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Straight white couple adopting a black kid, your thoughts?

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Relatives plan to adopt a black kid. Their families are all white as far as I know and I'm not sure if they have any black friends. The kid will grow up in a small town, probably mainly white population.

Your thoughts? Good idea, bad idea? :confused: I'm a bit "nervous" thinking about it, for the well-being of the child, as I know what it is like to grow up as a gay man in a family that was never confronted with homosexuality.
 
Paws said:
Relatives plan to adopt a black kid. Their families are all white as far as I know and I'm not sure if they have any black friends. The kid will grow up in a small town, probably mainly white population.

Your thoughts? Good idea, bad idea? :confused: I'm a bit "nervous" thinking about it, for the well-being of the child, as I know what it is like to grow up as a gay man in a family that was never confronted with homosexuality.
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:confused: Umm I don't see the connection. There's nothing wrong with a "white" couple adopting a "black" child. What harm will this cause?
 
Maybe I'm one of the few who desires a "colorblind" society.

See nothing wrong with this.

Any couple who wants to offer love, a home, and a future to a child is a good couple in my book.
 
I could care less if you want to adopt a Korean baby and your Spanish so what, who cares?

I would rather see the kid in a happy healthy home then spending his life in a shelter and being kicked out as soon the kid hits 18.
 
As other have said, as long as he grows up in a good home, it doesn't matter if the family is black, blue, green or white. The only thing I see happening is him possibly getting teased in grade school (kids are mean) about him having a white family (mostly the black kids).
 
There was a fad amongst trendy wealthy upper-middle-class families in Australia to adopt a little Aboriginal baby in the 70s and 80s.

I will generalise and say most of the kids moved out of those families as soon as they could.
 
Anyway. What are the options?



This -of course- has almost nothing to do with the topic, except that I posted it for the LULZ just like the OP.
 
The most important issue is not what color somebody happens to be. It is that the child has a loving environment with parents who raise him properly.
 
Sure, there's no problem about the white couple being good parents to a black child. But what about the other population?

I'm more concerned if the couple is aware what it means to encounter racism (maybe not daily but still every so often), and if they can prepare the child for the world that awaits it in that case. Even if they parents "calm down" the child, it will still have to deal with that problem on its own if it doesn't have black (...Asian or whatever) friends to talk about it.

I think if you're affected by a disadvantage/problem/illness/whatever yourself instead of knowing it from third-parties, you can give better tips to others :/
 
I think I understand your concerns. A white family may not be able to prepare him for the world when it comes to his race and how to approach life when his race is an issue. I agree in that it will not be easy and may be a bridge the kid will have to cross when he gets to it. But when it comes down to it, every kid should be adopted and it'd be great if their skin color didn't affect that. I'm sure the parents will still care for the kid, so that's all that really matters. They just may have to work a little harder to prepare the child for the outside world (for a little balance).
 
"Black children belong with black families." quote from Different Strokes, which I can't forget to this day (I watched it in re-runs this past decade, really)

...Yeah, I disagree with this quote. The color of the skin doesn't matter. The only thing I could hope is that the child gets some cultural foundation from the parents, because being African American is a big part of some of the adversity they'll face in life, only because we're not post-racial yet, not like Star Trek was. ;)
 
Why is this even a question?

I know a number of people who have adopted children of different races.

It is all about having love to share.
 
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Paws said:
Relatives plan to adopt a black kid. Their families are all white as far as I know and I'm not sure if they have any black friends. The kid will grow up in a small town, probably mainly white population.

Your thoughts? Good idea, bad idea? :confused: I'm a bit "nervous" thinking about it, for the well-being of the child, as I know what it is like to grow up as a gay man in a family that was never confronted with homosexuality.
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In this case, I'm generally worried that maybe other people won't accept the child. I also do think that parents, when adopting a child of any culture, have a responsibility to instill in them the child's own "culture" partially as well. I would ask "why they chose a black child", but, either way, I appreciate your relatives being opened minded and adopting outside of just their own race.
 
If the kid is going to be bullied, he will be bullied regardless of his family. I think it would be better for him to be in a loving family that can help him through the bullying, rather than him joining a gang or doing something stupid. Tis' true with all kids, the color of their skin is negligible. Some kids are mean and will bully kids for anything they can.
 
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The statistics for adoption are nothing less than spectacular. From higher college graduation rates to higher career salaries. With adoption, the parents want to parent. Kudos and a big thumbs up to your relatives. Black, while, polka dot, the new son or daughter will love your relatives.

This is the exact opposite of the carelessness of having kids out of wedlock. This is selfless and this is taking on responsibilities.
 
No one is born with a culture. There is no culture gene. The kid is entitled to the parents who will have him.
 
Lostlover said:
The statistics for adoption are nothing less than spectacular. From higher college graduation rates to higher career salaries. With adoption, the parents want to parent. Kudos and a big thumbs up to your relatives. Black, while, polka dot, the new son or daughter will love your relatives.

This is the exact opposite of the carelessness of having kids out of wedlock. This is selfless and this is taking on responsibilities.
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