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Undying love for my best friend...please read(long

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Well bri, I don't think you're straight but I will tell you that you will find someone, whether its in Vegas or NYC. You're a passionate and loving guy. You'll be turning guys away. Keep your chin up bro. (*8*) :kiss:

Joe.
 
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Do you ever want to say, "There are no rights girls?"

I actually did say "BS" to someone once when she said there's someone for everyone. More commonly I say, yeah, somewhere on this planet is the perfect one, among seven billion -- and I'm more likely to win the lottery.

But... you've already won it, with Andy. Which makes me want to ask again: what if he decided he did love you, and wanted you to share him with his gal?
 
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Wow!

I didn't realize you were starting to think seriously about staying with Matt!
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Damn! you are one lucky guy! You've got yourself the best friend anybody could ever ask for AND a boyfriend!!!!!
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Good for you, buddy!!

Brian....where do you see yourself in 3 - 5 years?
Tell yourself a little fairy tale (...no, not that kind!) You get to write the story....you get to write the perfect happy ending.

So.....how does it end? Do you end up with Andy?....with Matt?....with BOTH the guys?
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KUL-interesting question.

I fully believe he will never ever leave his girl even he was bi/gay. EVER.
Secondly, I would have something on the side with him if he wanted, because thats the only way I see it happening.

And thirdly..say he did leave his girl.. lot of stress there..what would he say to mom or dad or friends back home???? No way he would live in a gay relationship just even based on them. Plus is he broke up with her just to be with me..Im sure the strain and stress and feelings of guilt on his part would ruin the relationship and probably friendship...So its hard..I want him so badly..yet In a way, rationally..I know it might ruin things.
 
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My ultimate fairy tale ending...I end up with my buddy and we have a great relationship, away from anyone that would judge us..or know of us.

I mean, after all..this is the reason why I started the thread...My undying love for my buddy.

I dont know what Id call Matt..My bro certainly thinks hes my BF and he refers to Matt as such...I do know... I have feelings for him. But, I dont know.
 
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LostVegas said:
KUL-interesting question.

Secondly, I would have something on the side with him if he wanted, because thats the only way I see it happening.
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That's why I asked -- it's the only way I see anything happening between you two. And I also have trouble seeing you not going through this pain over and over, any other way.
Of course the question is whether that's where he's at, and could he live that way, and could she -- because no way is it right for him to have you on the side without her permission.
 
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You'll find out for sure in August. The intensity of the relationship you've built up...when you two see each other in person for the first time again...what he'd do now and what he's do when it comes time for you to get back on that plane may very well be two different things!
 
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It took 2 days, but I finally finished this thread.

Brian, I think you are very courageous to take the leaps that you have in the last little while.

Throughout reading this epic, I have come to think that as much as the members of this board know about your life right know, we know only a brief and small portion of your life. As such, I feel that sometimes our judgements may have been misguided.

Essentially, the hope is that Joy becomes the result of your story. I believe that you have overcome much more than you will ever know, and you are stronger than even you realize.

I believe that Pain was created so that we could fully realize Joy. You seem to be very in touch with your emotions. That is a blessing and a curse.

I'm not going to judge the situation. I don't feel that is necessary or just, as anyone who has read this entire story will feel that they have a vested interest in your outcome.

I do however ask you to think about one thing. Would ANY friend that has your best interests in mind ask you to choose between your friendship with them and your friendship with someone else? Especially when that someone is your best friend, and the other is your romantic interest?

As much as I want to say more, that is all I feel appropriate.

Good Luck and Best Wishes!

Nate
 
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Brian, I think you are very courageous to take the leaps that you have in the last little while.
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Here! Here! Amen, brother!
Let's hear it for Brian!
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Essentially, the hope is that Joy becomes the result of your story. I believe that you have overcome much more than you will ever know, and you are stronger than even you realize.
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Ditto!

Great post, Elworth. Welcome to this thread!

Jake
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For sure.

I've got some of this (UU) for Brian and for Andy (UU) if they ever get out Oregon way!

Some of this, too: (*8*) (*8*)

And even some: --%-- --%-- --%--
 
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Brian...

How's it going, guy?

Any updates?
 
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Hey guys back with a small update...


Has been a tough two days. :mad:

My buddy and I have been speaking.

Two nights ago we had a talk and once again we talked about whats more important for me right now..staying in NYC or going out there with him.


I broke down and told him what I had been feeling lately. I told him Im scared of meeting someone and for making it out there in Vegas....to sum it up I told him..I want to stay in NYC for now.

He got extremely depressed and starting getting an anxiety attack while I was on the phone with him. I calmed him down and we stayed on for a while and then it was time for me to go to work. He said he just wants me him and his girl to have more good times out there together. So I told him we would speak later.

I felt bad about what I said to him..I mean I love him..I want to be near him and have him by me.

I called him up later that day. He said its funny that I called because he was just thinking about me before I called. He was listening to the TV and I told him to lower it so I could speak and he goes bro Ill shut it off.

I broke down and told him I love him and respect him a lot, hes the best thing that happened to me in my life..and I want my plans with him to be alive. I want to live near him, own a house with him and open up a business with him, live happy with him by my side and share many more great memories.

He felt bad saying that he doesnt want to be the reason I break up with Matt,and he said he feels bad.

I told him I felt bad too. I told him I have feelings for Matt and it is going to be hard leaving. I told him I dont know when I will be leaving, even when Im not with Matt because my financial issues are a concern.

I said if this is how it is going to go..then I need to tell Matt soon, because it is unfair to lead him along thinking that we are going to have something here...when I know full well my heart and my intentions are out in Vegas...My buddy said he doesnt know how to feel...he was shocked by what I was saying and happy.

He heard some people talking in the background on my call and asked who they were. I said Im at a bowling alley and Im meeting Matt here to play bowling..he sounded bothered by that a little.

I told him I will call him later..I called him later and he said "you couldn't talk because Matt was there right?"...I told him for some reason I feel down and he said why? I go I dont know..and he goes "tell me the truth Bri, you want to stay there right??" I go no its not that.

JUB'ers my heart began to fall for my buddy again...I told him Id call him later that night..He called me at 3 in the morning.

He told me about this poker tournament that he signed up for and if he gets 50 hours of play he gets entered into it and could win money..He said anything he wins the first thing he is doing is giving me half of it so I could come out there to Vegas.

Ii sort of got bothered by the fact that he was gambling at this point in his life with everything that is going on...He said that he hasnt been using much money to gamble...but I told him its not the money its the frame of mind you are in..you are not in a good ming to be gambling because if you lose, it will make you feel much worse.

He said he wants to know what is bothering me.I said nevermind buddy, it is something that will pass. He said I hate when you do this, you mention something and dont talk about it any further. He said you told me you were gay and that you had a crush on me..so what is it? What could it possibly be..I just told him that money was tight with now..he goes "BULLSHIT!" Thats not what you want to tell me...and I sort of just let it go..he said he wanted to go because his back hurt..and we have not talked since. Im sure we will tonight.

Im bothered when he tells me he is gambling :grrr: . And I know him like a book..I know hes gambling a lot more than he lets on and I know hes lying to me :^o ..He said his girl doesnt know about it..

I dont know :confused: ..I will update more soon..Brian
 
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Hey Bri I think you should do what's in your heart. You seem like a smart kind and loving kind of guy. I think you and your buddy need some private time together to talk. I think deep down your buddy have some feelings more than a brotherly kind of love. Even if it doesn't turn out for you 2 to become a couple. I think some kind of twisted way you are a couple. Just in a confusing relationship
 
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Cumluv...I tend to agree with your statement..that in an odd way..we are kind of like a couple already..just without some of the obvious things. But yeah, I definitely agree with that.

PS.-Way to go Taylor Hicks!!!! American Idol 2006.
 
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Thanks for the update, buddy!

ya know, I was thinking about this the other day...I mean the deal with Matt...
I said if this is how it is going to go..then I need to tell Matt soon, because it is unfair to lead him along thinking that we are going to have something here...when I know full well my heart and my intentions are out in Vegas...
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Good on you, Brian. Good on you.
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It's always best to be upfront with people, especially with people who have feelings for you. I was seeing a guy once, kinda fell for him. He got a work assignment in Tel Aviv. I went nearly half way around the world to see him, and after I'd been there a week he told me he'd decided to get back with his ex. Lemme tell ya, it was a looooong lonely trip home.
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Have you and Matt actually talked about your relationship and where it's going? Do you know what he feels for you?


He said he wants to know what is bothering me. I said nevermind buddy, it is something that will pass. He said I hate when you do this, you mention something and dont talk about it any further. He said you told me you were gay and that you had a crush on me..so what is it? What could it possibly be..I just told him that money was tight with now..he goes "BULLSHIT!" Thats not what you want to tell me...and I sort of just let it go..
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So, is Andy right? Was it BS? Can he read you like a book, too?
Don't be afraid to tell Andy what's really bothering you. Don't be afraid to be upfront with him.

He's right, you know. You told him you're gay (remember how tough that was?), you told him about the "crush" (was that one any easier?). Remember how relieved you felt after you told him?

Don't carry a burden you don't have to carry. Andy is always there for you. You can tell Andy anything. And remember, he loves you...he LOVES you, man!...he cares about you and your life. Andy's not going anywhere. Most straight guys would freak if their best friend told them "I'm gay." I wish I had someone to care about me the Andy cares about you.

damn! I still think you're one of the luckiest guys on earth!

OK, I gotta go eat 5 scoops of ice cream and then go to bed.

See ya! Keep us posted!

Jake
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I tend to agree with your statement..that in an odd way..we are kind of like a couple already..just without some of the obvious things.
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Celibate lovers?
 
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"So, is Andy right? Was it BS? Can he read you like a book, too?"

Me and my buddy read each other so well, it is scary. And I really mean scary..Yesterday he told me that we are an extension of each other..in many ways the same..and in many ways different, but a huge part of each other. (*8*) And YES, it was BS...I mean I am low on funds but THAT wasnt the reason or the thingthat I wanted to talk to him about.

Hey what ice cream you eating???? You try the slow churned one yet? Half the calories an fat ..| lol..no I dont work for Edys lol

Talk to you all soon. #-o
 
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Hey what ice cream you eating???? You try the slow churned one yet? Half the calories an fat lol..no I dont work for Edys lol
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Blue Bunny's "Bunny Tracks".

And yeah, my profile is accurate. I really do weigh 155.

Maybe I'm one of the luckiest guys on earth! LOL
 
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No didnt mean the calories and fat thing as a reference to you..just saying in general...sorry if you thought otherwise my friend. (*8*) Brian


BTW Hot gallery... *|*
 
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