted all butthurt because you told them you weren't attracted to them....

One guy on here last week was telling us about lying on one of those sites to get laid..

..and instead of hearing a lecture and having guilt trips put on them or getting surprised by someone who lied to them...they decided to be blunt so they wouldn't have to deal with all that bullshit.

A lot of people handle rejection VERY BADLY....so it is better to put it out there BEFORE you find yourself in someone else's drama...

I think people take things too personally if someone is only into a certain type someone else is looking for something different. I think people with preferences are just being honest BUT I also think those people might think too highly of themselves. When I see someone with a long laundry list of what they want online I avoid them. Because I think some of them are projecting their insecurities on to the other person.

 

[alphacentauri]

I'm PROUD to be a Gay

I worked hard for that title!

Where are the smilies for laughing, facepalming, and rolling my eyes? If you're HIV+ since you like cum up your ass and barebacking are you proud about that like some gay men are?

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Let's give two scenarios.

Jim wants to wait until marriage to have sex.

Jerry gets to sleep with hot guys all the time and a new one each week.

Which one is more likely to be ridiculed and ostracized?

Let's be real. Having casual sex is the norm in the gay community while not having sex and not talking about sex is more "weird" or lame or abnormal or whatever you want to call it.

This all applies to the straight community as well. Some people are judgmental about not having sex and some are judgmental about casual sex or being a slut. Both need to get off their high horses and let people do what they want if they aren't hurting one another.

 

[Telstra]

So slut shaming is about morality issue.
My only moral is, do no harm.

So If you have hiv or any diseases, you must tell the partner before having sex.
And it is up to the partner to say yes or no.

 

[mbamike]

Where are the smilies for laughing, facepalming, and rolling my eyes? If you're HIV+ since you like cum up your ass and barebacking are you proud about that like some gay men are?

I play responsibly. So stop making assumption without knowing the facts.

I get tested every three months and take prEP. I have never had an STD and I'm HIV NEGATIVE.

 

[eastofeden]

Where are the smilies for laughing, facepalming, and rolling my eyes? If you're HIV+ since you like cum up your ass and barebacking are you proud about that like some gay men are?

Wow...

 

[eastofeden]

I think people take things too personally if someone is only into a certain type someone else is looking for something different. I think people with preferences are just being honest BUT I also think those people might think too highly of themselves. When I see someone with a long laundry list of what they want online I avoid them. Because I think some of them are projecting their insecurities on to the other person.

Oh man...if I was looking online and I saw someone who had that list..I would avoid them too. I respect and applaud that they are telling the truth..but the "truth" does say a lot about them that I don't like as well....

 

[Telstra]

I play responsibly. So stop making assumption without knowing the facts.

I get tested every three months and take prEP. I have never had an STD and I'm HIV NEGATIVE.

That is you and others are not you.
How come diseases spread if everyone is like you ?

 

[mbamike]

That is you and others are not you.
How come diseases spread if everyone is like you ?

Because everyone is NOT like me.

Guys say they are negative because they don't have any symptoms, but have never been tested or haven't been tested recently. If you are going to play, you must get tested regularly. Of course I'm excluding monogamous relationships.

Then there are the guys who are on meds, but don't take them as prescribed. To reach the highest efficacy, the meds must be taken everyday.

Again, everyone is not like me. I get tested every three months and take prEP everyday.

 

[rareboy]

So slut shaming is about morality issue.
My only moral is, do no harm.

So If you have hiv or any diseases, you must tell the partner before having sex.
And it is up to the partner to say yes or no.

This is pretty concise...and dead on.

The only moral imperative is to never knowingly do harm.

Play safe and be honest with your potential partners about your sexual health. (Or health generally).

Let them decide the degree of risk they will tolerate.

 

[Telstra]

This is pretty concise...and dead on.

The only moral imperative is to never knowingly do harm.

Play safe and be honest with your potential partners about your sexual health. (Or health generally).

Let them decide the degree of risk they will tolerate.

So that cheating or no cheating bullshit ... it is up to the cheater and his/her partner to decide and everyone else stays out of it.

 

[Kahaih]

Of course, if they (potential sluts) want to live in/be a part of a community/society, they can't possibly leave 'everyone else out of it'.

And, they (potential sluts) are not so special that they (potential sluts) should be the only people involved in deciding 'the degree of risk they will tolerate'.

Smoking/tobacco laws are made to protect communities/societies from shared health problems and the financial burden put on communities/societies by tobacco use. And rightly so, smokers are shamed for it.

Sluts that visit health facilities use up valuable time of healthcare professionals that could be treating people who try to be more careful with their health choices. Sluts who take expensive drugs drive up the prices of those drugs and the costs of healthcare, insurance, and taxes for the rest of the community/society. When slutty behaviour [involuntarily] involves a community/society, that community/society [footing at least part of the bill] has every right to judge and/or wag fingers.

 

[Telstra]

Of course, if they (potential sluts) want to live in/be a part of a community/society, they can't possibly leave 'everyone else out of it'.

And, they (potential sluts) are not so special that they (potential sluts) should be the only people involved in deciding 'the degree of risk they will tolerate'.

Smoking/tobacco laws are made to protect communities/societies from shared health problems and the financial burden put on communities/societies by tobacco use. And rightly so, smokers are shamed for it.

Sluts that visit health facilities use up valuable time of healthcare professionals that could be treating people who try to be more careful with their health choices. Sluts who take expensive drugs drive up the prices of those drugs and the costs of healthcare, insurance, and taxes for the rest of the community/society. When slutty behaviour [involuntarily] involves a community/society, that community/society [footing at least part of the bill] has every right to judge and/or wag fingers.

ummm you are talking about disease shaming then and not sex shaming.
Disable people (of any sort) are "sluts" too then because they took out a lot of community/society re-sources ...

 

[Kahaih]

ummm you are talking about disease shaming then and not sex shaming.
Disable people (of any sort) are "sluts" too then because they took out a lot of community/society re-sources ...

Of course you are wrong, but you are known for your selfish ways, and you are not intelligent or honest enough for me to bother with.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Sluts that visit health facilities use up valuable time of healthcare professionals that could be treating people who try to be more careful with their health choices. Sluts who take expensive drugs drive up the prices of those drugs and the costs of healthcare, insurance, and taxes for the rest of the community/society. When slutty behaviour [involuntarily] involves a community/society, that community/society [footing at least part of the bill] has every right to judge and/or wag fingers.

Why are people saying being a "slut" is synonymous with being diseased? You realize that it only takes one time to get an infection for something, right? It doesn't take sleeping around and it's already been stated that people do practice safe sex. Again, this all sounds like peoples moral agendas.

 

[TheLoveableLoner]

ANYONE who is sexually active should be seeking healthcare services for their sexual health, not just "sluts." I really can't with these comments.

 

[Kahaih]

Why are people saying being a "slut" is synonymous with being diseased? You realize that it only takes one time to get an infection for something, right? It doesn't take sleeping around and it's already been stated that people do practice safe sex. Again, this all sounds like peoples moral agendas.

Are you really that dense?

People who have been pro slutty behaviour have been using 'getting tested', 'visiting clinics', and 'popping pills' beforehand to 'keep them safe/clean' as their 'get out of shame free' card all the way through this thread.

This is all about health and risky behaviour.

 

[Kahaih]

ANYONE who is sexually active should be seeking healthcare services for their sexual health, not just "sluts." I really can't with these comments.

Of course you can't.

Because, post #114 applies to you as well.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Are you really that dense?

No, I am not. You are the one being dense.

People who have been pro slutty behaviour have been using 'getting tested', 'visiting clinics', and 'popping pills' beforehand to 'keep them safe/clean' as their 'get out of shame free' care all the way through this thread.

This is all about health and risky behaviour.

If you think what people have been saying has been a "get out of shame free card", then you have a reading comprehension problem. First of all people shouldn't be shaming anyone because there is no reason to do that unless you're a dick, which it seems like plenty of people are. If your concern is being healthy and risky behavior then you would be leaving your judgments and misinformation at the door.

Ignoring that people who have casual sex practice safe sex is what you're doing, ignoring the fact that it only takes one time to get infected when it comes to not practicing safe sex is what you're doing. Implying that people who practice "slutty behavior" are the only ones who get tested is what you're doing. What you are doing has nothing to do with the well being of other people, it is to thrown down judgment, again because if that was your concern you wouldn't be doing any of these things.

 

[Telstra]

Of course you are wrong, but you are known for your selfish ways, and you are not intelligent or honest enough for me to bother with.

Since you have such a high standard of "morality".
I'm curious, do you believe in god ? and what makes other people not calling you a slut as well ?